Quick Hot Sex... Or slow making love?

[69GENT]

I suppose this topic has always been my dilemma when searching for a partner in the bi-sexual world.

When you search for a lover, do you want someone that wants quick relief with just very hot sex.... often no contact other than mouth to genitals... and move on down the road.... no strings.

Or do you seek a lover that wants to cuddle close.... kiss just as you would in a hetrosexual encounter/relationship? Do you want to spend time feeling their heart.... and are mostly aroused when you share your heart with this mate? Does the romance drive your excitement and make it much more than it could otherwise be?

Is it hot sex with no strings? OR Connecting hearts and making love?

[cornholejoe]

with a man quick hot sex with woman slow making love

[mel_bigboy]

I'm with AJ on this one. Years ago I had an experience at a local "gloryhole" sucking off a guy with one of the biggest cocks I've ever seen. I loved it! Proudly finished him off in grand fashion and then....a type of loneliness fell upon me as I drove home. While dating my wife I met a man and quickly developed a friendship first that lead to sex. The best sex I've ever had appart from my wife. We would meet at his place as he was single (wife had no idea I was bisexual at the time) and I could not accomodate. We talked, laughed, ate and much like a "real" date...made love afterwards. We would finish and in amazment discover hours had passed. Very hot indeed!

During the course of my marriage my wife and I have lived an "open" marriage and played in the "swinging" lifestyle for a time. The most memorable moments were with friends some we are still in contact with to this day. At 38yo old I still love the cock...but am more interested in to whom the cock is attached.

[Realist]

I've had both platonic and romantic sexual relationships with lovers of both genders. The most rewarding and memorable ones have been those that had some element of romance in them.

[Bisexual Explorer]

If it's a one time thing, it's quick hot sex. If it's more of a longer term relationship, then slower is better, most of the time.
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[69luvr]

all sex is great!:bipride:

[djones]

Slow Hot Sex - nothing quick is ever satisfying (just think McDonalds).

I don't want romance with a guy, but "Wam Bam, Thank You Man" is not enough. "Wam Bam, Thank You Mam" doesn't work either.

If you're going to do it, do it right.

[curioustotry]

I am one for the slow love making, my bf right now likes it "quick" (he can last for hours) but the only foreplay he usualy does is kiss me and rub his cok against me untill it stroke or suck it then he jumps right in if I am wet or not. This has lead to many arguments. I rather be carressed, kissed passionaltly, touched before getting into anything, if it starts slow then builds that is fine too

[coyotedude]

I think there's a place for both. As much as I love to make love to my wife, sometimes the two of us feel a need to simply release some raw sexual energy. I think the same is true for the experiences I've had with men; I've had some wonderful intimate moments, but also some very memorable quick hot lustful sex.

[justcurious4me]

Hey ya'll... You forgot option number three... The relationship that starts as slow love making, that later escalates into quick, fast, hard hot sex in the end... :bigrin: AND then do it all over again... :eek: After a couple of minutes rest!!! That's where I stand!!! Hehehehe.....

Happy New Years to all!!!! Hope you all plan to bring New Years in with a bang!!!! :bigrin:

[Realist]

Ah, to be 37 again!

[justcurious4me]

Ah, to be 37 again!

LMAO!!!! And I usually say, "Ah, to be 27 again!!!" :tong: Do I hear 17???? :rolleyes: Hehehehe...

[Realist]

Actually, at 14 I began my sensual journey...so, while I'm wishing, I'll go for 14.....just one more time!

[Bluebiyou]

...
Is it hot sex with no strings? OR Connecting hearts and making love?

Yes...

[bauer]

depends on where and who, but for the most part...
making love slowly

[Michigan_cpl]

i like to have sex as offten as i can, but sometimes you need a quickie just to get off. other times i like to make love and make it last as if it will be my last.:flag3:

[12voltman59]

To me there is something to be said for both styles of sex--and it seems that just like desires to be with other guys waxes or wanes as time goes on---and the same for being with ladies too---you never know how any particular relationship with someone is going to work out--for me--I have had ones that were basically centered on having "fast, hot sex,"-in others--it tended to be of the "slower" variety.

Its sorta like the line from Forest Gump where "mama says life is like a box of chocolates---you never know what you are gonna get!"

I'd say to embrace and enjoy both sorts of sexual experiences---either if they are with various people or simply one relationship with one person that has times that all you want to do is "fuck like jackrabbits" or you want to do the "long slow ride" more often than not.

I don't think its really possible to say which style is good, better or best in all situations--to me this is one of those kind of things that it is best to say: "it all depends....."

[fpb09]

I can see both sides of the story but, enjoy slow to me is better enjoy & watching my partner screm with enjoyment as i please them ! & I LOVE IT !:tongue:

[jem_is_bi]

At my age, the only thing I do really fast any more is ride my bike.
So, if it was you and me,you may be fast, but including me, not so fast.

[chapear]

It all depends on various things

[longtimemarriedguy]

Ah, to be 47 again! LOL Really, when I was young, hot, quick sex was great. With my wife it was usually different. Usually it was lots of fun foreplay followed by long hot sex. Whew! Occasionally, it was hot quick sex - followed by long hot sex. Now I prefer to take more time, maybe have my partner model some clothes, foreplay, tease, ensure my partner reaches an awesome climax, then maybe some more fun play and teasing - or a massage. It just seems much more intimate and meaningful. For many the three stages of sex in a marraige are anywhere, bedroom and hallway. At first it's anywhere - the kitchen table, the floor, the shower, the back yard, the car, etc. Then it's the bedroom - trying to be quiet so the kids don't hear. Then it's hallway. You pass each other in the hall and say, "fuck you."
I'm glad I have not reached that stage yet. LOL = enjoy!