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j1720r
May 6, 2006, 4:01 PM
how do i know if i am bi ,have played with men ,wanked and sucked .but am i bi or not,and cross dresed :confused: :confused: :confused:
billy_campbell
May 6, 2006, 4:11 PM
I have simply rule - if you like both pussy and cock, then you are bisexual. And there ain't anything wrong in liking both pussy and cock.
there are many different types of bisexuals:
you like men AND women sexually AND romantically
you like men sexually only; you like women sexually and romantically
you like women sexually only; you like men sexually and romantically
cross-dressing is not really relevant to being straight, gay, or bi. that has more to do with being masculine or feminine.
mimi :flag1:
Tx46M
May 6, 2006, 6:28 PM
there are many different types of bisexuals:
you like men AND women sexually AND romantically
you like men sexually only; you like women sexually and romantically
you like women sexually only; you like men sexually and romantically
cross-dressing is not really relevant to being straight, gay, or bi. that has more to do with being masculine or feminine.
mimi :flag1:
Perfect response as always!
:2cents:
Woody
May 6, 2006, 9:12 PM
If you are happy to get into the pants of both guys and gals then in my book that makes you bi.....welcome.
BiMale
May 6, 2006, 9:14 PM
Yo, what she said.
(We gotta make Mimi the official "Dr. Drew" around here.)
BiMale :male: :)
there are many different types of bisexuals:
you like men AND women sexually AND romantically
you like men sexually only; you like women sexually and romantically
you like women sexually only; you like men sexually and romantically
cross-dressing is not really relevant to being straight, gay, or bi. that has more to do with being masculine or feminine.
mimi :flag1:
hairless
May 6, 2006, 10:39 PM
Well I have to agree with Billy and Woody all the way. I believe I'm bi but have'nt done anything with another guy yet. I'm real courious and sure it'll happen soon.
Mt_Woman78
May 7, 2006, 1:31 AM
I have to agree with everhone above me...... Welcome...
Well I have to agree with Billy and Woody all the way. I believe I'm bi but have'nt done anything with another guy yet. I'm real courious and sure it'll happen soon.
and note that my definition above says that you "like men/women," not that you have had sex with men/women. so having experience is not a requirement to being bi. just like heterosexuals know that they're straight before they ever have sex.
"the bisexual dr. drew" :tongue: ;)
kenny
May 7, 2006, 5:35 AM
I like Mimi's answer. I like sex with men but I love women. If you have sex with both, your bi.
m.in.heels&hose
May 7, 2006, 6:10 AM
hello there j1720r
just like everyone else has agreed to as saying mimi has the best response, i was thinking the same as well
as for me, i have always enjoyed "playing" with guys as well as girls and this is from my early teens it started out innocent enough (curiousity) and i realised i enjoyed it, so i was "comfortable" with my bi feelings almost right out of the box
guilty feelings? yes, there were many
ashamed? yes
but i got over all these guilty feelings by telling myself, how could this be so wrong, when it feels so natural for me
try not to label yourself ( there are many that will do that for you)
and just be comfortable being YOU
thanks for my :2cents: here
m.in.heels&hose
smokey
May 7, 2006, 7:55 AM
WWWEEELLLLL thats, for me a hard one to answer without knowing you. Checked your profile (nice dick by the way :bigrin: ) and it says that you are 35. Ya know its not called bi-curious for nothing. Alot of people, perhaps a majority (if they are honest with themselves) went through a bi-curious stage in their youth (most mammals do) but whether they ever attempt anything varies with the individual. I would say 35 is a bit late to be exploring, but again each person is different, According to Mimi's list I like men sexually only and I like women sexually and romantically. You say you have played with men...but no penetration (on top or bottom) is mentioned, nor do you mention whether you have only had one or two sexual encounters with men or many...if you like both cock and pussy as billy campbell suggested is one way to gage whether you are bisexual...I think a more accurate way is to ask do you have sex with both periodically...do you find yourself needing sex with men even if a woman is available (that doesn't mean acting on it neccessiarly, when I find myself aching for a man while in a relationship, I just masturbate to a mamory or fantesy, I don't cheat) and do you enjoy it enough to continue. If you answer yes to any of these, you are bisexual to some degree or the other. While Mimi is correct, about being bisexual without having a sexual encounter with your own gender yet, I would add that many people who are bisexual in their fantesises, are only bisexual to that degree and will never go further, for many reasons including fear, but really your actual sexual behaviour is the real litmus test. Remember, to say that you are gay is to assert an identity but to say that you are bisexual is to relate your history.
jedinudist
May 7, 2006, 1:25 PM
there are many different types of bisexuals:
you like men AND women sexually AND romantically
you like men sexually only; you like women sexually and romantically
you like women sexually only; you like men sexually and romantically
cross-dressing is not really relevant to being straight, gay, or bi. that has more to do with being masculine or feminine.
mimi :flag1:
I really agree with Mimi!
And I have to add this - you are the only person who can answer the question you pose. Posing it is a good way to get feedback on the OPINIONS of others, but only you can definitively answer such a personal question.
Just like the old biker saying that goes "20 grand and 20 miles don't make you a biker", just because you performed oral sex on someone of the same sex does not make you Bisexual or Gay.
Good luck in your journey to discovery!
j1720r
May 9, 2006, 1:20 PM
thanks all you have bin a grate help.looks like lots more fun with all that is out ther :cool: :bibounce: thanks
justmej
May 9, 2006, 2:28 PM
I think we are all bi to a certain extent. It is just where you fit in on the "Bell" curve. If someone says they are 100 percent "straight" or "gay", I do not think they are being totally honest with themselves. As for myself, I know that I fall right in the middle. Both men and women are so wonderful to be with. both as friends and "between the sheets". When we are enjoying each other's company, I want to be able to feel your kisses and your body against mine. If it is a woman, I love the softness as we come together or the firmness of our cocks rubbing together if it is a man. The taste and smell are both so different and yet so wonderful to enjoy. I have known since I was a teen that I was attracted to both sexes but it wasn't until I was 20 that I lost my virginity with a woman and 22 when I had my first experience with a man. Both were wonderful. I am now 60 and my passion for both has not deminished I am happy to say. Being open to experience the joy that bisexulaity can bring has been wonderful. And what a way to get to really know someone.
DÆMØN
May 21, 2006, 4:29 PM
The same holds true during a certain phase of the formation of a human .... the genitals not yet formed are in the cusp of being either an innie or an outie. For some they end up with both (intersexed), as are personality traits, and what have you that at this stage you could get thrown either way. Sexuality being in temporary FLUX until certain conditions have been met on the chemical/horomonal level. That would make ANY Human a possiblity for ANY form of sexuality. I'd think it an advantage to embody the mind and spirit of a dual mindedness ( not shizophrenic lol ) of both genders. And this doesn't even take into account the "learned" side one absorbs as we grow to adulthood.
.... whups... muh brain took a dive off a tangent... ROFL... :rolleyes:
JohnnyV
May 22, 2006, 12:09 AM
Depends what you want to be bi. If you want to be bi, you're bi.
If you don't like identifying with same-sex desire, then you're a straight guy with some unusual hobbies.
I believe in free will and think you choose what you are.
J
secretsucr
May 22, 2006, 6:55 AM
I think M in heels and hose has a great answer. Don't try and label yourself. It's not that important. Be yourself and enjoy what life has to offer.
how do i know if i am bi ,have played with men ,wanked and sucked .but am i bi or not,and cross dresed :confused: :confused: :confused:
jamiehue
May 22, 2006, 8:13 PM
there are many different types of bisexuals:
you like men AND women sexually AND romantically
you like men sexually only; you like women sexually and romantically
you like women sexually only; you like men sexually and romantically
cross-dressing is not really relevant to being straight, gay, or bi. that has more to do with being masculine or feminine.
mimi :flag1:
types-- so correct