Help!

[bialice18]

I'm 18, and female.
Recently, I have discovered I have feelings for members of the same sex, particularly one of my boyfriend's good female friends (Ahh!)
I've always been able to see the attractiveness of females, but this is the first time I've actually felt like I'd like to take this attraction further.
So anyway. My boyfriend, this girl and I have been to many a party together, where we've all had a bit to drink and end up in funny/confusing situations. (Such as kissing one another, tackling one another, you know the sort). There seems to be a mutual attraction between the girl and I when we are less than sober, but I just can't tell how she feels when we haven't had anything to drink.
My boyfriend knows about all this, and he is fine with it.
I'm just confused as to how to go about letting this girl know how I feel! I don't want to ruin mine or my boyfriend's friendship with her!
Please help me! Thankyou :tong:

[fredtyg]

Maybe just find the right moment and tell her you're bisexual? You wouldn't need to tell her you have feelings for her. Just let it slip that you're bi. See how she reacts. If she seems ok with it, take your time with it and let slip a few more things.

Another angle would be to invite her out to do some things alone- just the two of you. Show a personal interest in her and see how that goes. I still think you'd want to let slip the b word out at some point in your activity, though.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Try doing things without drinking when your inhibitions are down. Ask her out for some Girl Time. Go shopping, go to lunch, go to the mall to watch people, get to know her better, then mention something casual "I hope you werent offended by me kissing you at the club the other night?" type of thing, and see how she responds to it.
Good luck :}
Cat