First threesome Advice

[Feesher]

Some background, I identify as a bisexual male but I'm still going through the identification phase even after two years of knowing that I at least liked men. I have had very little sexual contact with men, but the thought of it is very arousing to me.

Anyways, my ex texted me today and wanted to know if I would be interested in having a threesome with him and his boyfriend. Normally I shy away from sex opportunities, but after thinking about it for awhile I realized how awesome it could be.

I'm still nervous about making the decision and I don't want to say yes only to have it not work out or me not enjoying it. I guess I'm more afraid of getting so nervous that I don't get hard or something silly like that.

Advice is welcome

[bityme]

Anyways, my ex texted me today and wanted to know if I would be interested in having a threesome with him and his boyfriend. Normally I shy away from sex opportunities, but after thinking about it for awhile I realized how awesome it could be.

I'm still nervous about making the decision and I don't want to say yes only to have it not work out or me not enjoying it.

There are no guarantees in life. The possibility that something won't work out or that you might not enjoy it should never be a reason for avoiding a new experience. Using that kind of logic, you would never go on a date, never buy a new car, never try a new restaurant, never meet a new person.

Try the threesome, if it works, great! If it doesn't work out or you didn't enjoy it, you will know what has to change the next time for it to work or for you to enjoy it.

Pappy

[BiDaveDtown]

Some background, I identify as a bisexual male but I'm still going through the identification phase even after two years of knowing that I at least liked men. I have had very little sexual contact with men, but the thought of it is very arousing to me.

Anyways, my ex texted me today and wanted to know if I would be interested in having a threesome with him and his boyfriend. Normally I shy away from sex opportunities, but after thinking about it for awhile I realized how awesome it could be.

I'm still nervous about making the decision and I don't want to say yes only to have it not work out or me not enjoying it. I guess I'm more afraid of getting so nervous that I don't get hard or something silly like that.

Advice is welcome

When you dated your ex boyfriend were you not that sexually active with him?

Or did you mean in your post that you were dating a woman and that she's your ex and she's with some other guy now who wants to have a 3 way with you and her?

Yes there is the possibility that it won't work out or that you won't enjoy it especially if it's with an ex but if you're having second thoughts about it and it involves an ex I'd just wait for an experience with someone else instead who is not an ex and who you don't have all this nervousness or cold feet about.

[elian]

I guess it's no wonder that you are nervous, being intimate with someone is one of the most vulnerable acts.. Did you and the EX part on amiable terms or was it an unhappy time for you?

The fact that you are even considering it leads me to think that maybe you parted ways as friends. I guess in a way it might make you feel less vulnerable because if you've had sex with your EX before then you already know that person.

Seems kinda peculiar that an EX would even ask that question but maybe the same is true for them as well since he already knows you.

As long as you aren't going to hurt yourself more by going back to your EX, they are being honest and truthful and the other partner isn't infected or anything...

Whether you enjoy it or not there are no guarantees but even a one night stand can be educational.

[Feesher]

I was not sexually active when I dated my ex bf. We've stayed really close friends since then and hes someone that I really trust. Im not really sure whose idea it would have been to invite me to do this, but this might be something that I really enjoy. Thanks for the advice everyone

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Darlin, youre never going to know unless you Try. Suggest meeting with the Ex and the new BF first; get to know the new one and see if it feels like something you'd be interested In. Go slow, and dont let yourself be rushed into something you are sure of. But if you think you are ready, then go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Threesomes can and Are very rewarding and fun if you let yourself go and be open to having fun and enjoyment from it...;)
Play hearty, but play safe Always..:}
Cat

[cornholejoe]

go ahead have some fun hell you mike like it

[mikey3000]

Don't ignore anyone. Play your cards right and it will be an awesome experience.