Confused :/

[ctafsconfused]

Hi all,
I am new to this site and i am trying to find someone to help me out. I am trying to understand my sexuality. I am 19 years old and I am in college so i still have a lot of time to figure it out but i need some help. I am not sure if i am bi or not. When i was younger i experimented with one of my guy friends. I ws about 13 years old so i was starting to grow up. I never thought about being bi until recently because i started think about what i did when i was younger.
it started out in the 8th grade when i had my best friend over to stay the night. I had fallen asleep before my friend and while i was sleeping he decided to come over to the couch that i was sleeping on and give me a bj. I woke up to him sucking my cock and I just let him continue sucking my cock until i came. We did more experimentation after that and right before i moved to a different city i let him stick his cock in my ass. I liked it. But i havent been with another male since so i am really confused.
Can someone help me? :(

[fredtyg]

I'd say if you're interested in doing it again you might well be bisexual.

[elian]

A bisexual person feels attraction toward both males and females. There are different types of attraction - sometimes romantic, emotional, intellectual, physical, sexual...

Your first sexual experience happened when you were young, and you've shared that it's only been once or twice. I think it is typical for most people to experiment with their sexuality, we are naturally very curious, we desire acceptance, love and affection and are full of hormones at that age..

As you gain more experience it may be easier to tell what your true feelings are..you may like only one gender or both.. If you are like me growing up, and try very hard to prove you like men OR women only to end up confused when you find yourself thinking of BOTH then you may actually BE bisexual.

No matter what your feelings ultimately are, know that you are always loved and worthy of dignity and respect - there is nothing "wrong" with trying to figure out who you are - but do try to do it in safe, healthy, respectful way. Remember that you don't NEED sex to be loved, people ought to (and do) love you for who you are first...but if you want to feel pleasure, or be pleasured sexually..I think that is natural too. :)

[Gearbox]

Your not going to know for certain if you still like males until you try it again.
I had pre-teen experience that stopped (for decades.:eek:). It left me wondering if I'd really enjoy a male body or if I was just fantasising.
I didn't know how I'd react with a man until I eventually tried it.

It may feel 'Wrong' for you, and it may feel 'Right'. Only one way to find out though.;)

[maxtor]

it is very good time and place to find out. there are plenty of guys in college that are gay or bi and not afraid to flaunt it. i would find one that i liked and take him to bed. that is the only way you are going to find out. if i were a betting man, i would bet you will enjoy it, most do that enjoyed it as a kid. i had experiences when i was pre teen and found that i liked playing with cocks and i still do although i perfer women i do like playing occasionally and really love receiving anal sex once in a while which my GF has a strap on that i enjoy but not like the real thing of sucking a nice hard cock then letting it slide into you and pound you till he cums.

[Jobelorocks]

There is a time and place for everything and it's called college. Lol. If there is ever a perfect time or place to experiment and have some self discovery it would probably have to be college. Branch out, try new things, and figure out what you like and what you don't (make sure that you are safe about doing it though!). I guarantee you if you suppress your bi-curious feelings you will always be left wondering if you are bi or not. Just try it out... start small and work your way up.

[ctafsconfused]

What would any of you advise me to do? I mean right now i am in the army so i am not anywhere near my college. What should i do. I find myself getting extremely turned on by some of the posts that i see posted on this website. I am nervous about trying it again. I wouldnt know how to approach a guy that is bi/gay. The thing is I never actually sucked a cock or fucked a guy in the ass. I have only recieved it and i loved it. We did it more than just once or twice. We had about 4 other times when we did stuff including one time in public. He actually was sucking my cock when a few people on their bicycles rode by us and I had just started to cum in his mouth. I dont know what to do and i dont know how to approach it.

[elian]

If the website makes you horny then understand you like guys, that's perfectly fine but a lot of people in society may not understand. Try not to get horny reading the website. I hope you are doing that on your own personal PC..not a good idea with government PC at all. Army gets upset when they see soldiers with families back home in compromising or lustful positions. Even if you are still single do not jeopardize your career.

The DoD is on the verge of repealing "Don't ask don't tell" but I don't think it's anywhere safe yet for you to do anything publicly - if it ever does happen it might take YEARS for the Army to integrate and to be honest command would probably treat relations between two men the same that they would treat relations between a male and female (or worse) - so in a word - I'm not sure you can do much safely while you are enlisted.. Duty, Loyalty, Honor, Respect, Selfless Service come first..

Military guys in the Army might be able to give a better opinion.

Anyway, it won't be forever and when you get out you'll have the GI Bill and many more options..there's always masturbation and if I know men I can pretty much guarantee you probably won't be the only guy doing THAT while you are there.

Good luck, I will send you warm thoughts....<drools>...great, now I have to think of Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day... <smiles>

[ctafsconfused]

I want to find someone that i would be able to be alone with and someone that would understand me. I am a really shy guy as it is with females. I dont know what i would do if it was with a guy. I am enjoying a lot of the stories on here. They are making me want to try it more and more. I am afraid to suck a cock though.

[elian]

I want to find someone that i would be able to be alone with and someone that would understand me. I am a really shy guy as it is with females. I dont know what i would do if it was with a guy. I am enjoying a lot of the stories on here. They are making me want to try it more and more. I am afraid to suck a cock though.

I am also painfully introverted at times, especially around women. I was always around them growing up and thought of them more like sisters - so sexual thoughts about them seemed awkward to me at first.

It makes more sense to me if you can do this with a friend or someone you trust. It's about pleasure so if you feel uncomfortable you need to say that - you don't have to start out with a blow job - start out with masturbation together if you want. There are guys who like that idea although they probably won't advertise publicly. You could even start out just being in each other's arms.

See, now I'm probably not helping... <drools> in your current circumstances you might not be able to act, just bide your time - eventually it will happen.

[Jobelorocks]

maybe try some online bi or gay dating sites or even try something like adultfriendfinder. This may be helpful. You can warm up a little to it by private messaging the guys. You will probably still be nervous, but maybe warn the guy before you meet that you are nervous about it. Most people are pretty understanding. And some people are into breaking in a newbie. I sure wouldn't advertise your way of work and try to be discreet about it. I hope you are able to find someone. You can even try checking out the personal ads on this site.

You can even watch some gay porn to get help warm yourself up to the idea of being with a guy. I mean it is a little step, but it may help you feel slightly more comfortable.

[ctafsconfused]

I am just going to accept the fact that i am bisexual. I am trying to hook up with that guy that i fooled around with in the 8th grade for another experimental session. :P i am really excited. I cant wait but at the same time i am nervous as hell.

[elian]

Aww, <smiles> well - that a long time ago but I suppose he is "safe" to you..good luck!

[ctafsconfused]

thanks. are there any tips you can give me before i do anything

[LastGent]

Tips, eh? Well, ctafsconfused, before getting into a sexual encounter know what activity you want to do. This helps prevent sexual assault. Come to an agreement with the other guy about what all you feel like doing. Only agree to do things that you are really hot for at the time. If you feel insecure at any time then say so so that you guys can take a break until you feel better, use code words to signify this. If there is a chance that body fluids might be exchanged between you then you need to talk about condoms. Semen, blood, and rectal gunk are forbidden-don't listen to all the cumsuckers on this website. Make sure none of you have transmittable diseases. If you want receptive anal penetration please use tons of lubricant, and start small if you haven't done it in a long time. The sphincter needs to get used to it. Men who insist on forgoing the use of condoms for high fluid transmission risk acts are treating you like a sex toy, not a person.

[elian]

Does he KNOW that you are interested in sexual type things?

Meet him publicly first? It has been a while, why not invite him to go out and have dinner - get to know and see if he is someone you would be interested in experimenting with or not.

When I do anything with other people (sexual or not) i try very hard not to have an preconceived notions in my mind of how things "ought to be" - it's hard to be disappointed that way

You are there to enjoy each other's company. If it turns out that you are both interested and consenting do what comes naturally to you and what you are both comfortable with.

Typically first time guys are very nervous, take it easy and if something doesn't happen well - that's okay - hopefully you've still made (or reconnected) with a good friend anyway.

[ctafsconfused]

I am hoping that he is up for the fun. I have been thinking about it more and more lately so i have been getting a major boner a lot lately. I have been imagining him sucking my hard cock while i jack him off. I am really interested in what he will say about doing it with me. I am really excited. i hope that he does what he did the last time he and i were together. :bigrin:

[adero08]

i think you are a little confused, but your still in the experimentation phase, which is cool. I would say don't jump to any conclusions and find a few more SAFE partners to be with. take your time with it and have fun.