Wondering about guys who like being pegged

[Annika L]

Yet, some men say they are bisexual but not need to be with a man if the woman is penetrating them. This is group that I am curious about their sexuality. Pegging seems to be enough for them. Why? Maybe, I don't get it because I am a bisexual man who does not want to be penetrated by anyone...lol

This is what I meant (in part) by some bisexual men using this to explore or stoke their fantasies. I didn't mean that to imply only "bi-curious" men...although I see how it could have come off that way. I relate it to myself this way: I am in a monogamous relationship with my (female) partner, but I am bisexual. When we use these kinds of devices, sometimes I am fantasizing about a man; sometimes I am just grooving on being with her and enjoy this sensation associated with her. It definitely takes the edge off my desire to be with a man, though it definitely doesn't eliminate it...she feels similarly, and we both play both roles (*sigh* and no, neither of us has ever been raped or been painfully penetrated before...it's just one more manifestation of loving exchange between two humans). But I wouldn't consider myself bisexual if I didn't also have that desire to be with an actual man...if I just enjoyed these toys with my partner and had no desire for anything else, I'd say I was a lesbian who enjoyed using these toys.

So again, attraction and taste. If all the man wants is penetrative sex with his woman, and he really has no desire to be with a man, I'd say he's a heterosexual male who enjoys being penetrated. If he *wants* sex with men (whether or not being penetrated by a female partner is enough to satisfy him), then I would say he's bisexual.

[Annika L]

You're a really bad liar and very transparent.

Yes, it's one of my more endearing qualities, no?

[tenni]

"Also, while her fucking me is very satisfying and I consider her to be the best that I ever had fuck me, man or woman, I do still have the desire to have sex with a man should the right circumstances ever arise. Never say never ya know"


Thanks McBice

After I read your post, I wondered if the pegging either refocuses some bisexual men's desire/need. Many of us post about the ebb and flow fluidity aspect of our bisexuality. Naturally to various levels our need for sex with one gender can seem to go away. Might the pegging make the need desire to be with a man be similar to the unexplained ebb and flow attraction situations? I note that you seem to have been sexually with men before you began pegging. You seem to have a fairly good idea about your bisexuality before starting pegging? The fact that you thought that maybe you were straight while being pegged and now acknowledge that pegging is not quite enough is interesting. Pegging may impact the natural ebb and flow of sexual attractions for some?

[McBice]

"Also, while her fucking me is very satisfying and I consider her to be the best that I ever had fuck me, man or woman, I do still have the desire to have sex with a man should the right circumstances ever arise. Never say never ya know"


Thanks McBice

After I read your post, I wondered if the pegging either refocuses some bisexual men's desire/need. Many of us post about the ebb and flow fluidity aspect of our bisexuality. Naturally to various levels our need for sex with one gender can seem to go away. Might the pegging make the need desire to be with a man be similar to the unexplained ebb and flow attraction situations? I note that you seem to have been sexually with men before you began pegging. You seem to have a fairly good idea about your bisexuality before starting pegging? The fact that you thought that maybe you were straight while being pegged and now acknowledge that pegging is not quite enough is interesting. Pegging may impact the natural ebb and flow of sexual attractions for some?

Sorry I didn't really express that correctly. What I meant was that I committed The Great Sin of this forum...I didn't come out to my wife until we were 2 years into our now almost 5 year relationship. She didn't ask...I didn't tell until she did ask ( funny story about that concerning bad timing and being half a planet apart with bad plane tickets )...so what I meant is she thought I was straight when she was fucking me. I haven't even remotely thought of myself as straight since probably about 1988 or 89. While I understand that for some people there is a definite ebb and flow in their bisexual desire, I myself haven't experienced that in my own desires.

[tenni]

McBice
Well, does that blow my thesis?..lol

You did write that pegging reduced your desire to be with a man? Now, are you stating the pegging had no impact on your desire/need to be with a man sexually? Or that acknowledging your attraction has remained constant to both genders..maybe not "need" to be with a man?

[cherry88]

Whether the female enjoys it or is happy to give pleasure to the man is irrelevant to my question.

This is about the man being pegged and whether he is heterosexual.

i know that...... that was clear. the only reason i brought that up is it seems ive seen that more frequently cited as a reason people enjoy this stuff (that it turns on their partner or that they like doing it with a specific woman/women or that they enjoy switching roles with a woman etc) than that it reminds them of being with a man or that is a good subsitutute long term or wahtever for being with a man... thats all. i understand you are talking about a specific sub set of guys though.

....we have male posters on this site stating that they like their female partner pegging them. They don't need another man as that works for them. Yet, they say that they are bisexual and fine with the female pegging them..no man needed?

maybe it works a little like masturbating. maybe its close enough to the 'real thing' for people who are really bi that it scratches enough of the itch than they can go longer without actual sex with guys. just like masturbating takes the edge off the need to have sex with anyone.

its not a substitiute for the 'real thing' but its good enough to make you want the other thing a little less....... also it has its own things about it that are enjoyable even as a different act than regular sex. maybe thats why its 'enough' for some guys it jsut takes the edge off just enough to get by, just like masturbating its not exactly the 'real thing' but close enough to get by for awhile.

Your last paragraph is interesting but I would guess if a man is being pegged by a woman and thinking of a man penetrating him that he is definitely NOT in the category that I am referring to.

welll.. right. i guess you are wondering if just liking strap ons is enough to make someone bi or if they are just a straight perseon that likes strap ons...... im sure it totally depends on the person and also im sure theres a huge range of experience there too.

[McBice]

Lol sorry...I don't think that blows your thesis though. Actually the way I see my situation is my wife wanting to and actually fucking me is a huge bonus...really, really good icing on a really, really good cake. While what she does, does satisfy one desire or need (anal penetration), I still have another desire for sex with a man (I love feeling a cock get hard in my mouth)....and another desire for regular sex with my wife...and then there's that desire for sex with that couple I used to know...so yeah I guess my desire has stayed pretty constant for years and is pretty equally divided between genders.

My view for myself is I don't see my wife fucking me as a replacement for a man fucking me. I like apples and oranges...well and bananas too. I suppose I get a different sense of satisfaction out of 1 from the other even though both are satisfying. I think I just realized something though. The sexual energy my wife exudes when she's fucking me is massive and feeling that energy is a big part of why I love having her fucking me. That energy is very different from what I got out of the men who have fucked me...not better or worse just different. My ex girlfriend also fucked me regularly and she had the same drive and energy about fucking me as my wife does. Kinda odd considering they are 2 radically different personalities...hmmm I'll have to think about that some more

[McBice]

Sorry Tenni, I guess I did drift a bit from your original question.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

"Only a woman that has been raped or has been fucked very hard up the ass or cunt a few times would claim that fucking a man with a strapon dildo is "Empowering" or "Satisfying"

LOl Boy are you way off base. As a long time "Pegger" I happen to know for a fact that it Is empowering to a woman to fuck a man in the ass, and several of us Love it-- so do the men that we peg. And its not Just because we have been raped, or fucked too hard, its a role reversal and a personal mind-set that leads us to it. It Can be very satisfying to take a man's tight little ass, and many women Can cum for taking a man thusly. Its not all cut and dry, there's many reasons Why a woman loves pegging men; and it doesnt necessarily have to be an over dominance reason, or pay back for something that might have happened to her. For some of us, its just fun to pleasure a partner, and ourselves. So unless you've been there, done that, and got the bag of chips, you cant generalize us, or lump us into a nice little catagory..lol
Cat

[bi4asplay]

I disagree with your statement. My girlfriend enjoys pegging me and I enjoy being pegged, and neither of us were ever raped. She enjoys "being in charge" (empowered) and giving me extreme pleasure (which she finds satisfying). Given that you have no experience receiving anal sex you may be projecting an assumption that anal sex is the equivalent of a painful rape, which is not my experience or the experience of most anal enthusiasts that I know.

I am totally agreement with Happy here. My late wife got me started liking it. She had never been raped In fact had never been with anyone but me. We discovered I liked anal stimulation while he was giving me head. She built a dildo( you could not go out and buy one then) she loved using it one me. I loved her using it. An ex GF would get off many times when she pegged me. She has gotten so hot
do me that she has squirted.

[bi4asplay]

"Only a woman that has been raped or has been fucked very hard up the ass or cunt a few times would claim that fucking a man with a strapon dildo is "Empowering" or "Satisfying"

LOl Boy are you way off base. As a long time "Pegger" I happen to know for a fact that it Is empowering to a woman to fuck a man in the ass, and several of us Love it-- so do the men that we peg. And its not Just because we have been raped, or fucked too hard, its a role reversal and a personal mind-set that leads us to it. It Can be very satisfying to take a man's tight little ass, and many women Can cum for taking a man thusly. Its not all cut and dry, there's many reasons Why a woman loves pegging men; and it doesnt necessarily have to be an over dominance reason, or pay back for something that might have happened to her. For some of us, its just fun to pleasure a partner, and ourselves. So unless you've been there, done that, and got the bag of chips, you cant generalize us, or lump us into a nice little catagory..lol
Cat

Amen Cat

[Ja&Ve]

If a man enjoys a woman pegging him but feels content without having any need/ desire for sexual intimate contact with another man, is he bisexual?

or

Is he just a heterosexual guy who likes his prostrate stimulated by women?

Is penetration all that there is to make a bi guy? or Is there more to making a man bisexual?

yes, he is still bisexual. My husband still finds men sexually attractive, but his sensation desires are sated by my pegging him. That doesn't eliminate his desire or willingness to have sex with a man any more that me being fucked by him eliminates my willingness to still be fucked by other men. But we're exclusive with one another and are very satisfied with our sex lives, especially since disclosure. The laughable gap comes from ME thinking he is missing out. Whereas he is only thinking about what he has gained.

[twosmokers]

There is no really rhyme or reason to pegging. My ex girlfriend would peg me and liked doing it. Role reversal was a part of our love play. It was all in good fun. Gay straight man or woman...if you like somthing up the poop shoot then enjoy.

[NYCTom]

Iknow I just love it. Makes me feel like a slut!

[bicuriousingeorgia]

my x wife enjoyed pegging me fairly regularly and I enjoyed it also. she initiated this after I told her about early experiences. she would dress me as girl first. this was over 15 years ago, and i still dress sometimes. she and I wondered what it would be like to do a male. she wanted to watch and I was willing, but we did not know how to find someone...

[elian]

tenni, I think there is no simple answer - I know some straight guys who love sticking things in themselves for prostate stimulation - I can't imagine that they would want to do it with another guy but they absolutely love it when their girlfriend or wife is involved.

I suggested a strap on to a couple one time - I think he would have tried it but she wasn't interested..and I know at least at one time he liked guys and wanted to be with both sexes regardless.

I think it depends on the relationship dynamics, like Annika says, most of sex is in the mind - so if what you want is to be submissive and your wife is dominate enough then it may well satisfy that need. If you want an actual male, and some do - then a wife with a strap on might not be enough.

[pantyluvr55]

I would love to be pegged with a willing female partner that is into it.

[elian]

If I suspend value judgements for a few minutes, I find it is very interesting, and a little exciting that there is a such a spectrum of emotions, needs and desires in people..I guess sexual play is a part of play as well..and so much better than the kind where you have to pretend to hate each other until the point where it starts to beocme real..

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

"If a man enjoys a woman pegging him but feels content without having any need/ desire for sexual intimate contact with another man, is he bisexual?or Is he just a heterosexual guy who likes his prostrate stimulated by women?
Is penetration all that there is to make a bi guy? or Is there more to making a man bisexual?"

Darlin, not All men who love being pegged are Bi. The ones I interact with have no Bi desires what so ever, but Do love the sensation of a good vibing jell dong sliding against/on that Prostate gland. With some men, the harder they are "Taken" the better it feels, but it still doesnt mean they have a desire to be with a man. Many men Love the idea of being dominated by a strong woman with a strapon, too. Its all a point of like and desire, Hon. :}
Cat

[lmarcolo]

I can't live anymore without being pegged! I always bem my wife to peg me.
i haven't been with a man yet. I would def try. But I am pretty sure I am not into topping a man.
my wife gets off just watching her dildo getting inside me and my anus hugging her toy.
I am def bi curious