Originally Posted by
Long Duck Dong
thanks for sharing, gutsy....
I am a retired counsellor / therapist from New zealand, and I was diagnosed with dystimia at the age of 37....
so how does depression tie in with sexuality ??? lol ok sexuality is a attraction to people, but sexual desire can be a chemical / hormonal trigger in the brain and that is where the link between depression and bisexuality can start to emerge in some people
there are two types of bisexual people that deal with depression
the depressive natured bisexual : they are the people that find that their sexual expression and interaction sexually with people, has a pattern that is consistent with their depressive phases.....
their attitudes, feelings and thoughts about sex and sexuality change with the depressive phases and with careful monitoring over a few months, the ebb and flow pattern with sexuality shows a pattern that matches the phases with the person.....
a bisexual with depression : they are the people that are bisexual and their depression is independent of their sexuality, they have the sexual urges and desires regardless of their state of mind...and there is no clear pattern that emerges with their sexuality and depressive phases, but there is one that emerges with their thoughts, feelings and emotions with the depressive stages......
a quick way of working out what type you may be, is to ask yourself, are your desires for intimate contact with both people, stronger when you are in a downward phase or is there no difference in your desires when you are upbeat or down low......
it is not a test to see if you are bisexual or not, but a way for a person to learn more about themselves so that they can better understand their sexuality and their depression and how it affects them as people.....
the reason for learning more about how your depression and sexuality work together is to create a working situation in you, where you are able to retain the stable and balanced phase that makes life easier for you.... as juggling housework, children, a husband and depression is hard enuf without having to juggle sexual desires as well.......
a couple of questions that may help you understand your depression and sexuality better, are the following
do you feel naturally aroused by the idea of sex and do you feel at times that its a * artificial * feeling of arousal, like your body responds but your hearts not in it....??
do you experience a short term, sharp downward phase after orgasm or sexual release and is that every time or only when you are in a depressive phase...
do you have the feelings equally towards each gender or just one ?
does the idea of being with a person of the same gender, arouse you, but the reality of being with another person other than your partner / idea of having more than one partner, leave you felling down ?
what you are looking for, is your own pattern to your feelings and desires and if there is a link between the depression and your sexuality, so that way, you can create * buffers * in yourself so you can enjoy your sexuality and sexual expression without dealing with depressive phases, so much
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