Are you biamorous? ... polyamorous?

[RiverGuy]

Not all bisexual folks are also biamorous, which means that one is able to be in a loving, "romantic", relationship with persons of either sex. Lots of bi folks can "fall in love" and maintain a lasting relationship only with males or females, while having sexual encounters with the other sex (male or female).

For example: Bob (fictional name) can be in love with a woman but only desires guys for sexual play.

Are you biamorous?

Polyamory means being able to be in love with more than one person at the same time (simultaneously) and doing so in a way which is honest and open with all parties involved. For a detailed definition and explanation of polyamory / polyamorous, try www.google.com.

Are you polyamorous?


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My personal answers: Yes, I am both polyamorous and biamorous.:tongue:

[RiverGuy]

By the way, www.polyamory.com is worth checking out.

[FloridaFun69]

I would have to label myself as "bi-comfortable" or "situationally-bi". I've never had a 1-on-1 affair with another guy, but several MFM situations have provided me with some very satisfying memories!! ;-)

[RiverGuy]

...but several MFM situations have provided me with some very satisfying memories!! ;-)

So, it's more about recreational sex than loving relationship?

[roy m cox]

well for me it's recreational sex and loving relationship with both sexes if i can and i would love to have a good man and woman at the same time that would be the best ever love i think , sadly i have been waiting for a good woman i am with 2 wonderful guys and they want me to get a girl friend to :) so i think i am polyamorous just cuz i like :female:+:male:=me

and :male:+:male:=me or :female::male:+:male:=me aw hell i want all of them :bigrin: both at the same time :bigrin:

[ErosUrge]

I guess I am neither. I am sexual,emotional, and loving with the opposite sex. And only sexual with the same sex. Though I do have friendship with certain males I am sexual with, it remains mostly sexual. Currently, I am sexual with a woman who I've been friends with for 20 years. But neither of us is interested in anything more than friendship and sex as we both know being involved with each other would not work out for various reasons. Ultimately, I seek a woman who would allow me my excursions sexually with males and if she wanted, even be a part of them. Don't think I'm capable of being polyamorous but then again, maybe I am if that doesn't include sex. Because I love many people that I am not sexual with at all.

[RiverGuy]

Wow, am I the only polyamorous and biamorous guy in this forum?

Maybe my kind are much more rare than I had realized.

Edit: Oh, yes, there is Roy. Sorry, Roy. Didn't mean to forget you. Do you suppose there are any others like us in here?

[tenni]

I am definitely a biamorous bisexual man but I can easily have non emotional sex with men...but rarely with women(fall for them too easily but I'm in rehab..:bigrin:). I'm not sure if I'm also polyamorous but I may be.....just not given the appropriate situation yet....:bigrin:

[RiverGuy]

I am definitely a biamorous bisexual man but I can easily have non emotional sex with men...but rarely with women(fall for them too easily but I'm in rehab..:bigrin:). I'm not sure if I'm also polyamorous but I may be.....just not given the appropriate situation yet....:bigrin:

Nice to meet you, Tenni! Glad you're here.

[FloridaFun69]

Was all about sex?? Yes... and No. Some of the situations were due to the kind of business I was in, and made some "fast friends" and then we all moved on. Some of the people I hung out with were actual friends, so it was a FWB situation before the current generation of people thought of the term. Nothing like having friends over for a cookout and everybody gets laid while the grill heats up!!


So, it's more about recreational sex than loving relationship?


... but several MFM situations have provided me with some very satisfying memories!! ;-)

[Realist]

Two of the most rewarding and loving relationships I've ever had were polyamorous. Both were in my 20s. One was with an older married couple, then a few years later, with two women. I attempted one other relationship with another married couple. But the husband, who initiated it, became jealous.......that was the end of that.

My present Gf is open to another poly exploration, but because of my age I can't see that happening. I'd be OK with her having another lover, if she found someone...I would even be OK with her being alone with them, but she says she only would do it, if I was at least, present. It's been some time since she's had a female lover and I believe that's her focus these days. I don't try to find lovers for her....... I'm sure she would rather find her own.

When she and I met in 2008, I had a gay male lover. She was OK with him, but he was not OK with her. Again, jealousy raised it's ugly head and he has moved out of the picture.

It's obvious to me that jealousy and polyamory do not mix!

[Married_in_s_Tx]

I've never been 'In Love' with a male sex partner, although I did have feelings of emptiness once it was over. I have been, and continue to be in love with my female sex partners (one being my wife, and the other a long time friend). Maybe I'm Bipartisan - I just love parties!

[Gearbox]

I'm biamorous, but don't know if I'm polyamorous.

[Okie1970]

I hope I'm not stepping on toes here since only the guys have commented so far....
I am both. Fairly new to poly and am enamored of the concepts of open, honest, considerate communication....it really is difficult to find individuals who can handle being all three though.

[RiverGuy]

I hope I'm not stepping on toes here since only the guys have commented so far....

Are you kidding!? It's about time one of the finer sex (kidding! -- we're both the finer sex!) spoke up. :tongue:

[Jobelorocks]

Well I am the kind of bisexual that is only attracted sexually to women, while I am attracted to men romantically and sexually. I am happily married and I really don't see a possibility of being in love with another person while loving my husband. I really am just not romantically interested in anyone but him. That being said, I am still sexually attracted to other people of both genders, and since my husband and I are swingers we do play with others. I don't mind having friendships with these people either (my husband and I actually prefer to be friends with the people we play with), but we make it clear that we are not interested in any sort of committed or romantic relationship with them.

People do confuse bisexuality and polyamoury and biamoury. While some bisexuals may be polyamours or biamourous , not all are. While not all polyamourous people are bisexual.

[Randypan]

Bi and poly here, altho I have never had the oportunity to be in a good poly relationship, I know it's out there somewhere. Tried it with my wife (who claimed to be poly), but her boyfriend had problems with it. She then decided she was no longer comfortable with poly and threw me out. Now alone and still dreaming. Turns out she was upset with me for not being jealous. Go figure.

[tenni]

To River
You posted both under the same thread. I don't get the understanding from what you posted that you see a connection between being biamorous and polyamorous...or do you?

Are you just stating how you see yourself? A couple of us see that we are biamorous but unclear about the polyamorous aspect. Did you always see yourself as both or was it a change in your relationships that made you aware of a polyamorous part of yourself?

Did you really want to hear from those who do not see themselves as biamorous or polyamorous? You seem to be getting a roll call from those who are not biamorous or polyamorous....:(

[RiverGuy]

To River
You posted both under the same thread. I don't get the understanding from what you posted that you see a connection between being biamorous and polyamorous...or do you?

No, not a necessary connection. Some bi people are polyamorous and some are not. Some biamorous people are also poly, while some are not. People come in all stripes (no pun intended).


Are you just stating how you see yourself?

Yes, in my initial post I did. Those are two questions in the thread title. Not one.


A couple of us see that we are biamorous but unclear about the polyamorous aspect.

Of course! And some are polyamorous and not biamorous. Every variation exists.



Did you always see yourself as both or was it a change in your relationships that made you aware of a polyamorous part of yourself?

I changed with age and experience. I started out as a mainly "gay," slightly bi-, basically monogamous guy. Now I'm perhaps equally attracted to both sexes and polyamorous. My long term love, Kevin, is also poly. My new girlfriend (who I almost want to call "sorta girlfriend" since we're just dating, really -- but love each other LOTS, nevertheless) is also polyamorous. However, she's heterosexual and heteroamorous. And my boyfriend is essentially homosexual and homoamorous.


Did you really want to hear from those who do not see themselves as biamorous or polyamorous?

Sure. It's an open discussion. I'm generally curious about everything.


You seem to be getting a roll call from those who are not biamorous or polyamorous....:(

Hmm. Seems like a pretty mixed crowd. Yet, perhaps biamorous people are a little more rare than I had imagined. There do appear to be a lot of bisexual folks who are not also biamorous. (I am speaking generally, here, from my observations in other forums as well.)