king_jtaylor
May 21, 2011, 12:48 AM
So I have recently come out to my close friends and family that I may be bisexual and it's gone quite well. There is however one major issue that I can't stop playing through my head and it is that I think I'm in love with my brother's best friend.
I'm actually 17, a junior in High School and my brother and his friend are 15 and freshmen. Over the course of this year i've become really good friends with my brothers best friend since we share a class and walk together in passing and I actually told him I was bi but not because I liked him.
As of right now my brother does not know his friend knows because he is not entirely aware of how close me and his friend have gotten and I actually told his friend before him; I told my brother last week. He took it well but I guess he has made little remarks to his friend that would suggest he knows and isnt taking it as well as I originally thought, but he doesnt openly say i'm bi.
Anyways I've been really stressed out because if his friend, who I suspect might be gay as well but isn't ready to come out for awhile, finds out I like him, that would most definitely ruin my relationship with him. And if my brother finds out or suspects I like his friend that would probably ruin my relationship with my brother and he would probably tell his friend which would result in case number one as well. Not to mention my brother would be mad at me if he found out I told his friend first.
My mom and dad are both aware that I like his friend and have been very wary of me seeing him and have somewhat banned me from seeing him outside of school. I have made it very clear to everyone I know that I would never try to pursue a relationship with my brothers best friend because of the social impact at school and at home; none of the benefits of dating would be worth it for the pain and suffering, and the kid might not even be gay..
The whole situation is really frustrating for me because I am in love with "the wrong person" since it probably won't ever work out and my parents are trying to limit how much I see or talk to him, which makes things only worse because I still like the kid whether I see him or not.
Im not really sure how to go about this situation since only about 2 people (my girl best friend and counselor), who aren't even gay or bi, actually know everyone in the picture and give moral support.
I'm actually 17, a junior in High School and my brother and his friend are 15 and freshmen. Over the course of this year i've become really good friends with my brothers best friend since we share a class and walk together in passing and I actually told him I was bi but not because I liked him.
As of right now my brother does not know his friend knows because he is not entirely aware of how close me and his friend have gotten and I actually told his friend before him; I told my brother last week. He took it well but I guess he has made little remarks to his friend that would suggest he knows and isnt taking it as well as I originally thought, but he doesnt openly say i'm bi.
Anyways I've been really stressed out because if his friend, who I suspect might be gay as well but isn't ready to come out for awhile, finds out I like him, that would most definitely ruin my relationship with him. And if my brother finds out or suspects I like his friend that would probably ruin my relationship with my brother and he would probably tell his friend which would result in case number one as well. Not to mention my brother would be mad at me if he found out I told his friend first.
My mom and dad are both aware that I like his friend and have been very wary of me seeing him and have somewhat banned me from seeing him outside of school. I have made it very clear to everyone I know that I would never try to pursue a relationship with my brothers best friend because of the social impact at school and at home; none of the benefits of dating would be worth it for the pain and suffering, and the kid might not even be gay..
The whole situation is really frustrating for me because I am in love with "the wrong person" since it probably won't ever work out and my parents are trying to limit how much I see or talk to him, which makes things only worse because I still like the kid whether I see him or not.
Im not really sure how to go about this situation since only about 2 people (my girl best friend and counselor), who aren't even gay or bi, actually know everyone in the picture and give moral support.