Advice needed!!!

[GayNowBi]

Formerly strictly gay but now I date and have sex with women too. This is embarrassing but can anyone give me tips on pleasing a woman sexually? Yes, I have been with a woman just not much experience yet. :tongue:

[trentino]

Hahha ! Wonderful ! Well, be attentive - it's really not fundamentally much more different than with a man. True, men are more mechanical - stroke him long enough and he will cum. A woman's orgasm is more a mental thing. Also, there's the concept of "priming the pussy". That is, you don't jump straight at it like you'd tear a guy's pants down and pop his cock straight in your mouth. Go slowly and read her reactions, stroke and caress her around the area, not directly on or, heaven forbid, in it. Kiss her, rub her body, kiss her body, her breasts. When her legs begin to open, that's your cue to continue... you'll get the hang of it. Communicate, verbally and bodily.

Now as far as the cunnilingus goes, every woman is different of course, but I've found focussing on the clitorus (look up a diagram if need be) and continuing to lick regularly and methodically is what women like. Don't change-up the rhythm or gesture, keep it regular and steady. If you have to, you can cheat by writing the alphabet repeatedly with your tongue.

My wife says that there are two kinds of women: vaginal and clitordidian. Some women are just going to require a decent pounding, while others will be more than happy with a tongue dance. My wife loves a missionary pounding as well as a pounding angled from a certain direction.

There's also the elusive g-spot. It's actually not that elusive at all - I found my wife's, but she claims its stimulation doesn't add anything to the mix. It's a ridged structure, almost like the texture of a contracted scrotum, just inside, an inch or so, and upwards in the vagina, on the inside wall behind the pubic bone. It's getting complex, don't worry about that for now.

Work on your cunnilingus technique and you'll have plenty of happy repeat customers:bigrin:

Happy Rug Munching !

[GayNowBi]

the alphabet? that works?

[Jobelorocks]

Well as a woman I know that many men and women for that matter don't know how to bring a woman to orgasm. The biggest thing (for me anyways) is a combination of clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation. Each woman is unique, some women like a lot of clitoral stimulation, some like a lot of g-spot stimulation, some like there to be a lot of both. Some women can reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, but many cannot and need other sorts of stimulation (foreplay). Here is a helpful link to a instructional video... http://www.youporn.com/watch/200577/pussy-eating-lesson/?from=categ I sure wish more men and women did these things!

Another thing to look up is sexual positions that stimulate the g-spot. Now I like to change it up with sexual positions, but my favorites involve g-spot stimulation. Here is a link for some information about those positions...http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_400/430_g-spot-positions.html

Also for me flattery will get you everywhere. lol. Making me feel good about my body, making me feel comfortable and sexy helps me greatly in enjoying sex. Remember communication is important and each woman will like certain things. Each woman is different and finding what pleases her sexually goes a long way. I hope this has helped.

[FinkDoodle]

Go to the library and look for a book called The Sensuous Man . . the author is "M"

It will tell you anything you'd ever need to know to please a woman - both physically and emotionally .. with emphasis on the latter.

[trentino]

Here is a helpful link to a instructional video... http://www.youporn.com/watch/200577/pussy-eating-lesson/?from=categ I sure wish more men and women did these things!

Another thing to look up is sexual positions that stimulate the g-spot.http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_400/430_g-spot-positions.html


Wow ! Great links Jobelo ! - Looks like I still have some learning to do... I'm going to try the hoover manoeuvre tonight ! Thanks

[bityme]

Formerly strictly gay but now I date and have sex with women too. This is embarrassing but can anyone give me tips on pleasing a woman sexually? Yes, I have been with a woman just not much experience yet. :tongue:

Damn! What was the name of that book?
Oh! Yes! "How to succeed in Business without really Trying"
No!! -- Wrong subject!!

Women are one of the true wonders of the world, but their complex combinations of physicality and emotions has avoided definition for eons.

Trentino and Jobelorocks have given some good comments about one pleasure zone. Unfortunately, that is, all to often, the single point of concentration that men pay attention to. After all, it is the closest to where you want to insert yourself for the endgame play.

In my opinion, the art of pleasing women is much more complex. Physically their body is composed of much more than a clitoris and vagina. To be a skilled lover requires the understanding that the journey must gradually provide ever-increasing pleasure over an extended period before ever coming close to the destination. The oft misunderstood, sometimes unknown, art of foreplay!

The path to a woman's pleasure requires attention to both physical and emotional needs. Having discussions about likes, dislikes, needs and fantasies is probably your best source of information. The caution is: "Never take her disclosures to be a roadmap which must be followed exactly."

The greater the amount of stimulation you can provide, both emotionally and physically, the greater the pleasure she will experience.

Pleasing her sexually can begin as early as the moment she is picked up for the date. Compliments are emotional stimuli. Hair, beauty, glow, sparkling eyes, are all good openers. Displays of respect and curtesy work despite the unfortunate, generally accepted belief they are outmoded. Chivalry is NOT dead. Read one of the romance novels so popular with women. Opening a door, holding an umbrella, making her feel protected or special is appreciated by all but a few hardcore feminists. In a restaurant, finding out what she would like and when the server arrives start out with "The lady will have . . ." displays your interest in her and attention to her response.

The inclusion of romantic aspects heightens the intimacy. Walks in the moonlight, soft conversation in beautiful surroundings, candles, conversations making her the center of attention rather than yourself, are all good options.

Physically, starting out slowly; the held hand, the gentle touch. A hand on her cheek and silently looking deep into her eyes (If it evokes a question from her, simply reply "It's lovely the way your eyes sparkle."

As clothing is shed begin the escalating physical contact. Gentle kisses, light strokes, a flick of the tongue; any part of the body can be an erogenous zone. The nape of the neck is usually a good starting point. Pay attention to how each part of her body responds with various types of stimulation. When something provokes a heightened response, don't linger. Move on. return a little later and use a different stimuli in the same area; perhaps the kiss is followed by light stroking or licking. Initially, avoid the obvious areas such as the clitoris or breasts. Stimulate the areas around them. Vary speed, intensity, technique and time spent. Your objective is to obtain heightened response and anticipation. One technique is to lick a small area and gently blow on it. The stream of air increases the rate of evaporation and stimulates the surrounding nerve endings.

Give attention to the neck, shoulders, upper chest, around and between the breasts, the abdomen, the pubic mound, edges of the vaginal lips, the inner thigh. You are exploring uncharted territory, creating your own mental map.

Return to previously stimulated areas, never in the same order, vary the technique and the time you might linger in one place. Include changes of pressure and tempo as you note the heightened responses of her body and changes in rates of breath.

Begin to include the breasts and around the edges of aureolas. Aureolas and nipples are included on the second or third pass. Light kisses, little licks and gentle sucking. Never twist the nipples like radio knobs! Keep your contact gentle unless she says otherwise. She will tell you if she wants it harder.

Vaginal contact should begin with light strokes or licks of the entire area, not more than 30 seconds in duration (evoking heightened response and anticipation). Returning later for longer periods, different techniques, changes in pressure and tempo. Avoid long periods of heavy pressure or a single technique on the clitoris. It is very sensitive and you want to evoke an orgasm, not irritation.

Obviously, I'm a believer in prolonged foreplay. Every woman is different and you have to read their responses. Tightening of muscles, body movement, breathing rates, sighs, moans, clenched hands, all are indicators to look for. If she wants foreplay cut short and penetration begun she will tell you. Her desire for penetration may also be communicated by the same physical responses.

There is no instruction book or list containing step-by-step, guaranteed successful directions. The first time you bed any woman will be an exploration of new territory. You will never find that your experiences with any two women will produce the same mental map.

Enjoy the Journey!!

Pappy

[LastGent]

This thread has so far been vulva oriented, I would say, GayNowBi, go for the boobs-tease those titties until she lactates! For me, I need a lot of nipple stimulation, this alone can cause my penis to ache really bad, and women have bigger nipples generally, so...make her vagina beg for it. Caressing her lower abdomen, inner thighs and buttocks until she spontaneously ovulates is also a good idea, I find such petting to be extremely intense-like I said, turn her primal ape instincts on.

[MrBisex]

Focus on her clit and g-spot.

Like licking licking her clit with your mouth and at the same time have a couple of fingers inside her at her G-Spot.

This can make her go crazy.

Some girls will even ejaculate when you do this and cum all over you.

If you miss the old days, then just prentend it was one big giant cock cumming all over you. :tongue:

[N.O.FUN]

send me a message, maybe the wife and I can help teach you.