married male and daily fantasize and masturbate about other men....Others????

[izbebi]

I am married and bisexual. My wife knew prior to us getting married and for the the most part she has no issue with it. I tell her everyhting and do not run around at all. Occassionally through the 20 years or so I have had 5 "friends" who I have explored with and all I have done is oral and mutual oral and my wife knew each time. I dont' plan on changing anyhting nor do I feel bad. However I do on a weekly basis fantasize about certian friends and masturbate often about that.

I guess I wondered if others are like me and how so or if people dont agree with the dual lifestyle

[bisocialnudist]

As a bisexual I need both men and women in my life. I am fortunate to have married my best friend some 30 years ago and because she is my best friend she wants me to be truly happy. Living my life as a bisexual with her acceptance and understanding has made all the difference in our life, for the better. My wife knows full well that as a bisexual I fantasize about men when I masturbate and she is comfortable with my having gay and bi friends.

Not everyone is the same and its time for our society to start accepting those of us who want to get up each morning and celebrate the day we have been given exactly as the person we are with acceptance and understanding. So in response to your post here is another vote for doing it our way.

[Long Duck Dong]

my situation is different, I am a asexual natured person which means that I lack a sex drive, I do not have the hormonal reactions that most people do.... so masturbation for me is about triggering endorphins to ease a migraine or stress levels, more than sexual release and desire purging

as a teenager, masturbating 5-6 times a day, was normal for me, and that is cos I found sex to be rather boring.... there was no emotion to it, just plain fucking..... but with the masturbation, there was plenty of emotion and feeling, tho I was alone when I did it, and yeah my fantasies were about males and females......

what did surprise me later on, when I was studying and training as a counsellor and therapist, was the way it was looked at as a pre cursor to cheating and how people that masturbated while thinking of other real people, were more likely to cheat, than people that masturbated over random images and fantasies..... if that is true, I have never seen a study that supports it..lol...

so enjoy spanking the monkey to ya hearts content ......

[tenni]

I think that creativebi has an attitude that I can agree with. We are bisexuals and how we live our life is our business and not societies. I am inclined to think that our fantasies are about what we do not have or can not have...at the moment. Monosexuals and asexuals have their values and way of living. Bisexuals are uniquely different. Masturbation is one thing that most men, regardless of their sexuality, do and their fantasies while masturbating are just that.

[lizard-lix]

I am in the same boat and have the same solution so far :-) (maybe swinging one day).

I am faithful, and she knows I am bi, but I masturbate to fantasies or porn and cyber a little..

Been doing that for all of our 32 years (except the cyber is Internet recent)

[pepperjack]

once read somewhere that a same sex encounter is the #1 sexual fantasy among heterosexual people who make up 50% of the population, bi 46% and gay 4%;

[nitrog100]

Well...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMWkoYYYdwM It's a good song

[bikiniman]

I have been married 18 years and am completely monogamous. I fantasize about men and masturbate to gay pornography regularly. My wife knows about this but I know she wouldn't she wouldn't accept me having sex with another man. So fantasy is where it will have to stay.

[djones]

However I do on a weekly basis fantasize about certian friends and masturbate often about that.


Careful with all the masturbating - you'll go blind !

[mikey3000]

Man, it's so common, I'd worry about you if you didn't. :bigrin:

[izbebi]

it is extremly common. I am amazed at how many married men are on chat and gay porn sites that I interact with. Typically wanting to share fantasies and masturbate. Most common they want to suck cock

[rutemptedalso]

I'm right there with ya. I fantasize almost daily too. I've told my wife about my same sex attraction and stuff that happened in my teens. I just want her approval before I am with anyone else. That might be an awful long wait. Uuugh!

[jackbirdjay]

My first wife (we got married to young at 19 years old) didn't like it when I told her I was bisexual even thou I didn't act on it yet. I told her in the high school gym showers I would always check guys out. Well we didn't last long split up with end a year. When we were seperated I had my first cock at 20. Met my second wife when I was 25 after having sex with different guys. We lived together before we got married for a few years. I tested the waters with her. I told her I was very bicurious and that I wanted to have sex with a guy. She was ok with the idea and thank me for being honest. Before we got married I did have sex with a guy a few times but after we married I only had sex with her. We married in 1990 and our sex life was great. She would indulge in my bi side using her toys on me. Now tring to get her in a mmf. she likes the idea but says she's scared of catching something. She dose not get in to sex anymore. I chat on line with guys and masturbate everyday looking at gay and bisexual porn. She knows this and is ok with it.

[BiDaveDtown]

I'm male, bisexual, and married to a woman and I don't fantasize about men daily.

I'm not saying that it doesn't happen or happens on rare occasions, but it certainly does not happen daily.

Yes my wife knows I'm bisexual. We are monogamous.

[Driver57]

after 2 marriages and at the sweet "young" age of 57, (I told my second wife about my having sex with men) I told my now girlfriend that I was bi when we talked about living together. She asked if I still liked sex with men... I just asked her what do you think? She understood. We are still together after 4 years. And yes I masturbate thing about women and men... a lot

[LastGent]

Right now I'm going through a Kristen Kreuk phase, so I can't relate at the moment. Maybe next week I'll have words of wisdom for you, izbebi.

[daveeg]

I am married and bisexual. My wife knew prior to us getting married and for the the most part she has no issue with it. I tell her everyhting and do not run around at all. Occassionally through the 20 years or so I have had 5 "friends" who I have explored with and all I have done is oral and mutual oral and my wife knew each time. I dont' plan on changing anyhting nor do I feel bad. However I do on a weekly basis fantasize about certian friends and masturbate often about that.

I guess I wondered if others are like me and how so or if people dont agree with the dual lifestyle

hey I frquently do the same but im not married.

[Timmie]

I am in the same boat and have the same solution so far :-) (maybe swinging one day).

I am faithful, and she knows I am bi, but I masturbate to fantasies or porn and cyber a little..

Been doing that for all of our 32 years (except the cyber is Internet recent)

hey if your ever in the chat room PC me and let's have a little cyber fun