Who is more accepting in a mixed orientation marriage...

[mikey3000]

the straight male partner or the straight female partner, and why?

[Long Duck Dong]

lol that ranks up there with where is the fountain of youth and where is the other sock.......

honestly, I have no answer..... I can only assume based on life experience and what I have observed in my life and years of counselling work......

most of my cases with counselling involve a straight female trying to deal with a males infidelity..... but that means fuck all..... its a bit like the forums.... more males post about how their partners will not accept bisexuality, but thats only a visible overview..... its possible that more females talk with their partners instead of about them.......

if males think that its hard to get their female partners to accept bisexuality..... try being a female with a partner that is repulsed by the idea of two females together lol....... something that is more common than we tend to think....

so I will stand on a stance of its equal,... the deciding factors are the personalities and natures of both partners.... the way things are expressed and the desired outcome.......

and it appears that its the people that are secure in themselves and settled, and have a good balanced connection with their partners, that become the ones that have the more stable and stronger marriages, and handle a open marriage better..... and they are generally the types of marriages where the partner has a lover and a partner....rather than a partner and a string of casual encounters........

I have often believed that the way we choose lovers, is a indication of our own nature in relationships..... but ... who knows.... its only personal understanding

[DuckiesDarling]

Honestly, my gut reaction is straight males are more accepting because they have visions of threesomes dancing in their heads or they just bottom line are not threatened by another female.

Straight females are more emotional about things and understand that their man has the capability to fall in love with another male so that is twice the amount of people she has to worry about him cheating with. It takes a lot of strength and trust in your partner to not be threatened by comments or a late night with friends.

It also depends on what kind of marriage the mixed orientation partners have, if it is monogamy based then it's easier for partners of either sex to accept the bisexuality part of their partner. If it's open then it indicates a level of trust and the ability to say you love them enough to set them free and know they will come back to you.

I'm straight and I love my bisexual male, but more than that I trust that he will not cheat on me, not now while I am 9000 miles away and not when I get back there. I will never spend a night holding my pillow and wondering where my husband is and who he is fucking now. Something I did quite a bit in a straight marriage.

So yes, males have an easier time for certain reasons. Females are indeed the stronger ones though when they can accept and trust their partners.

[DuckiesDarling]

Curious that this hasn't gotten more replies so bumping it back up to see if it gets anymore posts.

[fredtyg]

I can't imagine a male, straight or otherwise, having a problem with his girl fooling around with another girl.

I could imagine a straight gal having problems with her hubby fooling around with other men. Not sure I understand why, though.

Then again, I'm not straight, so what do I know?

[tenni]

I think that the tendency is that more straight guys would initially be more accepting than straight women. Both may feel threatened though and have to deal with jealousy issues. I think that since lesbian porn is pretty much a mainstay in male sexual fantasies that it is more socially acceptable. However, most guys like to think of it as the women are really doing this for his entertainment. So, as long as the guy thinks that it is about "him", things would be fine. If the wife begins to spend a lot more time with her lover and the guy is not involved, I can see him becoming as much threatened as straight women can be initially. When the man thinks that it is no longer "porn for my amusement"...lol It may be all about "emotions"...makes sense to me.

[firefighter38111]

i have encouraged my wife to come out..she has had female lovers after her last marriage but she hesitates. we have used the same role playing in bed for 3 years and we both enjoy it. i am her g/f or can even be her bitch. i wear panties (course i do 24/7 anyway).....but my size isnt the best for intercourse. i am barely 5.o and thin and when soft and uncut. its a nub in panties. she usualyy gets on top after i do oral and fingers. we use a vibe for the stretching. When she is on top i dont insert my dick. WE do clit to clit massage and the best is when i take my clit and rub it over her clit. she will quickly soak the bed. she can squirt multiple times. we both love our sex life.

i would enjoy her feeling free to be able to have femle to female sex. i dont care to watch and want her happy
there is also a part of me that is curious..not sure how to tell her that

[citystyleguy]

...finding it a bit odd, this term 'accepting'; by that, i mean what is actually the acceptance of...?

this idea that men are more accepting, i find difficult to believe; in any discussion as such, it is too often the vision of the guy imaging this great hot deal they got going with the possibility of two ladies up to some hot action. i mean, just look at the porn industry out there for straight dudes, loaded with girl on girl sex, with the man leering just off side, or sitting there with them. if that is what is accepting, mmh a bit of b.s. if the truth be told!

now with the woman, it is always the mention of cheating, and by that, i mean just what is the cheating aspect, and what does that mean in terms of acceptance. if cheating is the true question, then it isnt the bisexuality that is the cheating, as that practice is widespread no matter what the sexuality. if being bisexual is equal with cheating, than there is a complete lack of understanding as to being bisexual means.

what being with a woman means, in any capacity, versus being with a man, in any capacity, are completely compatible co-existence to me; if however, the sex act is the cheating component, and the same for what is actually a sex act for the man, then there should be a re-examination of just what constitutes bisexuality, its place in the world of relationships, and mainstream acceptance.

i fully realise that there are fully accepting hetero partners on both sides of the equation; my issue is what passes for acceptance by either hetero member of the relationship as seems to be the commonality as expressed in this thread.

[Lisa (va)]

so I will stand on a stance of its equal,... the deciding factors are the personalities and natures of both partners.... the way things are expressed and the desired outcome.......



Have no clue if it is equal or sways to one side or the other, but I would have to agree

Lisa

hugs n kisses

[tenni]

Re: post #9
cityguy
I do not seem to have any difficulty in understanding the meaning of accepting. It has little to do with the concept of "cheating". They should be looked at separately.

[tequilafan]

I think the majority of men are more accepting of bi wives. The "every mans fantasy" of two women makes that possible. I know of very few women that fantasize about to guys. Which, is kind of odd, because I've been in more MFM threesomes than FMF threesomes. I think women love having two men focused on their needs, but the thought of "their man" sucking cock is repulsive, (brainwashing from society, rather than being based on anything legitimate).

Just my opinion, don't read more into it then there is.