How did your first bi experience happen

[ganude]

My first wife and I stared visiting a nudist resort where we got involved in swinging. One day while having sex and talking about our latest adventures she told me she wanted to watch me suck cock.Once I agreed she called a bi man we had met and invited him over right then. I enjoyed it and have ever.since.Any others start by your wife asking you to for her pleasure.

[keefer201]

Mine started with my friend Jimmy at thirteen. I guess we got curious from looking at all them Playboy centerfolds in Mr. Bicknell's shed. LOL

[darkeyes]

Mine started with my friend Jimmy at thirteen. I guess we got curious from looking at all them Playboy centerfolds in Mr. Bicknell's shed. LOL

That me luffly, was a homosexual encounter not a bisexual one. It was no more bisexual that had little Jimmy been a girl. A bisexual experience is a quite different thing. It may have opened ur eyes to your true calling, or occurred because of it, but it was not a bisexual experience. Most bisexuals have far fewer bisexual experiences than they realise, for unless there are at least three people involved of two different genders it was not a bisexual experience and even then, for it to be, you have to involve yourself sexually in some way with the bodies of both genders present or they with yours.

A small point, trivial, and pedantic maybe, but accurate... but whatever kind of experiences u may have or have had.. the main thing is that u enjoy them..

[keefer201]

Fair enough. Make me ambisexual then. Man, this can get confusing. lol

[cornholejoe]

my first was with a married couple in a threesome while i was fucking her she was sucking him and then he moved his dick to my mouth and she said lets see you suck him and i did and later on i gave him a buttfucking while she did me with a strapon and from then on i have enjoyed both men and women

[jackbirdjay]

Mine was when I was 20 years old. Always wanted to try sucking. Met a guy in his 50's at a adult drive-in. Went to his car and sucked him my first cock. I have had a couple of gf's that loved watching me with other guys, but most are not in to it

[Darkside2009]

My first wife and I stared visiting a nudist resort where we got involved in swinging. One day while having sex and talking about our latest adventures she told me she wanted to watch me suck cock.Once I agreed she called a bi man we had met and invited him over right then. I enjoyed it and have ever.since.Any others start by your wife asking you to for her pleasure.

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Hasn't anyone ever told you it was rude to stare? :rolleyes:

[Realist]

Fran has ensured that I would be very specific!

I, too, have discussed my "bisexual" relationships, when most of them were with one gender, or another. So, I guess they were not bisexual encounters, but sexual ones!

I have always been attracted to both genders, but (according to Miss Teacher of the Year) have only had one successful bisexual relationship.

I lived with a married couple for over a year. That began when I was invited by an older married couple, to live with them, when I was in the Army.

It was, and remains to be, one of my premier relationships, ever.

I entered into another bisexual relationship, with a different married couple after that, but jealousy ruined that one, quickly. The husband, who invited me to join them, was afraid that his wife was too involved, so he ended it.

I'm not sure how to describe the next relationship...I lived with two girls for two years. One was bisexual and one was gay.

All of these occurred when I was in my 20s.

[darkeyes]

Fran has ensured that I would be very specific!

I, too, have discussed my "bisexual" relationships, when most of them were with one gender, or another. So, I guess they were not bisexual encounters, but sexual ones!

I have always been attracted to both genders, but (according to Miss Teacher of the Year) have only had one successful bisexual relationship.

I lived with a married couple for over a year. That began when I was invited by an older married couple, to live with them, when I was in the Army.

It was, and remains to be, one of my premier relationships, ever.

I entered into another bisexual relationship, with a different married couple after that, but jealousy ruined that one, quickly. The husband, who invited me to join them, was afraid that his wife was too involved, so he ended it.

I'm not sure how to describe the next relationship...I lived with two girls for two years. One was bisexual and one was gay.

All of these occurred when I was in my 20s.

Away ya daft ole bugga... wot mattas isnt wetha its a gay encounter or a bisexual 1... wos just in 1a me periodically prosaic spoilin' moods... but didya hav fun an did it sendya inta heavenly raptures????:tong:;)

[12voltman59]

Other than being in the same room/bed with two young ladies MANY years ago who were "doing each other" I have not had a true bisexual experience and may not ever have one since for me----my bisexuality is expressed by liking and having sex with both women and men---but not necessarily at the same time--does that make me a good and true bisexual or not??

What are the "rules" when it comes to being a bisexual?

[Realist]

Yes Ma'm, Miss Fran, I did have a marvelous time!

I admit that I was very much in love with both the husband and the wife, during that first BISEXUAL relationship! I've often thought that, if it had been possible for us to be together, always, I would have been happy, always.

The two girls? Well, if I had stayed in that relationship, I would have probably never made it to my 30th birthday!

Yes, the younger one, who was supposedly gay, also became a lover, near the end of our two-year relationship. I was her first male lover and I'm here to tell you that few men I've known could keep two women satisfied on a continuous basis! If they had not been lovers, too, they surely would have killed me!

Ah youth, how quickly you escaped me!!

[wetnude]

My first experience was about four or five years ago at a remote nude bathing area. I saw another nude man masturbating. I was fascinated watching him stroking himself. He asked me to sit next to him. I got a semi hard cock watching,and he just reached over and touched it.I did not stop him, so he got bolder and fondled me until I was hard then he masturbated me. He pulled my fore skin all the way back,and it felt good. Did i mention the pre cum? It was starting to drip from mynpiss hole in globs. I enjoyed it all so much,that I reached over and held my first bi mans cock in my fist...which I then masturbated. It felt nice in my hand,firm,wet,throbbing,full of life.It just went on from there, a new experience had been given to me and I liked it.I had never done anything with another guy before and felt guilty afterwards as I am a married man.

I must be weak or just into sensual pleasures, because since then I have been looking for other experiences. To myself I admit I am bi and its my personal pleasure seeking that makes me do stuff with other men.If women want to try me out,then that would be the cherry on the cake.

[lizard-lix]

Well never I guess.. I've been having sex with guys since I was 11 (best friend: would ya? never! OK let's. Yum, this is good!) and with girls since 14 (she had experience, wanted to get laid, and I was there).

But that doesn't count according to DarkEyes since I was with guys and girls, but the only times it was both at once, it was a str8 MMF 2-on-1 threesome, I never laid a finger or tongue on him (what a waste!).

I'm crushed, here I thought I was bisexual, but I guess I'm str8 or gay :bigrin:

[darkeyes]

Well never I guess.. I've been having sex with guys since I was 11 (best friend: would ya? never! OK let's. Yum, this is good!) and with girls since 14 (she had experience, wanted to get laid, and I was there).

But that doesn't count according to DarkEyes since I was with guys and girls, but the only times it was both at once, it was a str8 MMF 2-on-1 threesome, I never laid a finger or tongue on him (what a waste!).

I'm crushed, here I thought I was bisexual, but I guess I'm str8 or gay :bigrin:

Dont u worry ya pwetty wittle head, liz... methinks ya bisexuality is assured...:)

[æonpax]

Mine happened in high school. That's all I can say, I guess.
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[Rhevan]

Mine happened at the age of 16 with my best friend and her boyfriend. I was a total virgin prior to imbibing some of my parents alcohol while they were on holiday. We all were a bit tipsy and were playing "Truth or Dare", suddenly her boyfriend dared her to go down on me. Before long it was just all of us and enjoyable. My best friend is straight and to this day has never had another encounter quite like that one, all these years later she still reminisces when we are out drinking.

[SeekingSimilar24]

I have had years of knowing I was bisexual and lusting after male and female friends during puberty and even dated men and women through college, but I would have to consider my first definitive "bisexual" experience to be this:

Mine happened with a random couple I met while looking at bisexual relationship books in a B&N. We started talking awkwardly and soon they simply rushed things into a swapping of phone numbers and email addresses. Later we started chatting online, she and he suggested I come over to drink a bit; I did. We started by playing a combination of strip poker and truth or dare. (king, queen (them) and me, jack) It escalated quickly and I was in in their bedroom with them, he started having sex with her while sucking me off then offered to let me have my way with her while sucking him off. Eventually he started massaging me while I was with her and rubbing his cock against my ass... he started asking something quietly but seemed like he was holding it back, so I grabbed him and stopped with her while guiding him.

After a little while adjusting and some mild awkwardness he was doing her through me and to this day that is the defining experience for me. Sadly their relationship didn't last much more then a year after that and they both used me as their counselor and confidant while the whole thing fell apart... that I didn't enjoy at all... since them I have been pickier about couples I get involved with, but sometimes those things are unavoidable. :-(

Since then I have had similar experiences, but I look back on that one as my first real and fondest experience.

[lizard-lix]

Dont u worry ya pwetty wittle head, liz... methinks ya bisexuality is assured...:)

awww thanks, whew! I feel much better (and queerer) now :bigrin:

[tomishere]

I had a friend when I was 13, we used to jerk each other off, every day for a whole summer. This may be shallow but he was really big, it just turned me on so much I couldn't stay away. We didn't go down on each other because "that would be queer"

[bzk89]

went to the beach with one of my sisters friends, took a couple shots of vodka, got in the water, went to the car to change and that's where it all started haha

[Sensualhunter]

Well I guess this is more a gay exp. according to Darkeyes, but I had always thought of it as bisexual since I am so much more into women then men ;)

A Jr High school friend slept over. We slept in the same bed and one night, out of the blue, he asked if he could suck my cock. i can't remember if I hesitated, LOL, but I did not hesitate long and he did me several times after that.

I did have several MFF exp's with my ex, which were usually very enjoyable! And then there were a couple more MM play dates ;)

[CuriousInChicago]

i met a couple for a mfm 3some. When we got back to their room they told me they were heteroflexible, meaning if the guy was into it/ok with it they liked to enjoy oral. I'd have a few so i agreed even though up to then i had not done it with the closest being holding the hands of the husband while I ate his wife and he made out with her. Soon as he dropped his pants I was in shock at his fat 8 inches and I immediately reached out when I realized he was already groping mine. Minutes later he's sucking me. Then after he'd had his wife and left us for a lil alone time he came back and put his cock between the two of us and we shared it. Quite the feeling to be getting a mouthful while trying to remeber to stroke.

[bi4asplay]

My first wife and I stared visiting a nudist resort where we got involved in swinging. One day while having sex and talking about our latest adventures she told me she wanted to watch me suck cock.Once I agreed she called a bi man we had met and invited him over right then. I enjoyed it and have ever.since.Any others start by your wife asking you to for her pleasure.

I have posted this in other threads, and will not go into great detail here. My late wife on her 22 BD over a long weekend set things up with 3 other couples. I had never even thought of sex with another man. Long story short. I sucked every one of the guys many times and was fucked by them all ,more that once. After that weekend is was on. At least once a month for the next ten years.

[scapegoat1987]

My first bi experience was when the doctor slapped my bottom and I cried. My entire life has been a bi experience.

[txstar73]

My first time, is I was horny and was off that day. My GF was at work. I was looking at Craigslist. There was an ad from a man near me looking to give a BJ, and I thought I was horny, what the hell. I answered the ad, and the guy came over and gave me a BJ, licked my balls and played with me. It was great, and I let him suck me, until I came inside his mouth and he swallowed every bit. We did this a few more times since that, I really love my cock and balls being played with.

[NjbiGuy01]

I was in a home servicing a womans TV in the mid 70's when these things were repaired and sometimes in the home. The woman propositioned me and we fucked around. I had to take her TV back to the shop to fix it. When it was done, I returned and installed the chassis and put it back together. She asked if I wanted to stay for dinner, since it was late in the afternoon. I agreed, and we went to her bedroom afterwards and showered and got in bed. As we were fucking, her husband comes home ! She assures me "it's ok honey, we're swingers and I told him about you.". He enters the bedroom and hops in the shower , walking right past the bed where his wife and I are playing....he comes out, steps up to the bed and says " if you want to keep tapping my wife, you'll need to take care of this...". He presents us with a healthy 8" cock which she says "suck it with me baby"...holy crap ! Thankfully I had some bi experience before and we suck him together to completion. He eventually fucked us both, and we called it a night. They invited me to a swing party at their home once, which was a hoot too....

[steve10557]

When I was 19 I used to rent a room in a couples house, I also worked with the husband in construction, it used to be hard work and hard drinking afterwards. One weekend the husband was too lazy to take the wife for a country walk, so I offered. I held her hand to help her over some rough ground and she seemed to collapse into my arms and I couldn't help but kiss her, moments later I had her clothes off on this warm summer day and we were fucking with abandon, god she was so juicy and succulent. Later that evening at home we were sitting watching the tv and she sat on my lap and started making out with me, I was so nervous and embarrassed at what he was going to say, but he just joined in with us and before long we were all naked in a heap on the floor, I was 69ing with her and felt his cock sliding between my buttocks and then slipping into me and the weight of him on my back, I heard her moans of encouragement as I just buried my face between her ample labia and relished getting solidly fucked to the theme tune from Doctor Who on the tv. From then on I had regular sex with them together and singly, but I still had to pay my rent.


Things my old Dad said: "Grab it while you can."

[BiCuriousVAN]

My first experience was about 15 years ago. I met a guy on a forum like this. He was married, but curious and I was single and curious. Neither of us had ever been with another guy. He came over to my place, where we drank some wine. We were both very nervous. I finally reached over and rubbed his cock through his jeans, then we went to the bedroom and undressed each other. I first rubbed his cock a bit, then licked his balls and shaft and then started sucking on him until he shot into my mouth, which I then swallowed. He returned the favour and it was the best blow job I had ever had to that point. Going into it, I didn't know if I would enjoy it or not, but it was an incredible experience. We were going to meet again, but I think he was afraid his wife would find out.

[bi_n_texas]

much like other "first time" experiences by some here, mine was with a family member at a young age.

we (my family) were visiting other family out east during summer vacation from school. after having been there a couple of days, my older male cousin (he was 16 and i was 10) and one of his friends told me he wanted to show me some fort, or club, secret hide-out, or some damn thing that he had out in the woods behind their house. after a long walk through the trees, we came to a clearing where he proudly announce that we have arrived. well, being 10, i was super excited about being at this place and being a part of his club.

he told me i could join, but that i had to do something to prove my loyalty. now remember, i'm young and impressionable and i really look up to my cousin as a friend and a mentor, and i would do anything to be included. he told me to get on my knees and close my eyes and not to open them until he told me. after a few minutes, he had me open my eyes, and before my face was his throbbing hard cock. he told me that i had to put his cock in my mouth for 1 minute and then i would be accepted. i opened my mouth and he put the head against my lips. at his point, i don't know what clicked in my brain, but i engulfed his head and shaft and started sucking deep like i knew what i was doing. i was stroking his rod and keeping time with my mouth and head, moving at a good rythym, making sucking noise, and groaning softly in my throat...it didn't take long before i heard him moaning and breathing hard. he placed his hands on my head, arched his back, and shot a huge load of warm salty cum deep into my mouth! i couldn't hold it all, but eagerly swallowed what i could before i started gagging and spitting. apparently his friend that had he had brought along really enjoyed the show, because he had stroked one out and was standing there with his limp cock still in his hand. this was my first ever bi experience. years later when i was 15, i started a sexual experience with a friend of mine in high school...but that's a story for another time.

[TXLonestarTX69]

I had a buddy and we started jacking off together. After a few months, one day, he asked me if he could suck me off. I was shocked and initially said no way. He kept begging and begging and I finally gave in just to shut him up. OH MY GOD!! It was the first blowjob I had ever gotten and boy was it great. He had no qualms about swallowing every drop of what was a very huge load.

This kept up for a while and on three separate occasions, I sucked on his cock. I was too chicken to take him over the edge, which I regret. He continued to suck me off and it got to the point where I was doing the begging. He eventually stopped because I was not returning the favor. I sure wish I had. He had a great cock too.

I've been looking for quite some time for another bi experience. Like many, I am married and it's difficult. Hopefully someday...

[BareProf]

I was 11 or 12 and had a number of buddies who would strip with me and we'd show each other our "boners." I proudly had the largest cock. We would stroke each other a bit. One had a great set of balls and would ask me to rub them. By the time I was 13 precum would appear after a bit of stroking. We were so dumb we thought it was "come!" It was at 13 after I stroked enough to indeed come, the playing stopped and I do not remember why. It wasn't until I was 26 that I finally got with a guy and we blew each other, an event I will never forget and have no guilty feelings about.

Now, much older and in my second marriage, my bi desires have grown stronger every passing year.

[Regular guy in Mich]

It was on a night where I was kinda drunk and at a bachelor party. As the night ended...I realized that I was 1 of 2 people in a room watching lesbian porn. The other guy noticed that I was low on beer and offered to get me one. 5 mins. later, he comes back dressed as a VERY passable girl. I didnt even realize he came back until he passed the beer down from behind my seat and started to nibble on my neck and ears. Holy shit! I looked at who it was and it didnt matter. We started kissing, then it got wet. Very wet, as in like spit swapping. We made out for about 40 minutes without touching my manhood. The nipple licking was totally erotic. Then he started on my cock and balls. No woman had ever spent this much time on me...let alone a guy. He didnt want me to do anything more than jerking him...but he was way to drunk to have a hard on for too long. I came as he wanted me to...he got my nipple area extremely wet and rubbed them with both his hands as we continued the wettest kiss of my life, while I jerked off until I came. I cant wait and always think about that one night...I want more!

[patty65]

I had mine 2years ago and loved it and want more I was dressed in lingerie and he fucked me hard and shot his wad in me and it felt so good

[mikeyd270]

After my second divorce I was a little depressed and decided I wanted to suck some cock. Had been curious for a long time and decided to act on it. Went out to a lake that was known as a cruise site back then and sucked my first dick. I have been a cocksucker ever since.

[patty65]

I know what you mean I love being sucked and sucking cock dressed as a woman

[mas8092]

I was separated after a four year marriage. Smoked some weed and picked-up a guy on-line. At age 46 I tasted my first cock. I loved it.

[itsnormy]

While Darkeyes has an opinion of what bisexual is, I disagree and look at it a bit different...Heterosexual is the capability or capacity to enjoy sex with the opposite gender, homosexuality is the capability of capacity to enjoy sex with the same gender, bisexuality is the capability or capacity to enjoy sex with both genders, and my definition doesn't require anyone to quality their experience.

[darkeyes]

Have never said ne thing different really... :) Dunno where u got the idea I did...

[Gearbox]

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I put it to you Miss Fran that you believe that all the men viewing that pic with any amount of sexual interest no matter what their sexuality, is having a homosexual experience hmffff hmmmfff!:bigrin:
And to have a bisexual experience there would need to be a pic of a lady person next to it that's sexually appealing.
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This is an amphibian. It can live in water and on land. It's amphibious.....see where I'm going with this?:tongue:
When it is on dry land, to some it may seem that it has a terrestrial experience. When in water it may seem that it has an aquatic experience. But....in both cases it has an amphibious experience.;) The existence of the amphibian nullifies the idea that water belongs to the aquatic and land belongs to the terrestrial. In other words - same gender attraction does not belong to homosexuality and opposite gender attraction does not belong to heterosexuality. Bisexuality disproves that very well.:)

[darkeyes]

Very clever, luffly man... but amphibians r not human and neither r they mammal... they are meant to have both aquatic and terrestrial experiences.. it comes wiv the territory... they are amphibians.. it's the name of the beast(s)... but we talk not of salamanders, newts, frogs and toads but of human beings and of 1 aspect of humanity... the sexuality of human beings and the acts they commit as a consequence of whichever sexuality each happens to be. The same gender attraction of one human for another is a homosexual attraction and opposite gender attraction a heterosexual attraction... it is whether we have one both or the other which determines whether we are gay, bisexual or str8... I am quite content for bisexuals to consider homosexual or heterosexual attractions they have as bisexual ones... that is why they happen for God;s sake. Many, arguably most sexual, acts are homosexual or heterosexual irrespective of our sexuality.. same gender attraction does not belong to homosexuality and neither does heterosexual attraction belong to heterosexuality... and together with bisexuality, they belong to us all.. to all of humanity...and they belong to none of us. I am equally content for bisexual to consider homosexual and heterosexual acts they experience as bisexual. Whichever sexual experience we have may well be heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual, but are first and foremost, very human experiences, just as amphibians on land or in water (or in the air as in the case of some frogs) have very amphibious experiences.. none of this negates anyone's bisexuality and is it intended to demean it.. it is just one girl's view of human sex and sexuality, but there are other views which are just as valid.. :bigrin::love87: My point is and has always been that bisexuals should acknowledge and not be ashamed of their homosexuality and heterosexuality.. the two together makes them what they are...

..and while we are at it.. I almost passed out at sight of ur knob pic... for god's sakes, luffly man.. am a vewwy, vewwy sensitive soul.... :cutelaugh;)

[Gearbox]

That's not me in that pic btw. I have enuf trouble with the winky I got. God knows how much that poor sod spends on lube.:tongue:

The same gender attraction of one human for another is a homosexual attraction and opposite gender attraction a heterosexual attraction..
This is where you are very oh so terribly wrong.lol You can no more define homo & hetero-sexuality with two of any gender mix, than you can bisexuality. Two homosexuals having sex are not expressing their homosexuality IN FULL. To do that they'd need the opposite gender present to express their lack of attraction to them. Just as you say that bisexuals need BOTH genders to express their attraction to both.
Homosexuality is not just the attraction to same gender, but also the lack of attraction to the opposite. The latter is just as significant in defining the sexuality as the former.
So two men having winky fun does not a homosexual experience make!;) Not unless they have a woman there to make them a bit uncomfortable.lol

There are arguable no such thing as homosexual and heterosexual attractions either. You can't slice a sexualty in half to just have the attractions.:tongue:

[darkeyes]

That's not me in that pic btw. I have enuf trouble with the winky I got. God knows how much that poor sod spends on lube.:tongue:

This is where you are very oh so terribly wrong.lol You can no more define homo & hetero-sexuality with two of any gender mix, than you can bisexuality. Two homosexuals having sex are not expressing their homosexuality IN FULL. To do that they'd need the opposite gender present to express their lack of attraction to them. Just as you say that bisexuals need BOTH genders to express their attraction to both.
Homosexuality is not just the attraction to same gender, but also the lack of attraction to the opposite. The latter is just as significant in defining the sexuality as the former.
So two men having winky fun does not a homosexual experience make!;) Not unless they have a woman there to make them a bit uncomfortable.lol

There are arguable no such thing as homosexual and heterosexual attractions either. You can't slice a sexualty in half to just have the attractions.:tongue:

I cud tell isnt u u daft sod!!! I do know he isnt getting near me wiv that thingie... have seen the day, Gear.. but long since passed those days.. ;)

I have nev sed u need both genders present to be bisexual.. or even ever have sex with both or either gender... in the end the only person really who can know whether he or she is whatever sexuality is the person themself. I know I am gay, just as u are sure u are bi... and know that my brother knows himself to be str8.. as dus me ex hubbie for that matter.. we know it as best we can know ne thing.. serpently bettern someone not part of our body. It is an arrogance to suggest anything else:).

I don't need someone of the opposite gender close to me while I've been having sex with another woman.. Since accepting my lesbianism however, I have never needed that although, sweetheart, but it has happened once or twice.. I accept ur attraction/non attraction statement except I'd add "sexual" in there.. I am attracted to quite a number of men as people but not sexually...but as human beings:)... and I am not attracted to many women ether sexually or as human beings... now doesn't that give us all food for thought.. no one is attracted to everyone of whatever gender their primary/ exclusive attraction lies.. we all have our own taste in who we fancy sexually and who we fancy simply as people. Sexuality and human relations are far more complex than many ever give them credit.. but the argy bargy is fun Gear.. am off out later.... Bootgirl night out... ther will b some lessieness, some bisexuality and some heterosexuality... just in wot form depends on the peeps involved... and the peeps gotten off wiv.... dusn't matter wot ne of us calls it tho dus it? Wot matters is that we all have fun an' have a ball.. a few of us.. most tho not me...will even have moren 1 to while away the night;).. a few of us wont bother:impleased...

I also take issue with u about whether there are no homosexual and heterosexual attractions.. both are words we attach to aid us define some people and their sexuality.. clumsy but arguably the best we have for now.. it is not so much slicing a sexuality in half as to splice the sum of the different parts of a person's sexuality to make the whole... :love87:

[curious44]

That me luffly, was a homosexual encounter not a bisexual one. It was no more bisexual that had little Jimmy been a girl. A bisexual experience is a quite different thing. It may have opened ur eyes to your true calling, or occurred because of it, but it was not a bisexual experience. Most bisexuals have far fewer bisexual experiences than they realise, for unless there are at least three people involved of two different genders it was not a bisexual experience and even then, for it to be, you have to involve yourself sexually in some way with the bodies of both genders present or they with yours.

A small point, trivial, and pedantic maybe, but accurate... but whatever kind of experiences u may have or have had.. the main thing is that u enjoy them.. Interesting & thought provoking. Not that it makes a bit of difference anymore but, like others I had my first "bi" experiences with other adolescents in Jr. High at 12 or 13 and several other times through high school. Didn't have sex with a girl until 18. Married at 21 and still am. Continued having sex with men at every opportunity until STDS became such an issue, then was much more selective. Enjoyed all sex but always found sex with men more exciting and haven't been interested in women for decades so what does that make me? No wonder I'm not big on the label thing.

[Gearbox]

I also take issue with u about whether there are no homosexual and heterosexual attractions.. both are words we attach to aid us define some people and their sexuality.. clumsy but arguably the best we have for now.. it is not so much slicing a sexuality in half as to splice the sum of the different parts of a person's sexuality to make the whole... :love87:
Yes that is how we tend to define a persons sexuality. But it's wrong tho isn't it tho?:bigrin:
Same gender sex is no more a homosexual act than eating a salad is a vegetarian act. Nobody assumes that salad eating is strictly a vegetarian act, but for some crazy mixed up reason we have 'vegetarian meals' & 'gay sex'.:eek:
It's just food and sex! Nothing to do with vegetarianism and homosexuality. Just coz vegetarians eat salad coz they are against meat, it doesn't mean that they own the copyright on lettuce! Doesn't make tomatoes a vegetarian vegetable/fruit.lol

In a world void of amphibians, we could say that the land is strictly the domain of the terrestrial and the sea strictly for the aquatic. But amphibians fek that up a treat by proving it's not.
And the lovely bisexuals do the same for sex.:tongue: Due to that, I can eat salad off a blokes cock and neither be having a vegetarian or homosexual experience.lol

When's the last time you heard two homosexuals say "Lets go have gay sex!"?lol

[tenni]

"A bisexual experience is a quite different thing. It may have opened ur eyes to your true calling, or occurred because of it, but it was not a bisexual experience. Most bisexuals have far fewer bisexual experiences than they realise, for unless there are at least three people involved of two different genders it was not a bisexual experience and even then, for it to be, you have to involve yourself sexually in some way with the bodies of both genders present or they with yours."

Fran me luffly.
Why do you argue against bisexuals defining their own language? Homosexuals have homosexual sex. Bisexuals have same sex experiences that might be understood as homosexual experience. Gear is correct with the metaphor about amphibians and fish or land animals. It is a fairly good metaphor to present the difference between bisexuals and monosexuals. You seem to be thinking with a monosexual perception.

As an artist, I have pondered how visually you can show bisexuality without including a threesome. It is difficult and as difficult to show an amphibian as both a land and aquatic animal without showing the creature in different environments of both land and water.

Every human sexual act that a bisexual has is a bisexual experience.

[Fzmr9t]

I'm a married male but a also love male to male contact, so I guess I'm still looking for my 1st "bi" experience

[Realist]

According to MISS THING, the Scottish Teacher Supreme, my first sexual experiences were bisexual.

At about 5, a brother and sister team of the same age, climbed a grapefruit tree, so I could look up their shorts and skirt, to see the differences in their gentiles. I was encouraged to touch and explore, which was a scintillating revelation to me! From that day forth, I've been attracted to both genders.

Then, at about 8 and under the guidance of a very adventurous and outgoing female cousin, I was encouraged to explore her and her neighbor boy; he was also our age. From then, until we were 12, we had an adventure that, oddly enough, never was orgasmic. (for the boys, anyway)

So, yes, by definition, my first experiences were bisexual.

To avoid generating wrath from the PICKY POLICE, I have to admit, my first orgasmic experience, the day after I turned 14, was a gay one!

[darkeyes]

Dont be daft.. am not that old, Realist, babes:tongue:...

..and don't mind being called picky.. but police??? O babes.. come onnnnn.... 2 much sweetums...:cutelaugh

..and 2 answer tenni... why do I call things as I do? Cos they are the reality to me.. and they describe more accurately why bi peeps are as they r.. call 1 on 1 bi-sex if u wish.. call every act bi-sex... no matter the gender of the rumpy partnerm no matter the numbers, gender and what u do...... is no big deal... but don't call it so as a denial of why u r what u r which it seems to me is happening.. it isn't picky 2 me at all but a fundamental part of what bisexual peeps r... part str8, part gay which far too many choke at admitting..... and it isn't monosexual perception... just human perception.. no more.. no less... it is that two parts of your nature which makes u bisexual.. the heterosexual and the homosexual...:)

[Gearbox]

part str8, part gay
Heterosexuals are not attracted to same gender, and homosexuals are not attracted to the opposite gender. Wouldn't being part straight & gay make you asexual?:tongue:
Depends on how you splice a sexuality, which you can't. Your lack of sexual attraction to men PLUS your sexual attraction to women makes you gay. Not just the latter. So really, homo & hetero are contrasting parts of bi, not the other way around.lol

Here's a chart to explain in binary-

F:M:
BI :1:1:
GAY F :1:0:
GAY M :0:1:
HET F :0:1:
HET M :1:0:
ASEX :0:0:

The 0's are as significant as the 1's, yet that gets completely ignored very often. That's why a man sucking cock is thought of as homosexual, and why it's viewed as a homosexual act by some.
There is no such thing as a homosexual or heterosexual sexual act. 400 homosexuals having an orgy doesn't involve a 'homosexual act'. It's a sexual act. 400 heterosexuals not responding sexually to the same gender, isn't a 'heterosexual act'. It's a non-sexual act.:bigrin:

Bisexuals do think in terms of hetero & homo to judge our leanings to one gender or the other at any particular time. But that is just for convenience's sake. We don't have a proper language.You can't really be 50% heterosexual etc, coz it just doesn't make sense.
We use a mono system to define sexuality, yet ALL sexualities stem from a binary system due to there being 2 basic genders. I think this is why some hetero & homosexuals have trouble with bisexuality coz they only focus on the attraction part of sexuality and think that's what defines them. Bi's having dual attractions prompts a re-evaluation on what defines their own sexuality - bumped out of mono-vision and into bi-vision. OR - bump bisexuals into their mono-vision.

Ask a frog, they know what I'm talking about.:tongue:

[gotlek]

I was 13, me and my bf, he wanted to play doctor and nurse, he was doctor i was nurse. I decided to wear my mom's undies and dress. My fem body was enough to get him hard instantly, i lost my virginity when he fucked me and every day after school he use to come over to fuck me again and again, was really fun to see him horny with a very hard dick....21814

[Realist]

OK, DARKEYES, I was just checking to see if you were awake!

Gotlek, I love first-time stories...... as long as they don't involve abuse, or cruelty! Sadly, not all first time stories are as happy as yours was.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

I had a reallly cute and clever comeback until I saw the pic that Gearbox posted...lol.

MY first Bi experience was fun. I had already had a brief love affair with a beautiful little Hir girl in Jr High school. In high school I decided to spend a lovely afternoon with a guy I had met. He was 22 I was 16. I met him at his house after school and we were in the beginning stages of a Very nice round of Hiyo Silver (Me on top) when I heard a door closing and heard "Honey? I'm back" All I cdould think of was "Oh Fuck! I'm bout to get my ass beat..Caught by the wife/Girlfriend, ect."

I was about to dismount, but he held me tight and called out "We're back here, love!"

I was confused, and a Little bit scared. In comes this very Cute little thing who grinned and said, "Well hello there! Dont stop on my account. I wanna see!"
She quickly took her clothes off, hopped into the shower, then came back to hop in bed with Us. She told me 'He has the most wonderful cock, doesnt he? Keep riding Sweetie." she then began kissing me, caressing me and urging me to fuck her husband that much harder. I had no prob. That big cock was too delightful to let go of! lol We spent the rest of the afternoon together, and I learned how to orally pleasure a lady that day. I had orally pleasured my Hir lover, but that day I learned even more because I had a great teacher. Had already had cock, so that I was good at, (And still am) but learning how to pleasure a lady was a fantastic life lesson for me..:bigrin:
Squirming now, Cat

[oldercal]

My first experience was when at 27 years old I took a room in a YMCA while looking for an apartment, out in CA. It was terribly hot and I saw guys propping their rooms open with a shoe, which I did and discovered a guy caressing me that very night, scaring me much. So the next night I walked down a corridor in my bathrobe, naked underneath, and found a room so open, went in, and got sucked--not a very satisfying experience but it got me interested. Then I went to a meeting in Toledo and explored, and a guy took me to his room and boy did that feel good..

[NjbiGuy01]

my first was with a married couple in a threesome while i was fucking her she was sucking him and then he moved his dick to my mouth and she said lets see you suck him and i did and later on i gave him a buttfucking while she did me with a strapon and from then on i have enjoyed both men and women

Pretty much same here......a little male/male experimentation with some guy friends, then a girlfriend wanted two men, and it ended up with the guys playing with one another and with her too !