Pornography and sexual identification

[bikiniman]

I find that when I watch pornography that I often put myself in the place of the women rather than the man. I empathize and identify with the women and fantasize about being the women in the scene.

Do other people do this?

[Realist]

I promise you there is someone out there for you.

For every personality, interests, and desire, etc, etc, there is someone who feels the same as you about it. Now, all you've got to do is find them!

I've always felt that I was different than most, but I've found lovers who did an admirable job of filling those requirements.

Don't give up and don't settle for less than you want!

[jem_is_bi]

When I watch male-female porn. I fantasize myself as a replacement for her sucking his dick rather than me becoming the woman in the scene.

[Volley]

When I watch male-female porn. I fantasize myself as a replacement for her sucking his dick rather than me becoming the woman in the scene.

YES I also can put myself in the womans place, being with the man. Performing oral sex on him and him performing anal intercourse on me.

[2point5]

If I find myself focusing on the guys in straight porn or wishing it was me sucking or getting fucked I'll just switch to gay porn. But lately I've been craving dick so I usually just head straight to the all male stuff.

A couple months ago I was out of town and instead of hitting the net for some distraction, I went to a local adult book store that had a small gay section. In the old days I would try and take quick glances and pretend I was in the wrong place but this time I shopped the section for about 15 minutes. I found a couple of magazines and a dvd with pretty graphic covers. The disc had the word Bareback in the title and two guys with 8 inch hard-ons on the front and the mags had actual hardcore action pics on them. I used to hide this stuff in a stack of straight porn but not anymore. It was so exciting to indulge my gay side so overtly and publicly. My heart was beating a little fast and my dick started to get hard. I carried my stuff around for a few minutes looking at toys and stuff and then went to check out. I looked the 20 something guy right in the eye as he scanned my hardcore, man on man porn. I made sure he had no doubt, I love dick.

I hurried back to my hotel, broke open my purchases, got out a dildo and some lube that I brought and had a couple of the best solo orgasms I've had in a while.

[12voltman59]

. My heart was beating a little fast and my dick started to get hard. I carried my stuff around for a few minutes looking at toys and stuff and then went to check out. I looked the 20 something guy right in the eye as he scanned my hardcore, man on man porn. I made sure he had no doubt, I love dick.

I hurried back to my hotel, broke open my purchases, got out a dildo and some lube that I brought and had a couple of the best solo orgasms I've had in a while.

Good for you--this kinda reminds me of something I did earlier this year. It was last winter and I was browsing through the shelves at one of my favorite non-sexual bookstores--but this particular store always carries some very interesting "coffee table" type books on all sorts of topics-many of them by the Taschen publishers from Europe.

There were several copies of this really incredible book of rather hefty size with the title being "The Big Penus Book"--with the book being big and it having tons of photos and artwork of lots of hot guys with REALLY BIG cocks.

Most of the copies had plastic wrappings around them--it is not a cheap book--it was like fifty or sixty bucks, but I have a card with that store that gives you ten percent and the book also had an extra sale on it.

I saw the book and in a store like this---will look at gay themed books--but have to admit--I am kind of skittish about doing so--but looking around-no one near me--took a peak in the one copy that someone had taken the plastic wrapper off-and man--I had to get it.

I walked right up and paid for it-along with some magazines I had. The clerk was a guy and I wondered what sort of comments he might make other than "did you find everything you were looking for?, do you have your member's card?," and how do I want to pay for it?.

He was great---he told me he got a copy too, that he loved it and that I would too--I think he was sorta flirting with me.

Well--I took it home, took the wrapping off my copy--I left the one without it at the store so other guys or ladies could take a peak at the book too.

I sure had some fun after going through the pics in the book and continue to do so.

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=The+Big+Penis+book&x=11&y=20

[Realist]

Volty,

Years ago, a couple I knew gave me a Taschen book filled with beautifully developed photos, taken back in the '20s and '30s, in France. For that era, in the states at least, the pictures were extremely risque!

Each photo featured magnificent cars of the day with cheerful nudes, partially clothed nudes, up skirts and nipple teasers. There were sensuous photos of MF copulation and lesbian interaction, too. I loved the nostalgic look of the scenes depicted.

I loaned the book to someone and have forgotten to whom....dammit!

[Nadir]

Getting back to the original topic of conversation, these last few weeks of summer have been of experimenting either with porn or with real people. I must say that, regarding to porn, I become more excited as the OP said, imagining myself in the place of a woman in straight porn. I have no problem watching gay porn, but it does not work as well for me. Porn involving transexuals, however, works most of times and manages to get me excited as well. And then there is bisexual porn (porn involving girls and two or more guys who have contact with each other), which sometimes works (I find it extremely beautiful looking at a girl and a guy working together on a man), and sometimes not (yesterday, for example, I watched a bisexual orgy, and well, I couldnt imagine myself there, and I had difficulty becoming excited watching it, alghough I still masturbated to the video, anyway...sorry for the details). I dunno if porn is related to sexual orientation, but I think it is pretty damn good indicator of what turns on a man and what not, as studies have shown, but I wouldnt think its the deffinite indicator of it.

[Jessicaknight]

I find that when I watch pornography that I often put myself in the place of the women rather than the man. I empathize and identify with the women and fantasize about being the women in the scene.

Do other people do this?

I'm with you. I love to put myself in the place of the woman.

Only I do that with all porn. Str8, Gay, Lesbian, T-gurls and the rest if I missed any

[Nadir]

Is that Belladona in your avatar photo, Jessicaknight? She is one my favorite adult actresses :D She is the woman who is able to bend her body and her mind to astonishing extremes. I remember one of my favorite threesome scenes involving her, Nacho Vidal (her Spanish ex-boyfriend, who is regarded by most people as Rocco Siffredi´s legitimate replacement as the king of porn) and a transexual (MTF) named Carol. I think it was nominated for an award as "Most Outrageous Sex Scene" in the AVN of 2004. You should check it out if you have the chance, you wont be dissapointed :)

[Thomas_The_Rhymer]

Interesting. I have never put myself in the place of the woman. I'm always the man/one of the men in my mind whether it be straight, bi, or gay porn.

[sexualrememberances]

One of the first clues I had that I was truly bisexual was when I was younger and would go to a porn theater (back when there was such a thing) I found that I would eventually tire of watching the women, especially the lesbian scenes. Initially those would be what I found the hottest, but would eventually get sort of numb to them. But I would find myself unable to look away if there was some guy with a big cock fucking a woman.

When I would leave I would always feel a mixture of being turned on, confused, and a little ashamed at the knowledge that I stayed a lot longer because I couldn't stop looking at the cocks. I would eventually rationalize it away and not think about it much until the next time it happened or sometimes when I'd masturbate (and feel guilty).

It was a tough thing to face, but eventually I ended up admitting to myself (and no one else at the time) that I was sexually attracted to me. I'm sure that there is a preacher somewhere who would say that it was the act of watching porn that made me want dick, but the fact of the matter was that it merely made me face up to feelings I knew that I already had.

[bisexual Bill]

I don't watch straight porn. I find it boring. The men and women in it are not always attractive to me and compared to real sex with a woman it's fake.

When I've watched straight porn I do not put myself in the spot of the woman.

I mainly watch gay porn and some bisexual porn where there are two men and a woman. When I watch the bisexual MMF 3 way porn I do not put myself in the woman's place.

Someone's personal porn preference does not always reflect their sexuality.

I'm bisexual and I do not like watching straight porn. I do not care for lesbian or porn that has only women in it since there are no men at all in it and lesbian porn does not turn me on at all.

I know a few gay men who sometimes watch straight porn and just watch the men in it.

[BobbyGlendinning]

No, I don't. I always identify with the male. I like both gay and straight porn but lately the men in straight porn look like gay porn stars; they're all shaved and overly muscular and metrosexual. That bothers me, maybe I've internalized some homophobia or something. I like straight porn when the women are beautiful and the men are homely enough not to distract me.

[Realist]

Pornography is not nearly as stimulating, to me, as real life! Amateurs interest me and seem more natural than actors and "perfect people". I dislike people looking at the camera, instead at their partners...you know they are playing to the photographer and not who they're with. When they're involved because they really feel what they are doing...that is exciting to me.

A lady, who is a member, sent me a video of her undressing and masturbating, just for me, that was one of the most arousing things I'd ever seen!

[BobbyGlendinning]

Realist,

Yes, I can totally relate to what you wrote here; there is something very hot about watching sex, but when it's too staged, it feels empty (sort of empty; I still can get off on it).

Interesting point.

[AidanS57]

I've never been a big porn person, did my share of peep shows when I was truck driving just out of boredom. Never wanted to take any of the lot lizards up cause I was too afraid of whatever else they might be carrying so the peep shows were a good way to just go and jerk off and then sleep comfy in my truck.

[69luvr]

I love all porno. My preference is lipstick lesbians with a boob fetish! But I adore CD videos and m2m sex vids. I especially love to watch in a theater and see others enjoying it as much as I am. That is when I feel most comfortable. :flag3: