I'm bicurious and a total n00b at hooking up with men. I am not used to dealing with the prejudice aspect of hooking up, since I've always had sex with girls.
Recently, I've started feeling the difficulties of being bi for the first time. First, I noticed that leaving gay clubs, cabbies might look at me longways.
Then, I spent my vacation with my uncle, who's openly gay and married and I noticed sideway glances from the doorman.
Last year, I was hit on by a super hot guy during Carnaval. We were at a gay friendly float but he had company. Then, I saw him again by himself at a hetero float, and tried grabbing his hand. He quickly moved his hand away, and kept on walking. Just making eye contact. I was hurt at first, but then it dawned on me (duh) that we might have been lynched in the middle of that crowd, if I made out with him right then and there.
I guess I'm just not used to facing sexual-orientation related prejudice. Just today it dawned on me that it may not be easy to have sex in a motel if I pick up a guy. They may send us away.
And no wonder so many gay men fuck in bathroom stalls at clubs, or in public parks. I also thought that bringing a guy to my apartment might be tantamount to coming out. Which, I guess is the best thing to do, anyhow.
So, where do you have sex? Is it difficult to find a place where there's no backlash?
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