an update!

[Emunahd]

For those of you that so kindly offered advice, here is an update.

I saw my BF last night. I took a big deep breath and laid it all out there in a very calm and supportive manner. I told him I had again seen his cruising site when I used his computer - for the record, I was NOT snooping. I had to login to my work email, and when I did, the drop down box filled up with his website history.

I told him I love him, and support him in all of his aspects and he had no need to hide who he is from me. Short version, he thanked me, said he is not actively bi, although he does look at porn, etc., of that nature. He said should he wish to become active, he would want me to join him, and would I be willing to do that? Duh, lol!

So it went well and I feel better. i feel I have taken HUGE steps in growing as a person. Right before I told him, my heart was pounding and I was dizzy from nerves and fear. in the end, I am sure this will make us stronger.

Hope everyone had a lovely weekend!

[Long Duck Dong]

hands you a stiff drink..... lol

it sounds like he is more settled with you and aware that your words are genuine.... cos your actions match what you say..... you never over reacted... just took things calmly and quietly, then talked with him about it

its often easier to talk with people when we know the way they generally react to things..... and open up with them.....

all the best for your and your partner and the relationship and I hope that you do get the chance to share sexual experiences with ya partner..... if he is willing.... lol

it can be more than just sexual, it can be something that helps bring partners closer together

pours you another sniff drink...

[Yoyome100]

Wishing you both the best.

[Emunahd]

LDD, thanks for the drinks! Definitely needed, lol!

I am not sure that I believe him when he says he is not active, but that is something only I can decide. I did just hit him with a hammer, after all. Time will tell!

Yoyome, thank for the good wishes!

[Long Duck Dong]

lol it depends on how you define active......

active for him may mean hooking up for sex and inactive may mean meeting people just to talk
active for you may mean meeting people online and arranging to meet offline for any reason

he may be telling the truth using his definition of active... but either way, you have made serious in roads in your relationship and who knows where it may lead

lol.... tops up your drink lol

[Emunahd]

LDD, you are cracking me up. Thank you for that!! And for the record, active means having sex with others, to both of us. That definition is CRYSTAL CLEAR.

(tossing back that drink)