It's tough. I've tried craigslist, and find it to be a sewer filled with fakes & flakes. I also have profiles on FetLife, SilverDaddies, SwingLifeStyle, Squirt and Garter Guy, where most of those whom I come into contact with are able to rub a couple of nouns together and come up with some kind of a reply. And I've exchanged messages with several guys on this site. Met one once, but nothing came of it.
I'm a very 'communicative' guy and welcome the opportunity to exchange messages and share experiences I've had as a swinger and a bisexual, as a way of getting to know another guy or gurl before meeting and eventual play. I wind up doing all the heavy lifting though, writing emails that titillate, and receive little in return. I write complete profiles, with accurate descriptions of myself, what I like to do and include pictures. I get a lot of eager responses, based on these things, but when it comes to any depth, there is virtually none. Guys who profess to love my profile, pictures and video often have virtually blank profiles, and maybe one picture of themselves holding a camera sideways, etc. It's pathetic. One guy was all hot to meet me recently. His profile, aside from basic 'stats' said, in total:
'Looking forward to the next great adventure.' (although he probably didn't capitalize the first word and spelled a couple of the other ones wrong) Sheesh...
Sometimes, I write back, politely. 'You've read my profile, which tells you nearly everything you'd want to know about me, seen my pictures, maybe watched my videos, and I know virtually nothing about you. Please take a few minutes to describe yourself, what you enjoy doing, etc. Sell yourself a little!' And they get pissed at me or I never hear from them again. These guys expect me to invite them into my home ---
"Can't host!!", they say -- and have sex with them when I know absolutely nothing about 'em? Ain't happening.
Sometimes a chat or exchange of emails/private messages appears to be giving us both a level of comfort, and we arrange a face-to-face meeting at a coffee shop. Most of the time, I'm the only one who shows up.
But it's their loss, not mine. If you like what I'm into, you're going to enjoy playing with me. I don't make stuff up, and you'll find me to be exactly the way I describe myself via email.
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