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danreidbarmi
Feb 23, 2011, 5:41 PM
After having come out (as bi) to my wife this last September, my 23-yr marriage has come to an end. Fortunately, our ultimate parting was amicable and undramatic. Having been friends for 30+ yrs and liking each other a whole bunch helped. So, now I'm on my own. I feel a whole lot better about myself and my life -- although I'm still stumbling my way through the underbrush, getting scratched up and muddy on occasion, but really enjoying the journey.
The folks who are having a hard time now are my family members, particularly my parents. They are liberal thinkers and non-judgmental about sexuality, but they're confused and losing sleep over me and my "new life." My youngest daughter (18) remains angry, grieving over her parents' split, and understandably bitter about how my extra-marital homo-sexcapades blew her family to bits. I know that will be an ongoing process. But, I also know that commiserating with others who've been there can be healing.
As bisexuals are pretty much misunderstood by nearly everyone (even each other, for Chrissake!), I'm wondering if there is an online community for family members of bi's to share and learn from each other. Any help would be enormously appreciated.
Warm Regards to all...
Dan
fredtyg
Feb 23, 2011, 5:50 PM
I was under the impression that's what this place was for.
elian
Feb 23, 2011, 6:04 PM
I think he was looking for a more traditional brick and mortar type of thing, sort of like PFLAG but maybe for adults.
I have found a lot of support here but for a grieving family to be presented with "**DO YOU SWALLOW YOUR OWN CUM!??!**" as the first thing they see probably won't make a good impression.
Diva667
Feb 23, 2011, 6:22 PM
I think he was looking for a more traditional brick and mortar type of thing, sort of like PFLAG but maybe for adults.
I have found a lot of support here but for a grieving family to be presented with "**DO YOU SWALLOW YOUR OWN CUM!??!**" as the first thing they see probably won't make a good impression.
PFLAG is for adults - for everyone , really...
elian
Feb 23, 2011, 6:30 PM
PFLAG is for adults - for everyone , really...
..thanks for clarifying, I wasn't sure. Certainly, not every thread is like the one I mentioned (I also see threads asking for prayers, well-wishes, honest conversations about health issues - but if he does share this site they should be prepared for the more risqué ones as well..and the occasional flame war.
by~his~side
Feb 23, 2011, 9:19 PM
I have nothing to contribute as far as the support group that you're seeking..but I am saddened to hear about the end of your marriage.
I'm sorry for the pain that you and your family are experiencing. I hope you all begin to heal sooner than later.
~D~
Diva667
Feb 24, 2011, 4:18 PM
OK so I dug these up -
No idea how good they are...
Colage (http://www.colage.org/) - Children Of Lesbians And Gays Everywhere
Families like mine (http://www.familieslikemine.org/)
_Joe_
Feb 24, 2011, 4:47 PM
Man if that happened to me, I think I'd say "fuck this" and start a life in another country. Nothing like a clean slate.
I can't imagine though doing that to my kids, whom look up to me so much right now.
what a mind job.
NotLostJustWandering
Feb 26, 2011, 5:22 AM
I have found a lot of support here but for a grieving family to be presented with "**DO YOU SWALLOW YOUR OWN CUM!??!**" as the first thing they see probably won't make a good impression.
Not to mention the graphic in _Joe_'s signature!
Diva667
Feb 26, 2011, 3:47 PM
Not to mention the graphic in _Joe_'s signature!
But, it is still better than the previous one!
Billys_gurl
Feb 26, 2011, 5:04 PM
But, it is still better than the previous one!
I don't know I got a chuckle every time I saw 'Centipedes? In my Vagina?' The woman looked seriously confused or worried! Sorry to hear of your split danreidbarmi. Glad to hear that you are still friendly and close, though. Check your local area on the net to see if there is a support group you can suggest.
danreidbarmi
Feb 27, 2011, 11:05 AM
Thanks to those of you who are seriously helpful. You're absolutely right, I wouldn't want my 85 yr old father getting on this site and seeing some of the forum topics. He's already losing sleep about my revelation of bisexuality. I'll be checking out your suggestions.
Everything's great here. I'm making new friends and havin' a blast. I would just like to give some of my loved ones some more understanding.
Best to All!
Dan