straight women and Bi male relationship

[BrianTowles]

I was very confused as a child and even more confused as an adult about my sexuality. I always told myself when I found the right person I would become gay or straight and my biness would disappear. I fell in love with Theresa but after a year of living together the sex began decreasing in frequency because I can’t give Theresa what she needs sexually and I couldn’t receive from her my sexual desires because I am Bi, how can Theresa and I make the relationship work?
Thank you,

Brian

[bluebay]

Do you really love eachother? Does she know about your sexuality? I'd start by being completely honest with one another and yourselves about your wants, needs, and future expectations. You two can then make informed decisions. Some of which may be extremely difficult but the sooner you confront your issues the better the both of you will be, even if it does not seem so initially.

Lots of kisses,
She of Bluebay

[littlerayofsunshine]

I can’t give Theresa what she needs sexually and I couldn’t receive from her my sexual desires because I am Bi

What does the bold text mean?

[DuckiesDarling]

I gotta second LittleRay here, what do you mean you can't give her what she needs sexually? There seem to be a lot of factors involved here, obviously she has no issues with you being in a wheelchair, she has no issues with you being bi but somewhere you have lost the communication you needed to get to the point of living together period. Time to regain that.

[BrianTowles]

I was very confused as a child and even more confused as an adult about my sexuality. I always told myself when I found the right person I would become gay or straight and my biness would disappear. I fell in love with Theresa but after a year of living together the sex began decreasing in frequency because I can’t give Theresa what she needs sexually and I couldn’t receive from her my sexual desires because I am Bi, how can Theresa and I make the relationship work?
Thank you,

Brian

Additional information ladies and gentlemen,

I gave Theresa a chance to fuck another man but she took it to falling for him, also he is an unavailable. Theresa lives with me without any bills. Theresa pays for food and supplies for the house. I didn't get sex on my birthday but he got sex on my birthday. on top all the time and she don't like giving anal it is unnatural, also I'm not a kisser I found out a few days ago. I just don't turn her on anymore but she turns me on. So here is the plan I will find a few select people that will make me happy, and she will continue fucking the unavailable man, I don't understand the people that tell me open relationships don't work will an open relationships drive Theresa and I apart or closer together. BTW, I'm on this site for sex and possibly one real relationship if Theresa leaves me.

Thank you,

Brian

[DuckiesDarling]

Okay so what I am getting is that you don't have a relationship open or otherwise, you have a woman who lives with you and pays bills. She has another relationship with a man who is unavailable to you. I'd say your profile is a bit confusing, I don't think you have a girlfriend, I think you have a friend who is a girl.

[BrianTowles]

Okay so what I am getting is that you don't have a relationship open or otherwise, you have a woman who lives with you and pays bills. She has another relationship with a man who is unavailable to you. I'd say your profile is a bit confusing, I don't think you have a girlfriend, I think you have a friend who is a girl.

How would you write my profile to give it more clarity? I always like others peoples opinion to Improve my writing skills.

Thank you,

Brian

[DuckiesDarling]

I have a girlfriend but I'd love to find a Bi lady to have a relationship but without a lot of extra baggage.

This part right there. If your live in friend saw that how do you think she would feel? You call her a girlfriend but it appears you are using her as a placeholder until you find a bi girlfriend. That's not fair to either of you, then you post on here wanting to know how to improve your relationship. Do you want to improve something that you simply see as temporary until something better comes along? But again from the tone of your previous post, she has a boyfriend and it's not you. That's what is confusing, what you post and what you say on your profile tell two different stories. It's like listening to one song and realizing half of it is played off key.

[tenni]

Hi Brian
The only confusing part of your profile is that you list that your partner is a male when in this thread you refer to Teressa , a woman, as your partner?
Otherwise, it seems clear enough as to what you are looking for (to me)

From what you have written:
a/ you want anal sex and Teressa doesn't want to give you anal sex
b/ She wants kissing and you do not want to kiss her
c/ You do not turn Teressa on anymore
d/ You want to find a few friends to make you happy
e/ Teressa has fallen for another man who is not available to take the relationship where she wants it?

*What is it that you are not able to give Teressa? Are you able to get and maintain an erection?

*Would these friends who will make you happy be male or female or both?

Just a suggestion to consider
You may want to sit down and write one list as to what is good about your relationship with Teressa. (ie you enjoy her company)

Write another list of what is a weakness about staying in a relationship with Teressa. (ie no anal from her, 2/ she had sex with another man on your birthday and you got none etc.)

Take a good look at your lists and see if finding someone other people would fill your needs better than what Teressa is giving you now.

[BrianTowles]

This part right there. If your live in friend saw that how do you think she would feel? You call her a girlfriend but it appears you are using her as a placeholder until you find a bi girlfriend. That's not fair to either of you, then you post on here wanting to know how to improve your relationship. Do you want to improve something that you simply see as temporary until something better comes along? But again from the tone of your previous post, she has a boyfriend and it's not you. That's what is confusing, what you post and what you say on your profile tell two different stories. It's like listening to one song and realizing half of it is played off key.

okay, my girlfriend put that in for me because she don't want me to be alone if and when we separate.

[BrianTowles]

Hi Brian
The only confusing part of your profile is that you list that your partner is a male when in this thread you refer to Teressa , a woman, as your partner?
Otherwise, it seems clear enough as to what you are looking for (to me)

From what you have written:
a/ you want anal sex and Teressa doesn't want to give you anal sex
b/ She wants kissing and you do not want to kiss her
c/ You do not turn Teressa on anymore
d/ You want to find a few friends to make you happy
e/ Teressa has fallen for another man who is not available to take the relationship where she wants it?

*What is it that you are not able to give Teressa? Are you able to get and maintain an erection?

*Would these friends who will make you happy be male or female or both?

Just a suggestion to consider
You may want to sit down and write one list as to what is good about your relationship with Teressa. (ie you enjoy her company)

Write another list of what is a weakness about staying in a relationship with Teressa. (ie no anal from her, 2/ she had sex with another man on your birthday and you got none etc.)

Take a good look at your lists and see if finding someone other people would fill your needs better than what Teressa is giving you now.

I understand, how do I make the profile only for a single? I can get an erection maintain it for hours. Theresa esa is a straight woman who I can't take dancing, I can't hug her g enough to please her etc. this thread is becoming toO hurtful.

Thank you wonderful people,

Brian

[Long Duck Dong]

change your profile.......

click on my account at the top of the page and that till take you to the edit my profile page.....

make the changes you want then click save at the bottom of the page

[Bluesteel71]

I'm in a relationship with my girl for almost 2 years now. Although I'm bi,i have never being with a guy whilst going out with her,as in my view,that would be cheating. She does fill the "gap" with role playing when the urge arises! She is keen to be involved with the right guy,when we find him! :female::male:

[BrianTowles]

I'm in a relationship with my girl for almost 2 years now. Although I'm bi,i have never being with a guy whilst going out with her,as in my view,that would be cheating. She does fill the "gap" with role playing when the urge arises! She is keen to be involved with the right guy,when we find him! :female::male:

I was a fool and gave my girlfriend permission to fuck the man not to fall in love with him.

Your friend,

Brian

[BrianTowles]

change your profile.......

click on my account at the top of the page and that till take you to the edit my profile page.....

make the changes you want then click save at the bottom of the page

Thank you, for the assistants.

Brian

[DareMe]

okay, my girlfriend put that in for me because she don't want me to be alone if and when we separate.

You guys seem to talk a lot about leaving each other. a relationship is more than just a business relationship you pay for this she takes care of that...etc...
You know, you take the good you take the bad and there you have the facts of life! Hey, that sounds familiar... ;)

[BrianTowles]

Brian based on what you wrote it sounds like you and Theresa are not good in a relationship together and should break up or have a long talk about why she'll go off with other men but won't have sex with you at all or let you have sex with anyone else.

I can have sex with others but I have not found anyone yet.

Your friend,
Brian

[BrianTowles]

Quote:
Originally Posted by njbjbottom
It seems your current living situation isn't working for you and may be an abusive one on the woman's end. I wish you luck in finding a partner.

Just as the song says "love hurts" and my gf isn't currently having sex with anyone.

Your friend,

Brian

[elian]

Growing up I was so sure I HAD to be straight or gay - I tried for a while seeing if I could be straight and happy, then I tried "to be gay" for a while. (In other words, not trying to suppress my feelings for men - this sucked with still being in closet and all). What would always throw me for a loop is that I would get turned on by looking at a cute guy, and the next thing you know also get turned on by watching female amateur porn. The feelings of confusion did not stop until I stopped using labels and started realizing that I could be attracted to both.

Being bi does not "double your chances for a date", for some people it can be confusing. Just remember that your sexuality is only one PART of who you are as a whole person.

It sounds like you started out in a straight relationship but you want to at least try anal? Or are you looking for a long term relationship?

I can't say much because there could be more to the relationship that you currently have besides sex. I mean, you can't be in the bedroom ALL the time.

Is she not interested in using toys at all or in you using toys on her? As far as giving that way, each person has different desires and abilities.

Only you and your girlfriend can say whether an open relationship will work. I once tried to date two people at once (each aware of the other) and I found it to be a lot of hard work. If you do decide to go that way please take steps to make sure that you stay as safe and healthy as possible. You should know your partners very well.

[BrianTowles]

Growing up I was so sure I HAD to be straight or gay - I tried for a while seeing if I could be straight and happy, then I tried "to be gay" for a while. (In other words, not trying to suppress my feelings for men - this sucked with still being in closet and all). What would always throw me for a loop is that I would get turned on by looking at a cute guy, and the next thing you know also get turned on by watching female amateur porn. The feelings of confusion did not stop until I stopped using labels and started realizing that I could be attracted to both.

Being bi does not "double your chances for a date", for some people it can be confusing. Just remember that your sexuality is only one PART of who you are as a whole person.

It sounds like you started out in a straight relationship but you want to at least try anal? Or are you looking for a long term relationship?

I can't say much because there could be more to the relationship that you currently have besides sex. I mean, you can't be in the bedroom ALL the time.

Is she not interested in using toys at all or in you using toys on her? As far as giving that way, each person has different desires and abilities.

Only you and your girlfriend can say whether an open relationship will work. I once tried to date two people at once (each aware of the other) and I found it to be a lot of hard work. If you do decide to go that way please take steps to make sure that you stay as safe and healthy as possible. You should know your partners very well.

My girlfriend believes that bi people just sleep around but I'm trying to show her that isn't the case. Right now, she feels using toys on any male anus is unnatural, she don't even like to masturbate. Yes, sex is only one part of a relationship and my girlfriend has many great qualities that make me ride along with her until she says her and I are done, I just miss the way her and I were in the beginning of our relationship we couldn't keep from out of my room at all. Now, we have lived together with her 8 year old granddaughter, and her 23 year old daughter also her 17 year old niece for awhile but the e niece ran a way not even a month ago. Even though we have lived together for just a little over a year our flame has dimed but was it lust, or love that we felt in the beginning of the relationship. I just know she thinks it is weird when I vocalize that a man, or a woman is hot, or stare too long at a Woman's eyes, or a man's package. I really believe I'm with the wrong woman, and she told me not even a month ago that she rushed into the relationship if she had a do-over she wouldn't have moved in with me. I want to be in a sexual relationship with a partner that isn't so stuck sexually in one mind set. I love anal and have been the third in many threesomes and I have been in relationships with a woman and a man not at the same time but felt more comfortable in the threesome relationships then in the one on one relationships. I have never truly felt loved until I met Theresa but now her love has been placed elsewhere, is it possible to rekindle the love Theresa and I had in the beginning -of our relationship before I was a fool and gave her permission to sleep with another man, which in hindsight was a stupid move on my part because I as under a lot of stress and couldn't perform sexually for a while from changing medications.

Your friend,

Brian