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obviousbulge
Nov 25, 2010, 9:49 AM
Me and the wife have been married for 10 yrs now. In the past we both have talked about liking the same sex for her and for me. She has no problem with me looking at guys naked or other wise. She also likes looking at other woman as well. She really gets turn on by watching two woman get it on. A few times watching porn she has ask me if I would like to see her going down on another woman and I sure said yes. She also likes the idea of her going down on a woman but she has never been in that spot. She knows at times I do get turn on by watching the guys in the porn movies and she is fine with that but she doesnt want me to tell her I do. Just this past weekend her friend and and her where out and her friend is another woman I was with them and her friend did grab my wifes hand to hold that sure was different for me to see so I ask the wife that evening about that she just said it was because she almost fell so thats why her friend grab her hand but heres the things they still holded one anothers hands. And her friend is always calling her nick names like baby face,,baby doll,, cup cake. But if one of my friend did that to me she be all over me like shit. Just dont understand her.

Realist
Nov 25, 2010, 10:34 AM
Like it, or not, there are those who have double standards. There are various stages and attitudes about same-gender relationships and each person has their own feelings about it.

My first wife was bi, but didn't want me to be. She was adamant about it being "Natural" and even "Desirable" for the ladies to interact sexually, but absolutely PERVERSE for guys to!

I didn't agree with her, but felt strangely OK with her being that way...mostly because I loved her dearly. Her relationship with a couple of other women didn't affect our lives at all. If anything, it enhanced our sex life, because she'd often come home more aroused than when she left. So, we both benefited from that.

You will probably just have to accept her feelings and determine what is best for your particular situation. At least, she is open and honest with you about her feelings. I can tell you as one who has been there, it's a lot better having a bisexual mate, or a straight one, who attempts to understand and allow you your feelings.

Good luck!

firmsupportf
Nov 25, 2010, 10:45 AM
I hear ya. But the thing is that she isnt up for sex with me all that much only if she watchs porn like if theres two woman going at it. Then shes turn on. We have sex maybe once a month and its just for me to leave her alone but she knows Im horny any time of day.

ubersmack
Nov 25, 2010, 11:22 AM
Sounds like your wife is already or at least thinking about being with this woman.

Jessicaknight
Nov 25, 2010, 1:12 PM
She really gets turn on by watching two woman get it on. A few times watching porn she has ask me if I would like to see her going down on another woman and I sure said yes.

Looks like she relay wants you to watch.
Shes grooming you, her or both
She's getting close to her fantasy.

obviousbulge
Nov 25, 2010, 6:51 PM
Is she OK with you having sex with other men or women or are you just allowed to look at them in porn?

Some people are OK with their husband or wife watching porn but they do not want them to have sex with other people besides them.

She's fine with me watching porn where she knows I look at men in str porn as much as she likes watching woman go at one another in porn it really gets her turn on big time. But even when she go's out with her friend she gets her self all done up and shower as well before going out. She wont even open up to me about sex that we are not having.

Michigan_cpl
Nov 25, 2010, 9:13 PM
my wife is fine with us both watching porn, ff,mm,bi or what ever it may be.
we both ask each other if we like what we saw and we both answer yes. then we both tell each other how hot that it would be if we could do that, but to another person of the same sex.

our marriage and our realationship is now much better now that we are both bisexuals. yes i have seen my wife with another women and loved it. my wife has seen me with another man only doing oral to him. she wants to see another man doing anal on me, i am fine with that,:flag2:

mikey3000
Nov 25, 2010, 9:28 PM
Me and the wife have been married for 10 yrs now. In the past we both have talked about liking the same sex for her and for me. She has no problem with me looking at guys naked or other wise. She also likes looking at other woman as well. She really gets turn on by watching two woman get it on. A few times watching porn she has ask me if I would like to see her going down on another woman and I sure said yes. She also likes the idea of her going down on a woman but she has never been in that spot. She knows at times I do get turn on by watching the guys in the porn movies and she is fine with that but she doesnt want me to tell her I do. Just this past weekend her friend and and her where out and her friend is another woman I was with them and her friend did grab my wifes hand to hold that sure was different for me to see so I ask the wife that evening about that she just said it was because she almost fell so thats why her friend grab her hand but heres the things they still holded one anothers hands. And her friend is always calling her nick names like baby face,,baby doll,, cup cake. But if one of my friend did that to me she be all over me like shit. Just dont understand her.

Sorry dude, but to me it sounds like the wife is NOT so understanding. It sounds like she is already living her fantasy, yet will not let you live yours. This double standard is not good.