conflict for a straight partner of practising bi?

[bizel]

for couples where one partner is bi and doesn't resist the urge to have sex outside of the relationship with a person of their own gender, have you and your partner rules, guidelines, boundries? how does your partner cope with your 'playing' - (note, i'm using 'play' as a word to describe sex outside your relationship, not as a judgement)? do you advise your partner you are going to meet someone? do you advise them afterwards? does it cause conflict? how does your partner happily accept your behaviour? does your partner feel they come second to another? what if your partner wants sex, but you are physically incapable after a casual fling - how do you have sex to satisfy yourself on your bi side without taking from or denying your partner? is it a case of your partner has to ignore it, accept it or join in? do you feel guilty? how does your partner know you are not bringing home 'livestock' (crabs, etc)?

i'm not talking open relationships where both partners are having sex outside of their primary relationship, or swinging where both are indulging.

[J2Weights]

My partner let's me play as long as she can watch. If I were to do something without her being present it would be devastating to her.

[Maggot]

My husband is a painfully shy straight guy, who has opted for the "What I don't know can't hurt me" method of handling my bisexuality, and he really doesn't want to know if, or what I might be getting up to elsewhere, so I don't tell him if I'm planning on having sex with someone, or if I have had sex with someone and it works for him.

As for not being able to have sex with him, getting back from having sex with someone else - can't say that's ever been a problem, in fact I have to say that I have on occassion got home with a raging urge to jump him the moment I get through the door.

Bringing anything home - 1. Never, ever get drunk and pick someone up, you won't be concentrating on the important stuff. 2. Use your eyes, if you see crabs or such like, back off - try to be gentle about it. 3. Use barriers, condoms, dental dams - although they are fiddly, gloves (can be a bit of a turn on) - if your would be partner gets iffy about it, get up and go - it's not worth the risk. 4. Remember who you are going home to - would you want to give them anything unpleasant?

[bothways13]

My wife and i are totally open to each other and have outside the marriage relationships. We do it together and separate. The rules we have is that each other lets other know and use precaution to avoid any disease, condoms and meet before ever ingaging in activity. We have also had bi roommates, both women and men. By doing this kind of arrangement we can pick together and have all the benefits of bi sex.

[innaminka]

My husband and I adopted the DADT system practised by the US miltary.
He knew I was active with ladies (usually when I travelled overseas on business) whilst I was pretty sure he was far from celibate during his months away working in the Pilbara.
I think the only unspoken rules were don't bring home an STD and don't get anyone pregnant.
Certainly our sex life together was really, really good.

It worked for nearly 15 years. And although my drifting towards lesbianism (labels!!!!! ugh) was an issue with our separation, it was not the only reason.

So ergo - our system worked for us.