friends, acquaintances or stangers for 1st time?

[cpl-needs-bi]

Any suggestions for setting up first encounters for a couple? We can't decide on how to proceed....mutual friend or someone we know now or in the past, meeting someone online like this site or going out and "hooking up". I can see the obvious issues with each option - would appreciate ALL opinions, "lessons" learned & :2cents:.

Thanks!!

[BiDaveDtown]

Everyone's different and I can see how in certain situations and scenarios all 3 would work.

You'll meet people who will say that it's all good with either a friend or fuck buddy, acquaintance, or a stranger for your first time.

[bityme]

Any suggestions for setting up first encounters for a couple? We can't decide on how to proceed....mutual friend or someone we know now or in the past, meeting someone online like this site or going out and "hooking up". I can see the obvious issues with each option - would appreciate ALL opinions, "lessons" learned & :2cents:.

Thanks!!

There is nothing wrong with "All of the Above."

Just relax, take what opportunities come along without trying to push yourself into something. Your first encounter could come from any of the methods you mention. Put some feelers out letting people know you are available and see what happens.

Some advice, however: Decide ahead of time what your parameters are; age, body type, experience, race, man, woman, couple, straight, bi, soft swap, full swap or a yes or no on condoms. There is nothing wrong with having preferences. You are seeking a situation in which you will both feel comfortable.

Meet your prospects socially first. Coffee or cocktails to break the ice and get to know them without the expectation that you will be in bed an hour after you meet. Discuss your desires and make your limitations known. If there are certain things on your "Won't Do List" make sure your new friends know about it. Don't worry about having them say that based on your conversation they don't think you would be compatible. It's better to find that out over coffee than in a hotel room you have already paid for.

At that first meeting, you can decide if you want to get together again and set it up or you can tell them you want to go home and talk about your meeting and will be in touch with them later. If you take the second route, make sure you contact them either way. It's better to call and say, "We have thought it over and we don't think it will work." instead of them hearing nothing. You don't want to establish a reputation as a flake.

A social meeting first will take away some of the nervousness and increase your comfort level. Pick people who are friendly, non-pushy, the type you can laugh with. When you finally get to the bedroom, you want things comfortable and you want to enjoy it. There are no guarantees, but you can do a lot to make the path easier.

Good luck and may your first time be spectacular!

Pappy

[wishbone8]

agree social meeting always best at first, we have been with a number of bisexual men and first rule is that we never sleep with anyone first date, take your time ,get to know whoever you chose to sleep with, makes the experience way more sensual and meaningful