I know, I know, this is a really original problem. So sue me.
At any rate, about four months ago, I got into a pretty serious relationship with this girl, lets call her E. We fall head over heels for each other pretty quickly once we finally started dating. (There's a funny story there that involves us dating last year and then both of us thinking the other hated us while we still liked them.) Anyway, so pretty shortly into the relationship, I tell her that I am bi, which was pretty much out of the blue for her. She was pretty shocked and though she never didn't think that she would break up with me because of it, she nevertheless had a bit of a hard time dealing with it.
A large part of that comes from her upbringing, she was brought up in a fairly strict christian household, and taught to tolerate lgbt folks, but to ultimately think that they are wrong. She has been totally upfront about saying that her upbringing was wrong in this respect, which is what made a difference for me and made me want to work through this issue instead of just saying "take me as i am right now or screw you." Also, I love her, so I don't even know if i could do that if she dropped a love-the-sinner-hate-the-sin type deal on me.
Anyway, the real issue she has is dealing with the fact that I am bi, but I have never been in a relationship with a guy. (Though i have had a decent amount of sexual experiences with guys.) She doesn't see how I can really decide to be in a long-term relationship with a woman, as in marry her someday, without ever having tried being with a man. She is afraid that i'll wake up in five, ten, or twenty years and feel unfulfilled because i've never been with a guy. Even i didn't cheat on her, she wouldn't want me to feel that way and be unhappy with her. I've told her that for me, i don't think that there's such a big difference in whether I'm with a man or a woman, and that regardless of that, i'm not going to throw away something so great as what we have together just so i can go and try and find a boyfriend for no better reason than just to see what it is like. On the other hand i can't really dismiss her feelings as being wildly unreasonable, and she has improved in terms of worrying about it, which she used to do pretty much all the time.
So i was just wondering what thoughts any of you had on this, especially people who have been in similar situations from either my position or hers.
Thanks in advance guys!
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