Married Crossdresser needs help

[jwaage1986]

My wife does not know of my bi-side, however I told her of my fondness for panties. She knew that I liked to use her white Satin Victoria Secret panties to stroke myself with. I finally had the nerve to tell her that I slept in them while she was out of town. She was cool with this and even had me put them on. Late one night she came downstairs unepectantly and saw me in her tan Olga panties. She thought I was naked because she didn't have her contacts in. I told her the next day that I liked the feeling of her panties. For the last year and a half, before we have sex, she will used her vibrator and tell me, "use my panties." I slip them on and rub myself while watching her. She will them rub me while I am wearing the panties and I love it. She has since given me a nice silky pair of tan Olga panties. I ALSO WEAR HER LACY TAN PANTIES and will purposely leave them in the laundry basket so she know I am using them. I have also purchased many pairs of my own panties and keep them in my top dresser drawer where they are not hidden. I am hoping for the day to tell her about my fondess of wearing a bra. Wearing lingerie has been a thrill of mine since high school. I would like to tell her, but I don't know how. Do I just tell her? I know most women would probably except the panty wearing, but I know wearing a bra is a totally different thing. I would love to wear a bra, breast forms, and panties and have sex or even kissing with my wife, even if it was only once a month. I have no desire to wear make-up, wigs, or dresses. I would give up my bi-side forever just to kiss my wife while wearing a bra and panties. It has been a fantasy of mine since high school to be "dressed" in front of the woman I love.

Thank you.

[Long Duck Dong]

it appears that she has some understanding of your desires, and a willingness to share that with you.....so use that as a stepping stone

a trick you can try, is something that is non sexual but can become sexual.....

talk to her about wearing the panties and tell her how it makes you feel, but you are curious about how it would feel to be her, what its like to wear a bra and things ... tell her how you have been curious for a long time about that.... that you are not going to turn into a woman via surgery, but that you long to be in her * shoes * and get a idea on what it is like for her as a lady....

that is where you can start to make it more sexual by saying that role reversal is a way you can do it.... ie her on top, with you in a bra so you can get a idea on what its like to be the lady and that way, learn other ways to please her even more

it works both ways, in your favour, you are showing your partner you care about her, her wants needs and desires and at the same time, you are fulfilling yours..... and you never know, she may be very interested in it... cos it sounds like hes is definately open minded and interested already

[Michigan_cpl]

i agree with long duck dong, another thing that i might add is is just be open and honest with your self and to your wife.

[pantycouple]

We agree with whats been said. It appears she is understanding of you wearing panties and understands that is gives you great pleasure as she is willing to include panty play during sex. As far as going further and wearing more like bra and lingerie your not sure how she would react. We also agree that you might want to take things slow and it may take time but patience is the key thing. Perhaps you can tell her that you enjoy feeling her breasts through her bra and comment on the fabric feeling so good, she might just get the hint just as she did with the panties, and use her bra on you much the same way she used the panties. She might just open up a conversation about how they would feel against your nipples and perhaps it might lead to her rubbing them against your nipples. And that could lead to having her suggest you try it on. Take small steps and you might just have her suggesting you try the bra on. Check out our profile for more about us.