Anyone who's been on this site for any length of time knows that pole smoker or sole poker or whatever he call's himself this week is a troll. I'm not sure where Drew disappeared too but I hope he get's back soon and puts the troll on ice.
Anyone who's been on this site for any length of time knows that pole smoker or sole poker or whatever he call's himself this week is a troll. I'm not sure where Drew disappeared too but I hope he get's back soon and puts the troll on ice.
I'd really suggest that you don't comment with just the word 'Bump' and proliferate the virus that you're trying to eliminate. But instead provide a useful comment instead.
It would be great if we could bring back the discussion atmosphere of the past.
As far as PS, I just don't comment on ANY of his childless attempts at attention. If it's useful then sure.
'Scuse me... I have me own bump just beginning2 make its way in me world so wud rather bump cud in no way b confused with Poley Dimwit.. find anotha word!!!
Sleekit Wanker sounds cool 2 me...
K.. is 2 words but far more appropriate...
Last edited by darkeyes; Nov 12, 2014 at 8:16 AM.
Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you.
darkeyes,Originally Posted by darkeyes
'Scuse me... I have me own bump just beginning
You've got a bun in the oven?
CONGRATULATIONS!
If it is a male child, you must remember never to hit him on the head with a rolling pin, if ye catch 'im wankin-off.
In retrospect, pole_smoker's mum must have handled that scenario rather poorly, probably because she had one of those marble rolling pins.
Fran has indeed... and ta BiBed... nev wanted babba but funny thing ya body.. somehow it takes over and makes ya broody.. and had been so for long time! Afraid instinct won out ova logic.. but ya kno wot? Mite b scared stiff of child birth.. no doubt of it cos I am.. not 2 happy bout growing 2 size of a whale eitha or mayb getting stretch marks.. but ya kno wot? Just wudn't change how things r panning out.. and my child will be far too bright and well brought up to act anything like the dimwit..darkeyes,
You've got a bun in the oven?
CONGRATULATIONS!
If it is a male child, you must remember never to hit him on the head with a rolling pin, if ye catch 'im wankin-off.
In retrospect, pole_smoker's mum must have handled that scenario rather poorly, probably because she had one of those marble rolling pins.
Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you.
After some review of Mr. P.S.'s actions, on this site, I recalled a fellow who was sexually abused by his father and his mother was a meth addict.
Under those circumstances, the poor thing never had a chance. P.S. has all of the same symptoms.......he's definitely a product of bad genies, most probably had meth-drugged parents, and surely he was severely abused at a child.
His lack of social skills, and inability to make and keep friends, are also indications of most social outcasts.
Probably, the best that can be done is to institutionalize him, while his brain continues to deteriorate and he drifts off into obscurity!
The only thing anyone will remember is...............well, no one will remember him!
^^^
LMAO!!!! Nice try being a psychologist and/or psychiatrist from your comfy armchair Realist.
I do not use drugs, have never used meth, and my parents have never used meth or drugs and don't even really drink that much. I was not abused as a child, teenager, or adult.
I don't lack social skills. I have a partner, and I have friends. I am in perfect physical and mental health too.
No I'm not.
Define "everyone" besides yourself and other trolls who love to stalk/harass me, and play psychologist from their comfy armchairs.
I think this pole_smoker character despises the prospect of us discussing him in public, in the negative light he deserves.
It'd be a flash-back to his childhood.
This is why he is keen to see this particular thread, burried under a whole bunch of his nonsense.
It's too strong a mirorr for him.
lmao as if a total stranger that's a troll like bibedbud would know anything about me at all, or my childhood.
Is it nice there in your armchair of speculation and theory?
I'm not the way you claim I am, and I'm in perfect physical and mental health. I have a fulltime job, and friends and family who love me for who I am.
My partner and I are having lots of laughs over your trolling posts about me, a total stranger to you though.
Last edited by pole_smoker; Nov 13, 2014 at 2:52 AM.
Lets face it! Your partner must bore the shit out of you, if that's what's keeping you both entertained. Dump him! Get yourself a dirty promiscuous kinky little whore, whole entertain you in much better ways for a grown adult. You know you'd love it!
Or maybe he IS a kinky little whore, but gets bugger all from you but your trolling?
IMO, he doesn't exist. Who'd put up with that crazy shit?
"You're like my yo-yo, that glowed in the dark. What made it special, made it dangerous. So I bury it, and forget.":Kate Bush
Don't think that highly of yourself. We just both find comments written by people who don't know fuck all about either one of us at all to be funny mainly since it's not accurate at all.
We both have a highly satisfying sex and romantic life with each other, and that's all that matters.
Yes I've had relationships with women. I had a longterm girlfriend for over a decade before I met my partner. I'm not a virgin or prude. I just prefer to have sex with a partner or a person who I am in a long term relationship with. I'm 55.
Some women and men are into period sex. This includes lesbian/bi women, and hetero/bi women and men.
I'm personally not into it but some of my hetero male friends are, and some of my female friends did tell me how they've done it but just lay down towels or do it in the shower.
Last edited by pole_smoker; Nov 13, 2014 at 4:30 AM.
Drew,
A simple fix for this problem: Reset the fucker's password, and don't tell him the new one.
That way, he'd be locked-out of his profile and all his posted threads will remain. Those with merit will survive, and those (bulk of them) with no redeeming value, will just wither away, having received zero (0!) responses, and only accidental views. Wonderfully, the rest of us can continue to post scorn on his 'Visitor Messages' page, as I have recently begun doing. The beauty part of it is that he'd no longer be able to erase them.
LOL!
PS: If you're in favour of this measure, please chime-in in this thread.
I am pretty sure that he's NEVER had any significant relationship with a woman, and his alledged male partner is likely a hoax too. He asks some seriously naïf questions in his so-called polls. For example, if men have ever had sex with a woman on her period, or if women have had period sex. (!?!)............................... REDACTED.............................
IMO, he doesn't exist. Who'd put up with that crazy shit?
LOL!
He's clueless, and the reason for the umpteen-million questions for us, is that he genuinely wants to know!
LOL!
I am altering my earlier guestimate -- this fucker is a virgin, probably still a teenager!
I find it incredibly cute that our little smoker has such a circle of friends that give him encouragement and help bolster his self esteem to this level. So many people with low self worth just simmer in their own pity and can't function. I think we should all add a little "Good for you", to help him along in his journey of validation and assist his escape from the stigma of having been on the short bus. We have all been standing in a circle of people in deep conversation when that one person slips in that everybody dreads. But, we still talk to him and do our good deed for society. And, they never know when to leave and can't see that they have worn out their welcome. That could be because of all the fake compliments that we never meant, and have allowed them to actually feel that they have a place that they can belong. Al Gore created this place for "them". A place where nobodies can be somebody. Do your good deed for the day, and just give him a hug and say "It will be okay, really it will".
"It will be okay, really it will"
Yes......in YOUR mind.
I expect that the reason why you don't create fictitious accounts for 'him', is that you could not cope with 'him' being criticized as being less than perfect.
'He' is your ideal partner.........if you were to get one. If you really did have one in the past, he was def NOT your ideal.
Having your fantasy partner blemished, would leave you feeling a failure in 'pretend world' also.
We do know a lot about you.
In one of your earlier 'guises' you were bipolar. You had a wrath against men who were only interested in sex, and not in a monog emotional relationship with you.
You detest an overly high interest in sex, and want others to detest it too. This new way of lashing out, may be your best yet.
But it changes nothing in your life. There's nobody there congratulating you in your manic phase. Nor comforting you when you crash.
You make that improbable for yourself by drowning in your negative anti-social behaviour. If you were to meet a genuine person as you describe, you'd drive them away.
If you are still refusing to accept your bipolar (as you did before), I suggest you go get a review. You are not acting healthily!
How many need to tell you that?
"You're like my yo-yo, that glowed in the dark. What made it special, made it dangerous. So I bury it, and forget.":Kate Bush
Gearbox-My partner doesn't have an account because he's not interested in this site. I have never posted on this site before.
No I'm not bipolar, or manic. I don't have any mental, or physical illness.
My partner knows I post on this site and doesn't care, yes he's seen my posts here.
It's not my problem if you don't believe me. You're just some stranger on the internet with your own agendas. But the ignore feature does work on you and the other troll bibedbud. Neither of you are actual psychologists or psychiatrists, and it must be nice posting from your comfy armchair and assuming things that aren't true about a total stranger.
Last edited by pole_smoker; Nov 13, 2014 at 9:49 PM. Reason: added info.
Oh c'mon! If you are so sure of your mental state, show this site to a therapist, councilor, friend etc.
That's all you'd need to do. I guarantee you'd get some help.
"You're like my yo-yo, that glowed in the dark. What made it special, made it dangerous. So I bury it, and forget.":Kate Bush
^^^^^Gearbox, I can tell that you've got his best interests at heart, while I'm over here wanting to break his mental block with a sledgehammer. I never knew you were such a humanitarian!
pole_smoker, if you've got any sense at all, you'll take Gearbox's advice, and bring this website to the attention of a bonafide psychiatrist (one with admitting priviledges). See if they don't concur with your Dr. Gearbox and Dr. BiBedBud. (We probably wouldn't hear back from you for like, 90 days, or whatever the initial commital period is in your NY state, assuming that's where you are.)
Re: What shall we do with a run away pole smoker?
There are some SUGGESTIONS I would like to offer all reasonable, level-headed members of bisexualdotcom; if you appreciate this place for what it was and can be again.
The first is: Find a thread that has merit in your eyes, and make a post there to further that discussion. You might have to do some deep digging, but those threads are still there if you search DEEP into the forum. Do this today for three reasons. First and foremost, to help ‘elevate’ this place (hopefully) above the painfully boring tirade foisted upon us by that fucker, “pole_smoker”. You don’t have to post poetry. Just be genuine. (Unlike that facetious pole_fucker.) The second reason to do this is to help us hose some of pole_smoker’s shit off the ‘Recent Threads’ board on the homepage. He’ll likely hate to see anyone else’s thread there, but fuck him, right? The third is because discussion threads that grow ‘stale’ beyond a secret limit set by Drew, will become ‘Locked’ and end-up in an archive, rather than the discussion forum.
The second thing to do: Make greater use of the ‘Subscribe to Thread’ feature of bisexualdotcom. Rather than relying on the “Recent Threads” board (which pole_fucko has effectively hijacked, much to the consternation of many); the “Subscribe to Thread” feature offers a few *powerful options* to customize your personal experience at bisexualdotcom (including ‘pushed notifications’). To do so, go to the first page of any thread you like, and right above that first post in the thread, on the right hand side, you will see a link for “Thread Tools” and by clicking it, one of the options you’ll discover is “Subscribe to this Thread”. Click on that. You will see further options for “Notification Type” and “Folders”, which you can combine powerfully to greatly improve your experience here at bisexualdotcom – pole_smoker be damned!
The third suggestion is simply to avoid adding to the problem of ‘Thread Spam’ that we’re having with pole_smoker. Of course, I do realize that you might think that I’ve added to the problem myself, and I wouldn’t argue otherwise, except to say that I’m sorry I can be disruptive while dealing with a disruption. It’s a necessary evil, I’d suggest, because that BS really ticks me off and I’m not alone in that regard. Rest assured, I am eager to get back to discussing more interesting topics with actual bisexuals (instead of BS from that self-loathing homo pole_smoker).
So, to be specific, try to avoid “Thread Spam” by observing the following TWO FRIENDLY SUGGESTIONS REGARDING THREAD CREATION:
Avoid thread titles that are “click bait”, i.e. non-descriptive, non-specific or confusing. Thread titles should help readers decide if they want to click, not tempt, trick or tease them to click. As ethical bisexuals, let us keep our soliciting to sex (whether literal, figurative or actual) with each other – and leave our clicks alone! While you’re at it: Make sure the first few words in your first post, summarize what the *new* thread is about, which you can elaborate further, later in that same starting post. This is helpful because the beginning words of the beginning post of a thread will appear as ‘pop-up text’ when you mouse-over the thread’s title on the ‘Recent Threads’ board. Clarifying everything up-front, will help readers make informed clicks.
Avoid starting threads for transient or non-persistent purposes. Threads (in most forums online) are usually devoted to ongoing discussions, not chit-chat, nothing temporary or passing, and no “personal topics” which would better belong in a chat room. Chat rooms are where transient-interest “posts” belong. Such “statements” are not supposed to be used as thread/topic titles!
Of course, I do understand that bisexualdotcom isn’t like other (work related) online forums, and I also recognize that it isn’t a good idea to try to shoehorn this place into what the “ideal” forum is. This isn’t a work-related site and sex is supposed to be playful (however you define that), and so we can bend rules for reasons of humour and cheer, and occasionally for ‘housekeeping’ with such threads as “Dear So-and-So: Your Inbox is Full!” or fun and games like “Label Recognition”. That kind of thing boils down to ‘hominess’ and I wouldn’t want to curtail any of that if it helps my fellow bisexuals have some sexy bisexual fun.
All I’m sayin’ is that there is a better way to use this place than we are availing ourselves of. Just imagine these two scenarios:
IMAGINE: A series of tornadoes are snaking across Kansas, and one member starts a thread entitled (something like) “Keep safe from those storms peeps!” which is both click bait and transient (though quite common to see here). While I empathize with the sentiment expressed; no one in genuine danger of the storms is likely to get this message in time. Inherently, interest in such a topic will last only hours, at most; yet will remain in the bisexualdotcom database FOREVER (or until purged, which imposes an administrative cost). OTOH if there was instead a thread for “Kansas (and bordering areas) Bisexuals and Bisexuality”, peeps in Kansas can actually subscribe to that thread (in advance) and so a post there could actually get “pushed” right to someone’s handset/smartphone (assuming their notifications and email are set-up to allow it). In this scenario, a *post* remarking “Keep safe from those storms peeps!” that was made in a ‘Kansas-dedicated’ thread – this would be a very good thing, and perhaps even provide first warning for someone. This is infinitely better than the way we’re (collectively) doing things now, with ‘Thread Spam’ that does little more than gum-up the works (particularly the ‘Recent Threads’ board).
IMAGINE: You want to organize and plan for some kind of ‘bisexual event’ like a meat-and-greet barbecue in a city park somewhere, let’s say in Kansas City. The problem with your plan is that you’ve only got a month to make it happen, because the idea just hit you and summertime is short. (Too short!) If you come here to bisexualdotcom and start a new thread with a title like “Bisexual BBQ in Kansas City Park July 4”, only peeps who see that thread during those thirty days, will even hear about it before it happens.
Consider that most members don’t visit all that often, and many, many members haven’t visited in years, for whatever reason. Posting a new thread will do nothing for them, and you’ll miss them completely. OTOH, if you post in that SAME, ALREADY STARTED THREAD “Kansas (and bordering areas) Bisexuals and Bisexuality”, AND IF bisexuals in Kansas can get it together by subscribing to that thread and setting up their notifications and email properly; EVEN IF many members haven’t been here in a great long while, they’ll still get that notification and your turn-out will be GREAT because of it!
Can you dig it? Can you dig it?
PS: I do realize that I don’t have any authority here whatsoever, and so no grounds to be setting rules or asking others to do as I say. I AM NOT A MOD HERE and I’m not pretending to be one (although I have volunteered for the privilege, just as I’ve encouraged others to do as well). The above are offered only as *FRIENDLY SUGGESTIONS* and they are no more onerous than what I observe myself.
PPS: To be clear on my third suggestion regarding not contributing to ‘Thread Spam’; some people have voiced the opinion that ‘sparring’ with pole_smoker is tantamount to ‘feeding the troll’; and I want to explain why I don’t think this is the case.
Although I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist; I do have an undergrad in psychology and I frequently undertake my own version of profiling and assessments because of my work. Managing often difficult personalities and their sometimes abnormal psychology, to orchestrate complex undertakings successfully – this is my daily work. I know people, because I study what makes them tick, and this “pole_smoker” has definitely given us a lot to study. (NB: This is only the most recent, most problematic account/username used by the same problem person.)
Whereas most normal members of bisexualdotcom come here because they are curious, interested, wondering or are otherwise horny or they just want to share, flirt and play (all of which are legit reasons); our resident “pole_smoker” comes here for his version of validation. He extracts this ‘validation’ from everyone who visits bisexualdotcom, particularly those of us who post; at a significant nuisance cost to everyone. He derives this false validation from dominating the ‘Recent Threads’ board (I know, WTF? Right?) and by playing his version of “mind games”.
It seems to me, a major motivation behind his “mind games” is to help paint a decidedly negative impression of bisexuals and bisexuality. I have wondered if these “mind games” featuring vulgar and imagistic inanity are intended to be off-putting for newbie site visitors, to repulse them from the very idea of bisexuality. I have even considered if some dedicated/fanatical group (like the Mormon Church?) has an active ‘smear campaign’ running against this website, similar to COINTELPRO. Note that the Mormon Church of JC and LDS has been caught illegally spending $25 Million to defeat same sex marriage in California; all because they see bisexuality as the “gateway to gay” and this threatens their entire theology. (Please note I’m using the term “mind games” ironically and sarcastically at the same time).
For the time being, let us assume pole_smoker is just a single sick individual, and not the figurehead of some organization. This assumption reveals a number of dead-giveaways as to his underlying psychological motivations.
His overly frequent invocation of his “partner” and constantly referencing what he and his “partner” are into and do and how his “partner” and him were whateverelsehecanthinkof-yada-fucking-yada…“partner”……. yada…. This gives me the overpowering impression that his “partner” doesn’t even exists.
His whole “partner” thing just seems so contrived. So desperate! Pretty much every time he mentions his “partner” it’s to testify as to how thoroughly he agrees with him. (Yeah, right!) Now, I know some peeps, and even counting among them many people who have been married for decades – I don’t know anyone who takes as many opportunities to reference their partner, usually as “back up” or other proof of what he thinks/does himself, as does our resident pole_smoker.
It’s just not believable.
Even considering those normal people I know who are frequently mentioning their partner, there’s usually an anecdote there, or a joke at their expense, or conversely some self-deprecating humour that hinges on something their partner did or said. There is depth there, back-story of the genuine kind.
But, that’s not what we get from pole_smoker.
Instead, we get lies best read-out in a child’s voice – a child’s voice make-believing, trying desperately to convince us in some quest for validation. In fact, I can’t find anyone else at bisexualdotcom who seems so desperate for such validation from the rest of us. There is nobody here trying as hard to convince us of something, anything, as hard as this pole_fucker is trying to convince us how well-adjusted and happily partnered and sexually satisfied he is.
This is because WE DON’T GIVE A FUCK! WE TRULY DON’T CARE and most people with any sense about them recognize that and don’t try to “relate” in this way. Instead, normal people share, they share questions and answers and jokes and stories and they flirt. This pole_fucker doesn’t function this way. He mal-functions. He is a defective person.
What really stinks-out-loud is the incongruity between his supposedly ‘intact’ status (uncut dick), coupled with his rabid anti-circumcision stance concomitant with his NON-STOP penis/ejaculation/cum fixation. This profile-behaviour doesn’t add-up: It is incongruent.
As someone who is intact myself I am sure that if I ever am lucky enough to have a son, that he’ll be kept intact while he is on ‘my watch’; and so the whole ‘circumcision debate’ doesn’t really resonate with me. It’s just not something I can get fired-up about; partly because it doesn’t and won’t affect me or mine, and partly because there are other evils in this world that I’m more worried about. Accordingly, circumcision isn’t an issue I’m likely to get all hot-and-bothered about, let alone as volcano-like as is this pole_smoker. I’m pretty sure most intact guys feel the same. But this pole_smoker takes a different tack.
Altogether, taken in aggregate, a clearer picture begins to emerge:
1) Which explains why his parental/caregivers were so distant and aloof during his formative years, and
2) Also explains why they developed the habit of discussing him in the third-person sense (even while in the same room with him).
3) The penis/ejaculation/cum fixation is inherently self-centred; and is thematically evident in his thread spam, his posts and many of his suspected alternate usernames. The apparent strength and sharpness of the fixation clearly indicates significant early childhood disturbance, as well as continuing sexual dysfunction. It is likely that he has great difficulty “achieving” and maintaining an erection, and likely has problems bringing himself to orgasm. (I outright dismiss his fallacious claims of having a partner – I just don’t buy it – it all seems like childish make-believe.)
4) Almost as plentiful as his annoying polls, are his rabidly anti-circumcision messages – which are highly unusual from someone who is supposed to be intact. “Methinks thee doth protest too much!”
The picture coming into focus, I assess; centers on the botched circumcision suffered by pole_smoker. His parents, burdened with guilt, remained distant and aloof all his life; and discussing him in the third-person was fundamentally, just the way it always was for him. Many, deep psychological scars were imparted to pole_smoker stemming from this one incident very early in his life. Likely, the attempted corrective surgeries later in life were persistently painful as well, and obviously not entirely successful, otherwise he’d be a better adjusted adult than he is.
It is clear, there was a great deal of pain involved, and it has left its mark. I can see it clear across the internet.
I actually feel sorry for him.
But this isn’t the place for him to exercise his demons. He should find a support group somewhere, for men suffering from botched circumcisions and the psychosexual mal-adaptations and dysfunctions that arise from them.
It would be the best thing for him, and the best that any of us could wish for him. Anything else that serves to perpetuate the validation he seeks here; is in truth, a cruelty to all of us, and especially to him.
So, while it is certainly true that everyone else posting here is seeking legit attention for the things they type; this pole_smoker is seeking a particular kind of attention for himself known as ‘validation’. He desperately needs this because he is so terminally insecure. Understand that this isn’t about someone exchanging views or trying to understand themselves or others, sharing and discussing based on their life experience and the perspective of accumulated wisdom. That’s not what pole_smoker is doing here.
Instead, pole_smoker doesn’t want anyone to challenge anything he types on bisexualdotcom. He wants us to just ‘swallow it’ because he comes here to pretend and make-believe in a *futile* attempt to feel better about himself (which he never can). Of course, it doesn’t make rational sense to normal people, which is precisely what characterizes it as abnormal psychology.
If we try to ignore him, the problem will persist indefinitely because he can never find ‘relief’ here by doing what he is doing. It’ll only get worse, and it’ll do him no favours either. Certainly, all the rest of us will suffer for it as well; as will this website (likely until its effective death).
If we ‘engage’ with him and effectively ‘feed the troll’ by addressing him directly in any way; this too won’t help (as others here have suggested). The reason why this tactic won’t help is twofold. First, because he feeds on negativity and second because engaging with him directly still affords him opportunities to foist his judgemental BS on the rest of us.
I recommend that we don’t ignore him. (Name a single classroom teacher who ever ‘ignored’ a problem child, and I’ll show you an ineffective teacher with no control of the classroom.) I also recommend that we don’t address him directly. Instead, we should do what his parents did, which he found so distasteful. We should only ever discuss this troll in the ‘third person’ sense, ensuring that he knows for sure that we know he is full of shit.
It’s not about ‘stooping to his level’ and going all-negative in some kind of mud-slinging competition. (I agree that this wouldn’t help, and that it would be bad for the forum.) Rather, it’s just about calling it like I/we see it; and I do believe a consensus opinion of pole_smoker was formed a long time ago.
^
If there was ever a TLDR (too long didn't read) of BS posted by the troll bibedbud it's actually, the above post.
I'm not cut. So my penis is completely unmutilated and not botched the way guys who are cut are.
Methinks thee doth troll too much!Methinks thee doth protest too much!
I sure don't need to prove anything to a troll like you.
I'm not cut or mutilated, and that's that.
Stop obsessing about me, and stalking me.
Sex between us will never happen even if you wish it would since you're that obsessed with me as the other trolls here are.
You'll have a hard time proving that it really matters.
Nope.
I have been with many women and men who have told me how they highly prefer, or only want a male partner that's intact since sex with an intact man is more fun, enjoyable, and pleasurable than it is with guys who are cut/mutilated.
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