Advise for is it cheating

[Fun guy 6969]

Took advice and did talk to wife about having sex with another man while she was not interested in sex at this time.
Her response: It is ok, but she would want to be present, and it must be kept safe, she thinks that if she were present it might get her over her feelings presently about sex. I hope it works. Would love to get her into the sex game again, the way it used to be.
I posted this here because I did not know how else to thank everone for the comments.
Thanks

[csrakate]

You did the right thing and I am sure you'll be much happier for having been totally honest with your wife. I don't know what it is that is keeping her from feeling sexual, but by all means continue to make her feel loved, desired and needed....especially if she is going to be a witness to your same sex play. Good luck to you both!

[BiBedBud]

Dude,

This sounds like a bit of a disaster waiting to happen.
Bringing a third in just like that, out of the blue, without the lead-up, could really cause a lot of problems.

My advice: Start-off with watching some pornos together. Start your wife with some rather tame heterosexual stuff, then move on to something with guy-guy or even bisex.

See how she responds to the porn, before you bring in a third for her viewing.
:2cents:

[Jobelorocks]

Dude,

This sounds like a bit of a disaster waiting to happen.
Bringing a third in just like that, out of the blue, without the lead-up, could really cause a lot of problems.

My advice: Start-off with watching some pornos together. Start your wife with some rather tame heterosexual stuff, then move on to something with guy-guy or even bisex.

See how she responds to the porn, before you bring in a third for her viewing.
:2cents:

Pal, you need to read the old post titled: Is this cheating? You don't have the full story.

[Long Duck Dong]

good on you gacat and well done for being honest with your wife, I hope it all works out in everybodies favour

[DuckiesDarling]

That's awesome, Gacat, I had a feeling if you talked to your wife this would happen. So I hope that you go slow and if it brings her back to what you had before operation, awesome, if not, enjoy what you have. Good luck.

[Gearbox]

Lovely!:)
No stressing about it any more. I hope this catches on too.
Have fun!!!!!:three: