Will power

[Realist]

This morning, I was reflecting on a chat with a bisexual lady, named Rose, about will power. I believe that was about 6 years ago....not sure; maybe it was longer.

The discussion began when she told me of being extremely attracted to her daughter's best friend. The girl, who was in her late teens and, 20 years younger than Rose, subtly teased and taunted Rose. She would touch Rose, close, but not directly, in sensitive places, gave her glimpses of her breasts, through revealing tops, looked directly into Rose's eyes and parted her lips, or would walk out of the bathroom naked, when she was aware Rose could see her. Sometimes, the girl would walk by, then spin around to catch Rose looking at her derriere....grinned, taking her time to retreat.

Rose was divorced, bisexual, but very closeted. At 40 years old, she was at the height of her sexual prowess. Her only sensual relief was rare day trips to visit a married college friend, about 2, or 3 times a year. ( the husband is not involved, she said) Since her divorce, masturbation and the trips to see her old paramour, had been her only sexual outlet. She and I also had phone sex, sometimes, too. (We lived about 1,100 miles apart, never met)

Very cautious around her daughter, Rose was very guarded about her language and subjects she would discuss.

Her daughter seemed to be immature for her age and her focus those days seemed to be on cheer-leading, games, and frivolous endeavors. Rose saw no indication that the two girls were more than friends; they were definitely vastly different.

Her daughter's friend seemed to much more interested in carnal aspects of life and more dark and bold. There was a deep sensuousness and rose felt her heat, when she was close by.

While we were in contact, Rose had resisted indicating to the girl that she was interested. I've wondered how that situation ended. (nosy me...Inquiring Minds Wanna Know)

I've long lost contact with Rose. I've moved, time has elapsed, but often wonder about her. Did she ever succumb to the daughter's friend, or not?

It's amazing how some people can resist temptation, while weaker souls lose control.

On more than one occasion, mostly in my youth, I have failed to overcome urges that I knew would not be in my best interest, if the event was discovered...socially, or job-wise, it may not have been a smart move. I've been in Rose's position, i.e., in a small town, very conservative family, friends. So I understand her situation.

I've had experience with people who had obvious desires, but possessed the strength and will power to resist. Some were amazing in their resolve. I felt that some of them could have easily succumbed to their urges with no ill effects. But, in other instances, remaining steadfast was the prudent thing to do.

I would like to discuss this with others, to see how they reacted to certain temptations. Did you resist, or not?

[**Peg**]

... I've had experience with people who had obvious desires, but possessed the strength and will power to resist. Some were amazing in their resolve....

.... in other instances, remaining steadfast was the prudent thing to do. I would like to discuss this with others, to see how they reacted to certain temptations. Did you resist, or not?


I'm still resisting, I have TONS of won't power. Resisting (only) until I find the one I can't live without (cause he AINT livin with me) :tong:

[lizard-lix]

Being monogamous, yes I did resist...

I am still quite close to a girl I met when I was 17 and she was 15. We were swing from the ceiling friends with benefits back then (in college she'd come in the back door as my girlfriend was leaving from the front, we did several 3-ways with other friends, etc).

I am almost 55 now. I married someone else and she did as well (we are not suited for each other that way). But we still have the hots for each other after all these years.. and after years of living in different places, we are back to living near each other again

To make it worse, we end up spending time alone together regularly (it is not uncommon for me to do some computer or electrical work for her during the day when her hubby is at work).

We talk about it all the time since we are both dirty kids at heart and both spouses are pretty vanilla (though my wife and I are working on that). I am the porn collector of the bunch, so I supply them with all their porn as well, so we not only talk about sex, we talk about it in dripping detail.

But somehow we have resisted it for all these years

A few days before my wedding was the closest we came. She had taken over my bedroom in the communal apartment and I was sleeping in the living room for the week, since I had already moved to where my new job was. She came and got me to answer a phone call on the line in my old room and I plopped down on the bed to talk.. I hung up the phone and in two seconds flat we were tugging off each other's underwear. We looked at each other, gave a big sigh and she pushed me out of the bed, both of us going 'Damn!'

The bright side is that our spouses both know about our past and know that we made a conscious decision to behave. As a result, my wife and her hubby have no problems with the situation and trust us. We are all friends.

So, by not giving into temptation we got to make the best of the reality...

Now if we could only get the spouses to swing, I'd love to see the girls together and he's hunky too :-)

Liz

[maxtor]

i try not to resist too much!! i like everything, not married, so i dont have to resist...i take it all..

[Gearbox]

Lot's of times it's not will power, but fear that stops us from 'taking the fruit'.

I missed great opportunities to explore with a friends older brother while single long ago. I still fantasise about him now.
He used to love showing me his hardon under his jeans and talk about sex with women and particularly anal sex. I was sure he knew I wanted to mess around with him, and that it turned him on.(suspect bi).
I didn't use will power to stop me advancing! It was fear and confusion.

Thank God I managed to ditch those hurdles.:tongue:

[Darkside2009]

Oscar Wilde once stated that he could resist anything...but temptation. :bigrin:

[Realist]

When I was about 9, or 10, my father had a friend who used to come visit with us. He sometimes slept over, would swim with us and stay with my sister and me, while my parents were away.

He and I would wrestle and I began to notice he'd get erections, when there was a lot of body contact. I loved to touch it in his pants, but acted like it was an accident. If he realized what I was doing, he'd pull my hand away and I remember him asking me one time not to touch him, there.

One time, he was letting me drive his Jeep, while I sat in his lap. I could feel his erection against my butt. I became erect, too, but since he had admonished me before, I didn't say, or do, anything. I did enjoy the knowledge that he was erect, though.

Now, I know that he was aroused, but still he had the strength to resist interacting with me, sexually. Looking back, I think it took a lot of fortitude to keep from allowing things to progress.

I probably would have never said anything, but I respect him for his strength.