Telling the difference between a straight girl and a lesbian

[doodles246]

How can you tell whether a normal looking girl is straight or lesbian??

(not the hench ones that have short hair and tattoo's, because I can tell those are obvious lesbians).

[innaminka]

No. Define normal????????

Just ask. :female::female:

[DuckiesDarling]

How can you tell whether a normal looking girl is straight or lesbian??

(not the hench ones that have short hair and tattoo's, because I can tell those are obvious lesbians).

Umm hate to break it to you, but I have tattoos, and have had short hair and I'm not a lesbian.

I hate labels anyway but I'm not sure there is anyway to tell by looking at a woman. Some straight women might be more masculine and some hardcore lesbians might be as delicate and ultrafemine as you could imagine. If you wanna know, take the time and get to know the person. I'm sure you'll figure it out.

[Long Duck Dong]

I tell by asking them... some are out lesbians, some are closeted, some will tell me, some will not..... if I want to know and they want to tell me, that its all good

[doodles246]

It's probably best if I start again!

The type I seem to find myself attracted to are slim and brunette. I work in a company with about 1300 people and I have met/know probably more than half of them. I don't know of one lesbian apart from a masculine woman which I just will never be attracted to. The few women I have liked are straight. At the moment I really like this polish girl, she seems shy and I only know her from going on a course with a big group of people a few weeks ago. She works in another building in the labs which obviously is making it difficult to get to know her.

Thing is when you say 'ask them straight out, if they are lesbian or not' I am too embarrased to do that because nobody in the world knows about my attraction to other girls. I haven't told anyone about it because I'm worried what they will think. Not so much my family but only apart from my brother who is 100% anti gay and my friends outside of work, school friends etc (who are all straight).

The other problem is I have a boyfriend. I don't want to split up with him just to try it out with another girl in case it doesn't feel right. I don't want to cheat on him either, we both love each other a lot but I'm always thinking about this polish girl.

I don't know what to do ...

[Katja]

Thing is when you say 'ask them straight out, if they are lesbian or not' I am too embarrased to do that

Asking someone about their sexuality straight out is not only insensitive but it is quite rude. If they want you or anyone else to know they will tell you. There are ways of getting round the problem through general discussion, and women can be filthy when talking among themselves and little hints can be gleaned sometimes from that. But that isnt always a good guide because it very much depends on the company, the numbers involved, the occasion and the circumstance. One to one is best by turning the conversation on to the subject of beautiful women and sexuality in the most general terms at least in the early stages of the conversation.

There is no hard and fast rule about people being straught bisexual or lesbian. DD is right in that many we see and consider as obvious butch lesbians such as you describe are no such thing. Many blatantly straight girly women are also no such thing. 'Lipstick' lesbians (I use the term lesbian very loosely and include bisexual women in this category) are not a rare breed and particularly not among those who are secretive about their sexuality.

You live in or around London, and between there and Brighton you have two hotbeds of the LGBT world in England. There are many clubs and bars for people like us and many groups which will help you in your search for who you are and what you want out of life. The web is a good place to start the process of searching for these, and you have found this site I assume by doing just that. There are others which are specifically designed for your part of the world and it shouldn't be too difficult for you to find something in your locality.

[Maggot]

How can you tell whether a normal looking girl is straight or lesbian??

(not the hench ones that have short hair and tattoo's, because I can tell those are obvious lesbians).

Curious, I have a friend who has short hair and tattoos, and is the straightest female I have ever known - married, 3 kids, thinks the fact that I have sex with other women is gross, but is still my friend :) not a drop of lesbian in the woman.

[nicco413]

I dont really care, sexuality is variable anyway, I love both pussy and ccock

[hgf33]

It's simple. If you guys are on friendly terms, all you have to do is ask of she has a boyfriend. Friends talk about things like relationships, so it won't seem obvious, and you might get your answer.

[either190]

It's probably best if I start again!

The type I seem to find myself attracted to are slim and brunette. I work in a company with about 1300 people and I have met/know probably more than half of them. I don't know of one lesbian apart from a masculine woman which I just will never be attracted to. The few women I have liked are straight. At the moment I really like this polish girl, she seems shy and I only know her from going on a course with a big group of people a few weeks ago. She works in another building in the labs which obviously is making it difficult to get to know her.

Thing is when you say 'ask them straight out, if they are lesbian or not' I am too embarrased to do that because nobody in the world knows about my attraction to other girls. I haven't told anyone about it because I'm worried what they will think. Not so much my family but only apart from my brother who is 100% anti gay and my friends outside of work, school friends etc (who are all straight).

The other problem is I have a boyfriend. I don't want to split up with him just to try it out with another girl in case it doesn't feel right. I don't want to cheat on him either, we both love each other a lot but I'm always thinking about this polish girl.

I don't know what to do ...

kindness,listening,talking,the chance of her coming around are vastly improofed

[LouiseBrooks]

What difference does it make? If you're interested, ask her out? If she's gay, she'll shoot you down. If she's straight, she might still shoot you down. Either way, you're probably going to be intact after the experience, despite everything that you hear.

[Diva667]

It's probably best if I start again!

The type I seem to find myself attracted to are slim and brunette. I work in a company with about 1300 people and I have met/know probably more than half of them. I don't know of one lesbian apart from a masculine woman which I just will never be attracted to. The few women I have liked are straight. At the moment I really like this polish girl, she seems shy and I only know her from going on a course with a big group of people a few weeks ago. She works in another building in the labs which obviously is making it difficult to get to know her.

Thing is when you say 'ask them straight out, if they are lesbian or not' I am too embarrased to do that because nobody in the world knows about my attraction to other girls. I haven't told anyone about it because I'm worried what they will think. Not so much my family but only apart from my brother who is 100% anti gay and my friends outside of work, school friends etc (who are all straight).

The other problem is I have a boyfriend. I don't want to split up with him just to try it out with another girl in case it doesn't feel right. I don't want to cheat on him either, we both love each other a lot but I'm always thinking about this polish girl.

I don't know what to do ...

I don't think it's a good idea to "fish off the company pier". Find a decent place to meet people (Lez bar, social club, classes or volunteer activities.)

Flirting with workmates can lead to problems in the boardroom and the bedroom.

Plus many people will feel more comfortable revealing themselves away from where they make a living.

[LouiseBrooks]

Flirting with workmates is an incredibly stimulating way to get through your day, particularly in this soul-crushing corporate world we live in. Do it, but always keep your savings up and copies of your resume on file.