Where do I start

[cowboyuprideem]

Alright ladies and gentleman... I have a question and I hope someone can answer it. This is the female of the duo sign on and my husband has agreed to let me have a mmf encounter. yah me! Anyway I have no idea how to start this thing. I already have the other partner picked out and he has agreed but now I don't know what to do, once we are all together. Do I have to be the starter person for everything or do I let them take the lead. There is a lot I want, but not really sure how to go about it.. Do I just tell them all that I want and let them go at it.. or is there something else I need to do. LOL... I need some advice here. Thanks.

[Brian]

Hi cowboyuprideem (both of you!),

I have never actually followed through on my fantasy for a M/M/F threesome (someday soon!), but I have met many guys for one on one encounters, and based on that I think I can offer a tip... The way I like to start an encounter where I am meeting a guy for the first time to have sex, is to exchange info on what each of us are into and not into - basically setting the ground rules, and breaking the ice at the same time. So like some guys are not into guy-on-guy kissing at all, and others are, for example. It also conveys mutual respect for each other, by discussing this stuff in person at the beginning of the encounter. I find that after talking about sexual likes and dislikes for a few minutes (or seconds!) the kissing or caressing naturally takes off.

I think this approach would work very well for a threesome too. It breaks the ice, and everyone can set their limits and everyone can relax knowing that they aren't going to inadvertantly cross some line along the way. Couples in particular, I think, might want to have ground rules to share. Also just talking about sex and what everyone likes and doesn't like is kind of sexy and gets the blood flowing.

I hope that helps. Good luck and have fun! :cowboy: :girl: :cowboy:

- Drew :paw:

ps. If that doesn't work to start things off then maybe kissing each of them on the lips, first your husband, then the other guy, might be a good way to start. That would work for me girl! :)

[gayle]

A great starting point is to establish your ground rules. Issues such as birth control and "safer sex' must be addessed. know whether or not you or your partner wants to have sex with the third party. Another issue is whether or not you will kiss the third party. Lay out the groundrules up front and enjoy.

As for how to start a mmf encounter, get in the bedrook and begin to get undressed. If you are comfortable kissing the other guy, go for it. In the mmf encounters i have had, the main focus has been on my experiencing pleasure.

Do not get pressured into doing this. If you aren't sure you want to go through with it, don't! And dont do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. In the end, yours is the face you have to face in the mirror come morning.

Best wishes.

[Curious2knowmore]

While Drew and Gayle both have made many good points about establishing rules and boundaries before getting started. I would also like to add that if any of you start to feel uncomfortable in the situation and want to stop, then you have the right to end it right there. And it should be agreed upon that when someone gets uncomfortable, it ends right then w/o anyone getting upset. Weather it be a certain sexual act causing pain or discomfort or the whole event, everyone has the right to say “Stop” and not go any further. Also if you or your partner feels the slightest bit of jealousy about either of you being with a 3rd person, then you may want to wait until you both have established enough trust not to let a 3rd person ruin your relationship. Set the ground rules with your partner first then set them with the 3rd party together before the first piece of clothing is removed. And as always with any sex play, RULE #1 is Stop means STOP. Rule 2, practice safe sex and always condoms for anal and change them before swapping holes or partners.

As far as how to get the ball rolling, there are numerous ways to do that. You could invite the other guy over for diner or a cook out, have a few drinks and chat for a while. Then later you can break out a deck of cards and play strip poker to liven things up. When all of the clothes are gone the game doesn’t have to end, but can continue with the winner challenging the loser to perform a sexual act using a timer to make it fair for everyone. After doing this for a while everyone should be more comfortable with each other and things can progress from there.

Another option would be to start things off by watching some porn videos. Something along the lines of what you would like to do in the 3some and let your mind and emotions take control of your actions. Someone is bound to get excited enough to start things off.

There are many other sex games you can pick up at your local adult video/toy store that you can use in just about any situation (FF, MM, MF, MMF, MFM or FFM), that can get things going. You can even create your own variation to many other games or create your own game to initiate contact between everyone.

Good luck, have fun and explore. ;)

[altbinary]

Nothing ibreaks the ice like a blowjob. Assuming you are all sitting around in the living room, I would suggest that you just kneel down in front of the guy, open his pants and suck him off. Let him cum in your mouth and swallow it. Don't worry, you won't make him mad.

A variation of this would be to let him cum in your mouth and don't swallow. When he finishes and your mouth is full of his cream, get up and give him a nice wet kiss. Give him a taste of his own medicine. I've had several women do that to me and, though I don't really like the taste of cum (who does?), it didn't kill me and there is no denying that it is an extemely erotic experience.

Or...you could take your mouthful of your friend's cum and give your husband a wet kiss. Maybe he will pass it on back to your friend. Whatever happens after that everything should fall right into place after you've made such a good start to the session.

[sneekypete]

hmmmmmmmmmmm, an erotic kind of guy I see with all that cum swapping. All of those ideas sound great. You could also pass him the cum, and let him take it straight to your cock as well.

[teraspecter]

I think the best way to go about this would be flying me out to Florida.

Actually though, the blowjob - as mentioned before - is always a good icebreaker. You can take lead and your husband will probably follow, because - in my opinion at least - oral sex is usually the base act of male/male sexuality in a group setting. I know guys that don't actually have intercourse with guys, I know guys that won't even kiss other guys, but I know plenty of guys that will give or receive blowjobs. I kind of think alot of inherent bisexuality in men is a narcissitic attraction to the cock, but thats a whole other deep conversation ;) Anyways, it gives you a chance to watch your husband's face closely to guage his reaction to tell whether or not he's liking it. On top of that, even if he obviously loves it, it naturally fosters a romantic bond while simultaneous pleasing someone else. I'm sure you and your husband already have a pretty strong bond, but this kind of bond is important as it shows that you're there with him and that you'll be ready to catch him if he falls. It's really less cliche and more beautiful than I was able to put it.

[jo69guy]

I think Drew has a great idea. Before I met my steady male partner, I would meet with prospective partners first, and just kind of get to know them a little. That allowed the ground rules to be laid down before we laid down. :tongue: