need info and help

[dalan571@gmail.com]

My wife and I have been married 22 years. our sexual relationship is very sexy and healthy both very active .

Through the years we were involved in the swinging scene she went along with it because I pushed her to it she loved the idea but when it came to meet the people she was not impressed maybe our luck meet the wrong sort .
So we dropped it and never went back; however during our swinging few times she was involved with other female she did enjoy that and she had a one night stand with a female friend . in last year or so she keeps hints about a pretty girls we see in TV or when we shopping that she would sleep with them and other hints that she would love to be involved with female the problem in the past I pushed the swinging part on her Now I fell I can't talk to her about her desire in case I am reading her the wrong sign
can any one help or suggest a way further ?

[bityme]

few times she was involved with other female she did enjoy that and she had a one night stand with a female friend . in last year or so she keeps hints about a pretty girls we see in TV or when we shopping that she would sleep with them and other hints that she would love to be involved with female the problem in the past I pushed the swinging part on her Now I fell I can't talk to her about her desire in case I am reading her the wrong sign
can any one help or suggest a way further ?

Just tell her what you said here!

Well, maybe a little more detail. Just let her know from her recent actions and comments you have the impression that she has some interests. That you feel the past experiences didn't turn out so well because you pushed her into it.

The problem you face is what type of response you expect or want to hear. There is a very good chance that her interest is just in other women. She may not be interested in starting to swing again, particularly if her experiences with other men were not enjoyable. If that is the case you will have to decide whether or not you are willing let her pursue those interests on her own without you being involved.

It's an opportunity to increase your communication with each other. Your offer of support would probably be well taken even if she says you misread her comments. At least you were willing to ask her to find out how she felt and did not want to impede her exploration.

You need to think things out and be prepared to respond to what you think are her possible responses.

I hope you can find a workable solution.

Pappy

[Long Duck Dong]

I pretty much again with bityme, its the same sort of advice I would have given.......

what i am a lil curious about, is that your profile gives the impression that she is interested and willing to be with another woman already.... and that is as odds with what you are saying in the post...

so yes, i agree talk with your wife, and let her choose her own path, timing and person with your support and help if she so desires

[Gearbox]

What did you say when she gave you all those hints? "It's been forecast rain on Sunday!"?:eek:

If your worried about pushing her into f-f sex, then just tell her that it's ok with you. Not being a part of that sex will clear you of any ulterior motives!
Could end up being a part of it though!;)

[mikey3000]

Aggreed. Tell her that you support her interest in other women. Give her the freedom to explore but when she is ready, agree on some ground rules first.

Good luck.

[welickit]

Her hints seem pretty clear. Perhaps she wasn't impressed with the others you met because she needed to be more involved in the selection of those individuals. It would seem she is pointing out the type individual she would enjoy getting involved with. Why not let her take the lead this time and you be there to give her support and encourage her? :bipride:

[sue&tom]

You have to play this with diplomacy and know where you are steeping.
You do not want to say the wrong thing so it will spoil the whole scenario.
My advice as long as both of you had gone through the whole subject before Create a situation by which introduce her to people as you meet during your normal daily life as friends you might find these couples /single in this site or other provided they agree to go along with your plan .
Sue