Stupid Things Said to Bisexuals about Bisexuality

[LastGent]

I'm interested in making a list of such remarks, in case anyone says them to me, so that I can have a quick comeback ready. I've heard about the one-drop rule: that having sexual relations with the same sex means you're 100% homosexual. I've heard from parents, regarding their bisexual children, that the youngsters have not yet accepted their homosexuality. Are there any other stupid things you've heard?

[keefer201]

:cool:As for me, my sexuality is my business and I keep it that way. I don't go around advertising to family, friends or co-workers what I do sexually. To me, that's not only sophmoric but totally inaproporiate. I am very comfortable with who I am and if the subject ever came up about bisexuality(which it never would around men as we are too homophobic)then I would just let what anything that is said just fly over my head. My sexuality is not a combat position where I need to make a "kill zone" of others attitudes. People are allowed to have opinions regarding sexual proclivities, live with it and accept who you are. :2cents:

[mikey3000]

:cool:As for me, my sexuality is my business and I keep it that way. I don't go around advertising to family, friends or co-workers what I do sexually. To me, that's not only sophmoric but totally inaproporiate. I am very comfortable with who I am and if the subject ever came up about bisexuality(which it never would around men as we are too homophobic)then I would just let what anything that is said just fly over my head. My sexuality is not a combat position where I need to make a "kill zone" of others attitudes. People are allowed to have opinions regarding sexual proclivities, live with it and accept who you are. :2cents:

But how are we supposed to teach our kids that being bisexual is ok and nothing to be ashamed of, and that "it gets better" if you can't even mention it? Is being bisexual ok? Are you really ok with your sexuality? Cause it sure doesn't sound like it to me.

To me, internalized biphobia is very dangerous to bisexual people.

[pepperjack]

I'm interested in making a list of such remarks, in case anyone says them to me, so that I can have a quick comeback ready. I've heard about the one-drop rule: that having sexual relations with the same sex means you're 100% homosexual. I've heard from parents, regarding their bisexual children, that the youngsters have not yet accepted their homosexuality. Are there any other stupid things you've heard?

My experience has consistently been what u have mentioned, that being the deeply blurred line between being gay & bi;guess the most stupid as well as offensive I've encountered is hostile, homophobic slur of label "fag" indulged in by other males trying to assert masculine dominance when they're only camouflaging their own dormant tendencies; guess the best comeback is, hypocrite....pot calling the kettle black.:2cents:

[othercat]

i was told by guy in a GLBT support group that there was no such thing as bisexual. i was told by a guy on a chat line that there was no such thing as bisexual. according to him if a guy was having sex with another he was gay, if the same guy was having sex with a girl he was straight while he was with the girl
then if he had sex with a guy again he was gay again. ???? wtf

[Pasadenacpl2]

Bi now, gay later.

Pasa

[Long Duck Dong]

wanna list ?????

1) being bisexual means that we will sleep with anybody regardless of who they are

2) bisexual females are heterosexual females that kiss to lead guys on and keep partners / husbands happy.

3) bisexual females that have female long term partners are lesbians that want to cock tease guys.

4) bisexual males are males that can not get laid, so they lower their standards just so they can get sex.

5) bisexuality is a excuse so people do not have to commit to their partners.

6) bisexuality is what people claim to be so they do not have to face their true sexuality

7) bisexuality is the excuse used by males that have gay tendancies and get caught sucking other guys cocks.

they are things I have heard said.... but the one that really pisses me off, is the one that my mother uses

8) bisexuals and homosexuals are actually pedophiles that use other labels to hide their true nature...

its a statement that really gets me hot under the collar....

[æonpax]

i was told by guy in a GLBT support group that there was no such thing as bisexual. i was told by a guy on a chat line that there was no such thing as bisexual. according to him if a guy was having sex with another he was gay, if the same guy was having sex with a girl he was straight while he was with the girl then if he had sex with a guy again he was gay again. ???? wtf

That's pretty odd considering GLBT (or LGBT) means Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender.

[swmnkdinthervr]

A direct quote:

"I'm not homophobic, one of my best friends is a queer!"

[Jobelorocks]

I was told that bisexuals are just "greedy" by one of my friends. I then proceeded to tell her that there are celibate bisexuals, monogamous bisexuals, swinging bisexuals, polyamourous bisexuals, and everywhere in between just like other sexualities. She just repeated herself that bisexuals are just "greedy". Whatever that means.

[lizard-lix]

Just the usual dull stuff.. Several gay friends saying that there is no such thing as bi, and I should make up my mind and be gay.

I am lucky on the helping kids grow up accepting us all front tho. We tutor and mentor several HS kids. One of them is lesbian and they all seem to have a lot of bi opportunities (especially the girls, they all seem to have at least one 'special friend' at some point).

We are, of course, completely accepting of all of their variations and I guess we were so unusual that we have become the 'good' adults. We were even asked to come and root for the gay team, who cross dressed as a goof, at the charity dodge-ball tournament. We ended up as 2 of about a dozen non-teacher adults in a gym full of about 500 kids.

As a result they all come out to us and we have the opportunity to give them an accepting environment.

It is one of the things I am proud of...

[Gearbox]

There is a risk of being overly defensive though! I've had quite a few lectures on sexuality and 'Free counselling' sessions from gay men who want to help me get out of the 'Bi closet', when I only wanted to hookup for sex! Not marry the fekers:rolleyes:
All they did was piss me off enough to give them the same 'Free counselling' to get them out of the 'gay closet' and except their secret vagina addictions.:bigrin:
It works pretty well, but just wastes more time and doesn't get you laid.:(

BUT in all fairness (as far as I've encountered) it's the minority of gays that give a toss about it. Or the majority that just shuts up about it.:)
Like I tell em, "I got a cock like yours! I can't tell it what to like!".;)

[æonpax]

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Within my group, I am a known bisexual. Occasionally, I get criticized, about bisexuality, with the following gripes;

Bisexuals are only looking for sex,

Bisexuals cannot commit to a relationship, with fidelity as it's core issue,

Bisexuals are selfish,

and Bisexuals can't make up their minds...about their sexuality.

For me, sometimes it pays not to even argue the topic.

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[12voltman59]

I have to concur with most of the points that everyone has said---like there is not really such a thing as bisexuality, its just a stop along the way to someone actually being gay the big one---so is----do any thing sexual at all with another guy and you are gay and that is that---face up to that!!!!

You here that same bullshit from both gays and straights alike and most often----from those who call themselves to be so liberal, open-minded, accepting of all and things of that sort!!

Very often---their minds are pretty closed when it comes to this issue--they surely have taken the gay culture stance that bisexuality is not real to heart.

[DrBimind]

Name calling and bullying has always been a cover/shield for those doing it to use to hide their real feelings, even to themselves. Regardless, I always tell 'em to go fuck themselves as I figure that's what they must be hiding...yes I have had me share of black eyes and such...small price to pay to stand up for your beliefs...although I try to have a honest, non-violent debate of opinions, most of the time I also know that sometimes/some people, it's a lost battle and to avoid further or unwanted conflict, no debate is continued by me.

I leave it as "Live and let live" for example, my daughter form my first marriage has talked to me about when she was teenager and young adult, how she was involved with another girl as a lover but she liked boys better, has some present curiosities but no one has attracted her yet, made it easier to discuss my Bisexuality with her and we are very open to each other. However, my step-daughter, son and daughter from my present marriage, know nothing of mom and dad's sex life (well at least since after they all moved out...they still bitch about hearing mom and I when they were kids LOL) and they all seem to be very adamant about being straight, even though they were taught that sexuality was a personal choice, no right or wrong sexuality, just that EVERYONE has one. All 4 kids had similar sex ed from their live-in parents and attended schools, but have VERY different opinions, and I know for sure that they would never understand their mother's and my sexual preferences. So I choose not to discuss it with them as it would be a waste of their time and emotions to even contemplate.

So pick your battles wisely, yet never give up your and others right to have an opinion. :2cents:

Peace, love, dove ( or boxing gloves ) :cool:

[bityme]

LDD had a great list.

Two that can be added are:

A bisexual women is someone who will lick a pussy before she lets her husband fuck it in order to keep him happy.

OR

A bisexual man is someone who will give a guys cock a kiss and and a lick so he can fuck his wife.

And so, the search for the mythical unicorn goes on and couples ads inform us that contact from single guys is not desired.

Pappy

[Stinger78]

they are things I have heard said.... but the one that really pisses me off, is the one that my mother uses

8) bisexuals and homosexuals are actually pedophiles that use other labels to hide their true nature...

its a statement that really gets me hot under the collar....

Oh my....!! Damn! Wow, that's just completely and utterly offensively absurd! Also, I have to say that your mother's comment is just...*sighs to calm myself & regain a bit of patience*...Personally, the thing I find most offensive about that is the fact that your mother's mind was capable of not only producing such an idea, but also the disgusting and highly disturbing fact that two topics such as bisexuality and pedophiles are somehow related according to her obviously twisted and convoluted logic.

...Wow...lol Please forgive me for saying this, but your mother is one sick woman.


--Scratchy, out of Albuquerque...

"Ya know why there are gates around cemeteries? Because people are dyin' to get in!" --The one (of MANY dumb but funny jokes, we're Polish) joke my Dad has told me that I will never forget for as long as I live.

[æonpax]

wanna list ?????.....<snip/unsnip> they are things I have heard said.... but the one that really pisses me off, is the one that my mother uses
8) bisexuals and homosexuals are actually pedophiles that use other labels to hide their true nature...
its a statement that really gets me hot under the collar....

Right now, that accusation is starting to float around with the religious right people in the US, especially after the contemptible, Penn State affair.

I get defensive when I hear tripe like that. :mad:
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[void()]

Upon learning of my bisexuality a guy once said, "you suck!"

My reply was probably too cavalier, "jealous?"

Others in the proximity broke out in riotous laughter as he tried regaining composure. He finally was able to look at me questioningly.

I said, "sorry baby, you're not my type."

Laughter ensued again, from others and him. It diffused a lot of hate, tension at that point. For me the hate behind his emotive statement appeared stupid. I had never once encroached upon him, or any one there except my wife, a willing and receptive person.

[FinkDoodle]

The top two are:

"Bisexual men are cowards who don't have the balls to make a choice like the rest of us had to" . . . I've heard variations of this from quite a few gay men.


"You're not really a man if you're bisexual" - spoken to me by a bisexual woman.

[SeekingSimilar24]

i was told by guy in a GLBT support group that there was no such thing as bisexual. i was told by a guy on a chat line that there was no such thing as bisexual. according to him if a guy was having sex with another he was gay, if the same guy was having sex with a girl he was straight while he was with the girl
then if he had sex with a guy again he was gay again. ???? wtf


LOL, so I got this one time when with an exes group of friends and it pissed me off so bad that I had to throw this out, "So what was I when I was with a male and a female at the same time?"

The reply was, "Straight when with the woman and gay when with the man."

"But what about when I was in the woman and he was inside me?"

Everyone got quiet and they failed to come up with a response. The issue has never come up since.



"You're not really a man if you're bisexual" - spoken to me by a bisexual woman.

I have heard this one too... from a bisexual woman. I have even heard that gay and bi men are amoral but gay or bi women are totally fine religiously.

[transchk]

I heard "Men can't be bisexual!! Once he sticks it in a guy's butt, it's not going in my pussy!"

Yes, these were consecutive sentences.

I didn't bother to continue the conversation. I felt like telling her... most bi guys don't stick it someone else's ass, they get it stuck in theirs! :tong: