Originally Posted by
HardCell735
Well, if the foundation of the conversation is "sex", we can break down the motivations for desiring sex to be either lead by the desiring of emotional connection (we might call this love) or lead by the desiring of physical contact (we might call this lust). You cannot have "sex" (as a human anyways) in purely emotional terms because there would be no physical contact, nor in purely physical terms because what's the point if you cannot FEEL anything from it? So I think what motivates people to have sex is always some combination of what we might call love and lust, whether they are aware or not of this combination (love/lust) or what particular ratio of the combination of the two drives them. So of course it's an individual combination for everybody.
You can have a kink, which I see as a more specific kind of sex ACT or ACTION, whether your motivations are more love leaning OR lust leaning.
So to answer your question...
"If a person presents their sexual pleasure from kink as their sexuality, are they correct and in touch with a darker aspect of themselves?
You wouldn't be able to tell from their simply "presenting" their kink. Only the person doing the presenting would know that.
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