Problem with mutual oral (69)

[Reprob8]

Whether I am with my wife or a friend of mine I am able to respond to oral sex however, in either case if we try mutual oral I don't get an erection, I totally get into what I am doing, thoroughly enjoy giving oral. If I am just receiving oral I respond fine.

I am OK with this, but I don't know how to reassure my partner that everything is OK. To be honest, if I am really into giving oral I don't need any reciprocation.

Is this a problem? Does anyone else have similar experiences?

[Long Duck Dong]

its a problem if you want it to be a problem.....

tell them that you like to focus on the experience and sensations you are giving and recieving..., the feel, the taste the sensation, its just so good, that it makes it a lil hard to focus on mutual oral......

tell them that you are getting one hell of a lot of pleasure from what you are doing, and the fact they are allowing you to lose yourself in the experience....

some people do struggle a lil with the idea that giving pleasure, matters more than recieving it, to some people..... its like people that perfer to watch others having sex, more than having sex with them

[Jobelorocks]

generally I cannot focus to well while receiving, so I will stop randomly not even realizing it and then start up again and think "oh yeah, I should be doing this for them too." lol

[elian]

I sometimes have this problem, and not just with oral sex - I just concentrate so much on pleasuring the other person that sometimes I forget to try and relax and enjoy the..rrr...ummm...ride? Don't think it's wrong, but I hope some day to be at ease enough so that it doesn't happen.

[dickhand]

I too prefer one or the other , give or recieve , but not both at the same time . Don't get me wrong , it's nice to start with . I really like to be able to focus on my partner when orally pleasing them .

[lizard-lix]

It can be distracting, but sometimes it can be mind blowing..

Probably the most intense orgasm I've ever had was cumming together with my wife in 69, we were both just totally off planet for several minutes.

So, I like giving, getting or simultaneous; but each has it's moment.

[Realist]

Mutual, simultaneous stimulation is both fun and feels good. And, I want to give as good as I get. I have done it and enjoyed it, too.

But, for me, I would rather concentrate on one, or the other, when it's time for orgasms.

It can be very distracting, to be in the process of pleasing your partner, when they are about to make you cum, at the same instant. I fear I might forget to do the one thing, that they've been craving, just then!

I'd rather not be worried about anyone else's pleasure, when I am approaching that peak, myself!

[NakedInSeattle]

I agree...it's a focus problem. I like to focus completely on what I'm doing or what is being done to me. I enjoy it much much better than trying to split the concentration.

[BicuriousIndy2]

I think practice makes perfect. Keep trying relax and enjoy.

[Bicuriousman]

Luv it. works like viagra for me whether with another male or female:bigrin:

[Annika L]

Nope...love the *idea* of 69...but it's never lived up to its promise for me. I have the same focus problem here that some others mentioned: I'm either focused on what I'm doing, or focused on trying to reach orgasm...can't do both at once. When I try, I invariably end up shifting focus back and forth in an annoying and frustrating way. Fortunately, my partner feels the same, so it's just something we don't do often or for long.

[lv69cpl69]

hey just look at our screen name :bigrin:

[ErosUrge]

Mutual oral is something that works sometimes for me and other times not. I manage to keep my erection, it's just getting to orgasm that doesn't always happen.
However on two occasions, it was amazing and both experiences being with two different males. On each separate occasion, we were able to be totally relaxed and in rhythm with each other. The sensations continued and gained momentum and it was obvious to each of us that we were going towards orgasm....we stayed with it until that moment and on both occasions, we reached orgasm at precisely the same time...
There is much more detail than I will go into here and spare everyone. I have had many amazing sexual experiences with both men and women, but these two moments were up there with all the great moments.

[bi42guy1958]

I sometimes have this problem, and not just with oral sex - I just concentrate so much on pleasuring the other person that sometimes I forget to try and relax and enjoy the..rrr...ummm...ride? Don't think it's wrong, but I hope some day to be at ease enough so that it doesn't happen.

This is just like me! :bigrin: I think more of pleasing the other person rather than on my pleasure, I lose my erection.

I just simply tell the person that Im a "pleaser" and most times its OK, they get what they want and I do as well!! :bigrin::bigrin::bigrin:

[cumplay]

I too like the idea of a 69 but, trying to concentrate on receiving oral pleasure and giving oral pleasure at the same time just doesn't work for me. Still, I try.

[drugstore cowboy]

My husband and I love to 69 each other.

When I've had sex with women I like to 69 with them as long as they're clean, shaved/trimmed, and fresh from the shower.

It sounds as though you're not into 69 at all which is fine since everyone is into different things sexually.

Me I'm not into getting anal sex at all and I do sometimes give it to my husband at rare times.

If he told me how he didn't want to ever get fucked again it wouldn't be the end of the world or our wonderful sex and romance together.

[maxtor]

yeah, you are like me....i love getting between my girlfriends legs and pushing them wide apart and work that pussy over for about an hour before we ever get to the penetration. i have got a way i lead her up to a giant orgasm working slowly on those lips, around those lips and trailing down and rimming and back up and tongue fucking her, fingering and almost fisting and all the time keeping at least one hand on a nipple. i work on that hard clit till it is just hard as a rock and she is juicing running down her ass and onto the mattress along with my sliva. dont get me wrong, i love to play with a cock and give it some soft head all the way as far as i can can stand it without the gag affect but dont have much of that. i love getting into eating her pussy and my cock gets hard as a rock when she orgasms and then i slide up and slide the cock to her and grab those legs over my shoulders and away we go till she almosts passes out...and me too!!



Whether I am with my wife or a friend of mine I am able to respond to oral sex however, in either case if we try mutual oral I don't get an erection, I totally get into what I am doing, thoroughly enjoy giving oral. If I am just receiving oral I respond fine.

I am OK with this, but I don't know how to reassure my partner that everything is OK. To be honest, if I am really into giving oral I don't need any reciprocation.

Is this a problem? Does anyone else have similar experiences?

[12voltman59]

When it comes to doing 69 with either ladies or guys--I very much enjoy it and like to do it---I do get an erection-but have never cum that way---I does seem that I cannot do so---it has to be that either I am concentrating totally on making the partner in question have an orgasm by me performing oral sex on them---or they doing it to me---but I just don't have enough ability to focus on both performing oral sex and having it done on me at the same time for me to have an orgasm.

I don't worry about it and just figure that "that is is the way it is" for me.

Glad to see that others have the same "problem"

[othercat]

69 is my least favorite sexual activity to do with a partner. i cant focus. doing it side by side is less distracting plus i can get a better view of my partner. i like to watch two girls do 69, one one top of the other, i like watching guys do it side by side. i definately dont like being on the bottom, it can be like getting smothered if the top person is s few extra pounds. i have done it with a girl that was a few exta pound with me on top, eating her pussy that way great but my cock was in such back angle that it wasnt very pleasurable.my fep girl friend like to get on all fours with me underneath. our bodies were in the dame direction if you can visualize that. then she would lower her pussy down on my mouth and i could lick her pussy and suck het clit real good that way. she loved because she had alot of control and wigggle and grind and gyrate on my mouth to suite her fancy.