Two bi males in a gender specific open relationship

[SeekingSimilar24]

As I struggle to maintain my current relationship which is having the same exact problems I have had with all my relationships with females (very long and complex series of issues), I have been pondering why I don't see more bi males starting relationships that are open to females? To me it makes sense but is extremely rare from my experiences. The biggest issue is the number of bisexual males who are closeted or already in relationships (marriages). It is considered kinky or deviant even by most bisexuals to have a relationship with the same sex but... I think I might want that.

Are there any bi-males in this kind of relationship? Does it work out at all?

Seriously, all my experiences with guys that have lasted any time at all have been gay guys who take offense to my being bisexual or closeted bisexuals who dump me rather then come out of the closet. This question has been bothering me a lot lately.

[lizard-lix]

I did it as a kid during my growing up years.

I was with the same guy for 7 years. But we were never exclusive, we were always on the lookout for other guys or girls to bring in. (as a note, we got guys to join us and had a few 5 guy circle sucks that were great, but never got a girl to be with more than one of us at a time).

Looking back it was a pretty perfect arrangement, we were always there for each other (espceially for a quick BJ when the other struck out on a date :bigrin: But never jealous, never a problem... But we were quite young, started at 11 went to 18 and split when we headed to different colleges.. It did make that awkward age a lot easier!

[pepperjack]

As I struggle to maintain my current relationship which is having the same exact problems I have had with all my relationships with females (very long and complex series of issues), I have been pondering why I don't see more bi males starting relationships that are open to females? To me it makes sense but is extremely rare from my experiences. The biggest issue is the number of bisexual males who are closeted or already in relationships (marriages). It is considered kinky or deviant even by most bisexuals to have a relationship with the same sex but... I think I might want that.

Are there any bi-males in this kind of relationship? Does it work out at all?

Seriously, all my experiences with guys that have lasted any time at all have been gay guys who take offense to my being bisexual or closeted bisexuals who dump me rather then come out of the closet. This question has been bothering me a lot lately. Pretty much my dilemma! Once had a partying buddy who came onto me sexually one nite (after I admitted I was bi) right on the heels of proposing to his girlfriend the same evening; I wanted to discuss it 1st; he wanted to go to the bedroom rite away; turned him down, sent him home; he was severely pissed & in order to protect his image in the company where we both worked, he started the rumour I was gay & came onto him; he came up smelling like a rose because he was engaged to a woman and I was presumed guilty because I was unattached at the time; ugly,stressful scene for me. Encountered a flurry of activity on another site tonite after just checking my e-mail; very spirited, horny IM's & e-mails w/several other males spontaneously. One was a guy I had been with & who I've recognized on several other sites; blatant liar! He keeps coming after me on these sites not realizing who I am! Another was seriously pursuing me until I questioned his marital status; tipped off by the words "need to be discrete". It's a seriously gray, murky, deceitful sub-culture we exist in.:2cents: