Ladies....he said if I built it you would come

[MetalMadam]

Hi ladies, new to the forum here. After lamenting on the scarcity of bisexual women in life and the internet boards I am taking another posters suggestion to call you all out and say hi. For as long as I can remember I have been bisexual, but at 30 years old I have yet to connect with someone like me. I know lots of gay people, including my best friend, but in my experience gay women are either threatened or believe I have not made my choice. So my question, in the interest of dialogue, is where do you meet bi women? Do you go to bars? Are you part of an accepting queer community or like me do you find yourself searching the internet? to clarify, I don't just mean for a quick pick up, I'm truly interested in meeting others like me, for friendship at the very least. Thanks for reading.

[Okie1970]

Roll call, huh? Okay. I have had a challenge to meet bi women also. I have mostly used the internet but have recently begun using meetup groups to expand my horizons as a person and meet more bi women. It is no surprise that you are having a hard time of it with your Lesbian friends. I went through that years ago in the GLBT community in Salt Lake City. There are still a lot of people that don't believe in us...ironic since we're here!
I'd suggest going to meetups that are not overtly put on by the GLBT community, such as polyamory groups, pagans, singles groups, etc. Even if you don't agree with everything , you will meet interesting people and get some new ideas to ponder.
Also, because we don't stand out (a lot of us, anyway) you might not even realise you know other bi-women. - Just something to think about when you want to drive yourself nuts.
Welcome! I am fairly new here to and have found everyone to be nice so far.
Freya

[lizard-lix]

You may want to look at the swinger's clubs in your area... Single ladies are almost always welcome and most swinger's clubs are a quite safe environment where no means no (it's the first and most observed rule, not like dance clubs)

The club we've gone to here in Texas has a bi ladies night once a month. (unfortunately, they never have a bi guys night :-(

A lot of the ladies-who-swing I've spoken with, or know here on the net, are bi and always looking for female playmates, with or without their hubbies/SO's involved.

Good luck!

Happy Friday!

Liz

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Great minds think alike, Liz. I was just going to suggest the same thing. :tongue: I have also found some great Bi Ladies on FetLife too..:} Its not All about BDSM like I had first thought, theres all kinds of groups there for joining and meeting up with other like minded folks. Look for a group from your area, and no tellin who you might find.
Good luck Sweets.
Cat

[nudistharry]

I seem to be able to meet lots of bi women (or at least women who claim to be bi), but haven't met a guy who claims to be bi. Just recently 2 women that I work with told me they are bi.

[Katja]

Some lesbian women can be quite threatening but not all are so. When I am in cities where there is a thriving lesbian community I go to their bars and places they conregate, and as often as not have found that the person I speak with is bisexual.

Since separating and divorcing my husband I have had a number same sex relationshipships mostly with bisexual women, but the occasional one with a lesbian. The last was a real joy and taught me as much about human relationships as much as those of bisexual or gay women.

Most of these relationships have been one of encounters, lasting but a few hours, but several, including the last, which was never love, but a deeply satisfying friendship and fed an internal need for both of us.

It doesn't worry me whether a same sex partner is lesbian or bisexual. I simply do not care. We have one thing in common and that is an attraction to our own gender and that we satisfy sexually as best we can.

Currently I am in a relationship with a 20 year old student who is attractive fun, sexy and very bisexual. We met while having lunch, got to talking and found by working our way around to sex, men and eventually sexuality our common interest. She is currently up at my cottage with only my cat for company while I am 'hard at work and I can't wait to finish (early since its my business!) and get off home.

Neither of us expects to spend the rest of our lives together but for now we are an item, and it is as commonly known we are an item at her university as it is around where I live. We are good together and we are fun.

I do not live my life for sex, nor do I live my life for one gender. I have many other interests and a business to run, but like anyone else I have needs and desires which sometimes need to be sated. At times when I am unnattached I do not always go round looking for a fuck, male or female all of the time, but I am young, healthy with a strong sexual appetite and there are occasions when opportunity knocks and try to take advantage of that.

In my part of the world there are few openly gay and even less openly bisexual people of either sex. This does change in the summer as tourists flock to one of the most popular and picturesque parts of England, and availability increases. Availability of women, and sexier men.

There is little difficulty in attracting men at any time, but there are ways of discerning a woman's sexual interests through a carefully crafted conversation, and also by sheer weight of numbers and by their absence from home as well as the 'holiday spirit', there are lesbian and bisexual women who will take an obvious interest in those of us who are likely to provide them with what they want and need.