I've been married to my bi man for 5 years now & known about his sexuality since before we were married. I have always been accepting but my insecurities have grown over the years mainly due to him being quite defensive whenever I have brought the topic up and not wanting to open up.
I've used this & other sites to try & gain some insight into where he's coming from but I needed to hear it from him. I finally hit him up the other night & told him that if our marriage was to work we needed to communicate openly. I told him that I realise for him to be sexually active with a man would probably be best for both of us as his desires would be satisfied & probably keep him happier than if he was to be forced to be monogamous. He was so happy & we chatted for a good few hours about his past & our plans. We're in our mid-30's & have two young kids. I feel like we've made a huge leap forward & I'm excited about what's to come. I said that I'd prefer to start off with MMF threesomes b4 letting him go off on his own if I'm comfortable.
I've had my own FF & MFF encounters & he's told me he'd love to have some MFF time as well
I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders! I feel so lucky that he was able to tell me about his sexuality before he was tempted to find a man behind my back. I think with openness & understanding our marriage can be just like any other marriage!!
I just felt like posting a nice update so feel free to give me some feedback, suggestions or let me know if yr in a similar situation.
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