When you can't host What's your Alternitive

[Mr descreet]

Since I'm not able to host,it becomes difficult to meet because most other's can't usually host,so what can you do if you find someone with the same interests that you have and it could become a nice friendship or even a nice relationship,and if you set a date to meet and the cemistray is there and you both want to play,but you have that one problem where ? so maybe your first thought would a hotel you can share the cost but again can't always keep going to a hotel it gets costly,so what's the alternitive,Well I have one solution,Mens Bath house I belong to one and it's awesome it's safe and very discreet and clean no question ask and they supply all the comdoms.
And if some feel a bit uncomfortable to go to one what"s your alternitive? curious to know?

[fredtyg]

I've actually been pondering this same question for some time. You already mentioned the motel route, which is unsustainable for many of us. I've been discussing getting together with a guy. We were thinking of just parking somewhere private in his or my car, but we can't figure a private enough place. If either of us had a van that might work out fine, but we don't.

I'm stumped. I guess I need to buy a van.

[welickit]

We don't have this type problem as we have always been open with each other. However, we have seen postings where a third party has offered people a secure place to play in exchange for them being allowed to watch. It seems the world has a good supply of voyeurs that cover all sexual orientations. :2cents:

[bityme]

On those occasions when my children and grand children are visiting me and I want to get away for a while, I take advantage of an establishment near me that rents hot tubs by the hour. A couple of hours in a relaxing jacuzzi coupled with some hot sex really hits the spot. Also, it is less than a third of the cost of a hotel.

Since I meet mostly with couples, a bath house doesn't work and I find it is a great, intimate environment that everyone enjoys. It is a family place, but once the door is closed and locked it is very private. For those who get nervous being seen entering a hotel, because they are concerned about their public image, furnishes a nice alternative.

Pappy

[fredtyg]

However, we have seen postings where a third party has offered people a secure place to play in exchange for them being allowed to watch. It seems the world has a good supply of voyeurs that cover all sexual orientations. :2cents:

I've seen such postings, too, and that's a possibility. Another way to go about it might be, assuming you've met guys before that can host, is to contact that guy and ask if he wouldn't mind if you and a friend came by and fooled around at his place. He could just watch, or even participate, depending on how you want to do it.

I've also wondered if it would be possible to rent a room from someone who had a detached mother- in- law unit, or unused room in their house. Offer him maybe $20.00 for an hour's use. I would think it might be a nice source of income if someone had an unused room in their home with its own access to the outside.

I actually brought up the idea to a lesbian couple I know but they didn't seem interested.

[ubersmack]

Camping is an option. From friday to sunday. It's cheap and gets you away from the reason you can't host. Instead of an hour you get plenty of time. Just imagine setting up tent in a beautiful but lonely part of the world. Zipping two sleeping backs together. You get your nasty on and at night your able to hold your naked guy all night long, which generally turns into more sex.

[welickit]

We let an individual we know bring his friend here and it got to be a pain. Long story but he assumed he had an open invitation and screwed up a good thing. Oddly his wife was totally bisexual but she didn't know he was. We often wondered why he didn't just tell her. She enjoyed watching porn enjoyed being watched with another woman but he kept his bisexuality a secret. Interesting situation.

[69luvr]

Since I'm not able to host,it becomes difficult to meet because most other's can't usually host,so what can you do if you find someone with the same interests that you have and it could become a nice friendship or even a nice relationship,and if you set a date to meet and the cemistray is there and you both want to play,but you have that one problem where ? so maybe your first thought would a hotel you can share the cost but again can't always keep going to a hotel it gets costly,so what's the alternitive,Well I have one solution,Mens Bath house I belong to one and it's awesome it's safe and very discreet and clean no question ask and they supply all the comdoms.
And if some feel a bit uncomfortable to go to one what"s your alternitive? curious to know?

I go to Club Orlando where it is safe and cozy! No questions asked and no nonsense. Just do your thing!

[binjlooking]

I lived in San Diego and learned to love the nude beach there...always something nice to see and some really friendly people. Loved to go middle of the week. Had some nice gay friends there who were lots of fun to chill with.

[darkeyes]

Ya go back 2 her/his place!!! ;) Maybe diff for guys.. but was always the norm wiv me... an wen they cudn't.. ya hav placcie.. or even betta.. they have placcie...

..an wen all else fails.. nookie alfresco is ratha fun...:bigrin:

[Hephaestion]

Are cars / campervans out of fashion now?

[darkeyes]

Are cars / campervans out of fashion now?

Had me moments in a car or 2 Heph:bigrin:.. but since me threshes bout an squirms so much end up all bruised.. so will stick wiv me preferred options.. plus the camper..;)

[NotLostJustWandering]

Remembering one time in Hawaii when I had to dodge a homophobic roommate... my car was kaput, so my job let me borrow a company van... drove down into a pineapple field at night... other cars all parked at discreet distances around us, full of teenagers, no doubt, and I felt like such a teen myself!

Vans designed to carry people with disabilities are very roomy, and there's plenty of sanitary wipes around for cleaning up afterwards! :bigrin: Maybe you should consider a caretaking job?

[NakedInSeattle]

We're lucky here in Seattle. We have a couple of bathhouses and a couple of nice theaer venues. Never a loss for playtime.

[luv2play8899]

On those occasions when my children and grand children are visiting me and I want to get away for a while, I take advantage of an establishment near me that rents hot tubs by the hour. A couple of hours in a relaxing jacuzzi coupled with some hot sex really hits the spot. Also, it is less than a third of the cost of a hotel.

Since I meet mostly with couples, a bath house doesn't work and I find it is a great, intimate environment that everyone enjoys. It is a family place, but once the door is closed and locked it is very private. For those who get nervous being seen entering a hotel, because they are concerned about their public image, furnishes a nice alternative.

Pappy

Sounds like a neat place. We have no such thing here that I am aware of.
Hotels are too costly. If not then extremely seedy.

[mr swallow]

A tractor trailer with a huge sleeper compartment awesome,# 2 A motor home with beds shower etc,# 3 Van with darkened window's. Other peoples homes,

[magari]

I have a storage unit thats heated and cooled. My unit is on the second floor only accessible by elevator...there's a couch and it's not crammed full, so it has served well for discrete trysts...rarely does anyone else come by, and when that's happened they usually are gone pretty quickly.

Otherwise, I've got a regular bud who visits once a month on business and has a nice hotel...

[jabor60]

I've seen such postings, too, and that's a possibility. Another way to go about it might be, assuming you've met guys before that can host, is to contact that guy and ask if he wouldn't mind if you and a friend came by and fooled around at his place. He could just watch, or even participate, depending on how you want to do it.

I've also wondered if it would be possible to rent a room from someone who had a detached mother- in- law unit, or unused room in their house. Offer him maybe $20.00 for an hour's use. I would think it might be a nice source of income if someone had an unused room in their home with its own access to the outside.

I actually brought up the idea to a lesbian couple I know but they didn't seem interested.

Along that line I've had the opportunity to use a friend's travel trailer that is parked at a storage lot. Great this time of year, but rather warm during the summer.

[69luvr]

a movie thea:male:ter in early afternoon is usually a nice quiet place to do your thing. Once I went to a theater about 1 Pm and was paractically alone except for the usher. After eye contact was established he came over to say hello and hello and hello. it was marvelous and a very enjoyable as well as tastey time.:bipride:

[whispering]

I can't host at home, but I have a nice, small professional office that is very comfortable and homey. The walls are a little thin, but on weekends nobody is around. I do know that some guys just check into a local bath and take a private room, which seems a good solution. I have had several trysts with women in campers parked at job sites.

[jem_is_bi]

I do not have hosting issues. But, it seems that, the time available to play can be even more of a problem. On contact, could get together for play on Tues. and Thurs. at 5 to 5:30 AM.
Another, only early Sunday morning and another left me with the impression that by the time I was undressed it would be time to leave, but that would not work either because of the time required to travel.
I do not think where to meet is a problem if you do not have reasonable flexibility on time for the meeting.
Further, these two show-stoppers seem to be highly correlated.

[Mr. Suck]

On those occasions when my children and grand children are visiting me and I want to get away for a while, I take advantage of an establishment near me that rents hot tubs by the hour. A couple of hours in a relaxing jacuzzi coupled with some hot sex really hits the spot. Also, it is less than a third of the cost of a hotel. Since I meet mostly with couples, a bath house doesn't work and I find it is a great, intimate environment that everyone enjoys. It is a family place, but once the door is closed and locked it is very private. For those who get nervous being seen entering a hotel, because they are concerned about their public image, furnishes a nice alternative. Pappy Actually what you are describing is a bath house. Also it is not as "private" as you want to pretend it is. Do you really believe the people who own that place or who work there have no idea that you and other people are having sex there? If you can't go to a hotel or motel because you're that deeply closeted or have issues you're not the type of person myself and many other bisexual men want to have sex with.

[Waylon]

Car dates are a viable alternative, especially for just BJs. If you're creative, you can always find a discrete, safe spot.

[69luvr]

I agree and enjoy car sex a lot!

[Young pussy and dope]

I did have car sex with women and men as a young adult but I have not done it in decades. Going to my place, their place, or if I am on vacation my hotel room or their room works fine.

[BiPantylover]

I have found that not being able to host is the greatest deterrent to my having more bi experiences. I have met guys ar adult theaters and bookstores. While this better than nothing it's not great. Car sex is cool but also nerve racking. There are no bath house near me and I would like to try that.

[magari]

You name it, I've tried it. (apart from public bathrooms) Motels, car sex, darkened vans, my storage unit, etc. The oddest was a married guy's house, while his wife was out. We used his guest room, but surrounded by family portraits and all was pretty creepy. Have found a good gay friend who loves to host married guys in 3somes. There's nothing like feeling safe, well entertained and no rush!

[cuttin2dachase]

I had my own private, safe place with no wife or roomies or nosey neighbors for several years. It was in a rural area 25 miles from a major city (Raleigh NC). I had weekday evenings and weekends off and plenty of time to play. Sounds optimum, right? WRONG ! I invited and met 4 couples and 8 men there in 3 years, several of them more than once. For every guy or couple I met, there were 5 people whom were very interested in meeting, but whom didn't want to drive more than 10 or 15 miles or whom were spooked about meeting at a nice doublewide on a dirt road LOL. I guess you could say that in addition to having a place and plenty of time to play, location also plays a part. No offense to anyone, but I would never consider an adult bookstore or bath or a public restroom as a meeting place because I personally consider them dangerous and sleazy. I have met businessmen and couples at their hotels and split the cost, but have never rented a room for myself. I do enjoy car sex and outdoor sex, however I'm not a danger seeker LOL. After nearly being caught with male lovers in semi-private places, I've henceforth only met at very secluded spots with no danger of being seen or caught inside the car or outside. I prefer outside, totally naked, on a tailgate or in a truck bed or on a blanket or sleeping bag on the ground !

[NjbiGuy01]

I never had any issues splitting a room with friends at a local motel. One place near me is 50 bucks, so 25 a couple or person and thats not unfair. Discrete, clean, safe, and reasonable price. Doesn't have to be a Marriott...all the time anyway...

[whispering]

I never had any issues splitting a room with friends at a local motel. One place near me is 50 bucks, so 25 a couple or person and thats not unfair. Discrete, clean, safe, and reasonable price. Doesn't have to be a Marriott...all the time anyway...

This is sounding like a good way to go. I do like car sex, and with a girlfriend we did it often for fun; with two guys, though, it could be worse than embarrassing.

[Chris_t_boston]

Various places for me:

Car - where you park is always an issue. I have found that parking garages work pretty good, especially in suburbs.City parking garages have a lot of cameras. You can go in and scope out a good place, like a corner where no one will be walking by. Parking lots aren't too bad. Remember there's plenty of cars and you won't stand out.

Woods - Not really a bad place at night. During the day there may be plenty of hikers so be careful.

Hotel - Splitting the cost is OK if you can afford it, but someone may have to put it on a credit card.

Office - Hooked up with a psychologist. We would meet in his office after his suite-mate left for the day. Worked out pretty well.

Storage unit - Good if you already have one with a couch or mattress already in it.

[CuriousTexxxan]

For me a trip to my hunting lease is the best. It's pretty secluded and has bunks which can be utilized for sexual activity. Not to mention telling your suppose that your heading to the hunting lease doesn't arouse any suspicion.

[Hypersexual11]

For awhile, after the kids moved out we had the house to ourselves which was great. Then the ma in law moved in and shut that down. Since we are doing the mmf, a vehicle is out of the question. We even tried the camper but we need either a king size bed or a big section of the floor for blankets and pillows. Hotel rooms are fine although when we advertise for a guy we are specific about needing a place to play. If the reply is "we can split a room" I move on. Mostly these are married guys looking to cheat which is a turn off for the wife. Hosting is the single biggest hurdle we have to cross. We currently have 2 lovers, one lives alone in a big beautiful house and is fairly close by. The other lives alone, but in a city nearly 50 miles of mountain driving away. Since the close guy travels constantly and the long drive isn't worth the mediocre sex, our activities have been limited. It could be awesome if there was a large group of couples and guys that could cover the cost of a 2 or 3 bedroom rental. I'm sure a couple pigs in the group would make that a pain also though. For the 2 of us, since we can't really cut loose in the house with ma here, we go out to our conversion van. We modified the bed in back and made it big enough for 2.
Good topic. I was hoping there would be an "ah-ha" idea.

[ErosUrge]

Yes, since I care for an elderly parent I don't have the luxury of privacy. Though I live in the opposite end of the house, it would be too risky since my parent sometimes wakes in the middle of the night. Even when it's late in the deep hours of the night and I'm giving pleasure to myself with toys and hand, I can sometimes hear this parent in the kitchen. So, I have to keep quiet until they go back to bed...and there's many other factors that make it complicated were someone to come here for play....such as dogs barking when they don't know someone....

So for me the option has been usually to be invited to someone's home or to a hotel/motel room that they are already staying in. There are motels that charge by the hour, but I don't like them simply because they're somewhat seedy...

The bath house works beautifully for my male friends and it's kept extremely clean. There are 2 gay friends and 1 bi friend that I meet on a regular basis at one...it works for us....

I will eventually be able to host in my home....

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Like naked said, a bath house of Hot tub place is Fantastic for some fun. Check this one out. Looove this place. www.Elliotbay.com

Check around and see if there are any like this near you. They rent usually by the hour, but are well worth it. Start out with a steamy shower together, then get in the hot tub to relax, which usually leads to kissing, then some good sucking on the side of the tub. Most places have these little built-in areas for some good hard core play, too. They have piped in music and are very clean and discreet..:}
Good luck Hon.
Play hard, but play safe Always..:}
Cat

[yessirtiresflat]

For quickies, thought about but never tried this -- pulling into one of those automatic car washes (where the entry and exit doors close while it operates) after having loaded up the meter for the super-duper, ultra deluxe wash. Migp. ht hafta run 'er thru again for the swap. :)

[jennylynne]

When I was married I had to get creative on many occaisions. Her place, back of a van, under blankets in a park, cheap hotel near the mall, dressing room in dept stores, whatever. Always told hubby I was going "shopping" LOL