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  1. #61

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Hi,
    Good discussion.
    I think it's simply that men of a certain age feel more honest and relaxed about sexuality. They have fewer reasons to be overly self-conscious or analytical about their sexual needs or desires.

    Most men have a sexual attraction or fetish relating to other men, they just don't often admit it or act on it until later in life.
    But it is changing. With more info available on the internet more and more men are finding ways to explore their own sexuality from a younger age.

    You'll certainly find more young men willing to admit they have a bisexual side or a fetish for something male now than ever before.

    I think it always exists, it's just that most men are distracted, scared, confused or feel pressure to hide it between their teenage years and say about 40 or 45.
    But like I say, this is changing, thankfully.

  2. #62

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    I'm 70 and have had a relatively adventurous sexual life. I had a substantial amount of pre-puberty sex-play with girls and boys. As more testosterone flowed, I definitely gravitated to females and suppressed homo-erotic feelings and sensations. As I accumulated more age, experience - and satisfaction, my thoughts more consciously turned to having another male present. Up to now this has consisted of MFM threesomes with a lot of homoerotic play. I particularly enjoy giving oral attention to my wife's lover before he enters her and upon occasion have pleasured both of them with my tongue during intercourse. A couple of times I met one of her lovers here at the house while she was gone and we sucked each other off. (She loved hearing about this!) To me, it feels like letting my natural spectrum of sexuality be realized. 'Ain't hurtin' nobody' and it keeps things interesting....
    Last edited by bassdesires; Feb 27, 2012 at 11:29 AM. Reason: addition

  3. #63

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by csrakate View Post
    I am going to withhold my response because I am considering the source....but this REALLY pisses me off!
    sorry Kate.. but most everything guys say pisses you off.. oh well

    guys consider the source... it takes a bi woman to understand a bi man
    hint

  4. #64

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    all the men i've met that are 50 plus go to other men because their wives don't like sex or don't want sex that often anymore.One draw back is when the testosterone is gone they run back home like nothing ever happenned

  5. #65

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by orallybi4cpl View Post
    sorry Kate.. but most everything guys say pisses you off.. oh well

    guys consider the source... it takes a bi woman to understand a bi man
    hint
    Wot bollox
    Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you.

  6. #66

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by orallybi4cpl View Post
    sorry Kate.. but most everything guys say pisses you off.. oh well

    guys consider the source... it takes a bi woman to understand a bi man
    hint
    Although I tend to agree with your general idea about bisexuals with bisexuals it isn't always true.

    You're dead wrong. Kate is a jem and a jewel on this site with a great amount of understanding and compassion for bisexual men.
    Last edited by tenni; Feb 27, 2012 at 3:17 PM.

  7. #67

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Sticking to the original question asked.......Do Older Men Turn Bi,Personally I really dont think there is anyone in here actually qualified to answer this although there seems to be a trend for older men to either turn bi or experiment for whatever reasons it is evident that most of the answers or opinions given here are mainly about personal experiences, which in turn always end up in a shitfight because as usual some lovely people in here just love to shove their opinions down other peoples throats.......Anyway thats how I see it.

    Cheers Chook

  8. #68

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    How can you turn bi ?
    There is no such thing as turning bi. Your sexual orientation is what it is from childhood. The only difference is that "coming out" to express it has been a recent thing. In the past, anyone had to be straight even if they weren't....have straight relationships, hide all sexual desires towards your own sex etc. Older men have found that men can "come out" nowadays in society more freely as they couldn't do it all those years ago. Quite often some bisexuals get mistakenly labelled for being homosexual when they are in school, college, amongst straight friends etc and become a subject of ridicule or mockery. That in turn, makes them feel too uncomfortable to "come out" till later on in life.
    Last edited by BatCox40; Feb 28, 2012 at 5:50 AM.

  9. #69

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Well I blame/thank the net for helping me with the same sex part of bi. Before that, I had no chance of finding a gay/bi male that I'd 'make love to'. I always was bi though.

  10. #70

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by chook View Post
    Sticking to the original question asked.......Do Older Men Turn Bi,Personally I really dont think there is anyone in here actually qualified to answer this although there seems to be a trend for older men to either turn bi or experiment for whatever reasons it is evident that most of the answers or opinions given here are mainly about personal experiences, which in turn always end up in a shitfight because as usual some lovely people in here just love to shove their opinions down other peoples throats.......Anyway thats how I see it.

    Cheers Chook
    When I was still interested in guys I never knowingly had sex with a bisexual man. In my age group and even 10 years older than me I just didnt know any. Plenty gay guys, but never men under about 30 or 35 prepared to admit to being bisexual... this isnt true now, and know a number of bisexual guys some open, some not, some younger than me.. several much younger... I suspect that changes in attitudes have helped this along.. but most that I do know are older.. much older than me, very few of whom say they knowingly suppressed their sexuality when young, but that it came upon them as they grew older... is it that men, I have begun to wonder, are tuned to their sexuality changing as they get older? Or is it just that conditioning and upbringing suppresses their nature and it is only with maturity that their natural wants and desires begin to express themselves?
    Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you.

  11. #71

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    I ask myself the same question a lot. I'm bi and have known since i was in my early 20's. I'm in my early 30's now and still have a very difficult time finding other bi guys who are close to my age. I've also wondered if it's widespread or just the area I live in.

  12. #72

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by loveatl View Post
    Just wondering why most bi-men are over 50, most of which are married, semmed to all of a sudden want to be with another guy, in some way or another. Did this come to the front, because of age---can they not find a female now, that turns them on---or is it something that as been there all along, but society didnt accept it till they got old enough not to care---Were they afraid of being called gay infront of their friends-- Can you really be bi at 50 and not at 20? Maybe people are more open now? Just curious, because I find myself in the same sitituation. Have always thought of being with another guy, since the first time I was a teen. But never acted on it. Now that I am older, want to try it again.
    I am so confused??
    I've been bi since my teens. Mentally, I first viewed it as an outlet for my excess horniness as a teen. Just a bunch of jocks jerking and eventually that evolved to sucking and fucking with one close friend. Eventually, I had the chance to play with couples and suddenly found my niche. I always like bi porn, where a woman was a "bridge" or an "enabler" for two men pleasing her while they pleased one another. Inside, I've always felt most comfortable with a MFM situation for whatever reason. A woman encouraging me, directing me, and me helping her please her man or watching them please me. Perhaps having a woman involved makes me think I'm "less gay" or at-least feel like it. As I've grown older it seems it's become more difficult to find a couple to play for various reasons: Some couples don't have the dynamic working. A husband who wants a man involved, has his wife involved, but has a problem with the outsider male having contact with his wife. Some people use it to fix issues in their relationship, whether that's erectile disfunction or a woman wanting more cock than one man can give her in a session, or boredom.

    I don't necessarily "want to be with another guy" as I lust for a woman, but I do find I would not mind an ongoing relationship with the right guy. I'd love to meet a few times a month at a motel, take a hot shower, maybe massage one another, and hopefully enjoy mutual oral and/or anal if that works for both parties. "A best friend with benefits" I suppose.

    My wife has less interest in sex now, and I've realized that MM sex would still be fun and give me an outlet for my needs. It seems many men like me (in their 50's) have the same situation at home, and many played when younger and have returned to it. I don't know whether they "turn bi" or just get more comfortable with being more sexually open...or go where they need-to to fulfill their needs.
    Last edited by NjbiGuy01; Feb 28, 2012 at 9:33 AM.

  13. #73

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by NjbiGuy01 View Post
    I've been bi since my teens. Mentally, I first viewed it as an outlet for my excess horniness as a teen. Just a bunch of jocks jerking and eventually that evolved to sucking and fucking with one close friend. Eventually, I had the chance to play with couples and suddenly found my niche. I always like bi porn, where a woman was a "bridge" or an "enabler" for two men pleasing her while they pleased one another. Inside, I've always felt most comfortable with a MFM situation for whatever reason. A woman encouraging me, directing me, and me helping her please her man or watching them please me. Perhaps having a woman involved makes me think I'm "less gay" or at-least feel like it. As I've grown older it seems it's become more difficult to find a couple to play for various reasons: Some couples don't have the dynamic working. A husband who wants a man involved, has his wife involved, but has a problem with the outsider male having contact with his wife. Some people use it to fix issues in their relationship, whether that's erectile disfunction or a woman wanting more cock than one man can give her in a session, or boredom.

    I don't necessarily "want to be with another guy" as I lust for a woman, but I do find I would not mind an ongoing relationship with the right guy. I'd love to meet a few times a month at a motel, take a hot shower, maybe massage one another, and hopefully enjoy mutual oral and/or anal if that works for both parties. "A best friend with benefits" I suppose.

    My wife has less interest in sex now, and I've realized that MM sex would still be fun and give me an outlet for my needs. It seems many men like me (in their 50's) have the same situation at home, and many played when younger and have returned to it. I don't know whether they "turn bi" or just get more comfortable with being more sexually open...or go where they need-to to fulfill their needs.

    I share your very situation, interests, wants and desires.
    A best-friend with benefits or a bi-fuck buddy whilst carrying on with straight sex and relationships.

  14. #74
    Michele Mayelle
    Guest

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    In my opinion, for what it's worth, to answer your question. I believe it could be down to the fact that when some men reach a certain age & have done everything they can with a woman, or women & the woman has done all she can with a man, it can then become a routine, whereby he knows what is going to happen as he has experienced it so many times before, whereas to try something with another man can open up new horizons & be exciting as before it was a no, no, the forbidden fruit. He feels the need to satisfy his curiosity. Maybe it turns out that he finds it's not for him, maybe once tried he finds himself addicted to certain or all aspects & wants more.

  15. #75

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Speaking for myself I would say that many older men "like me" have always had bi feelings, it's just that it wasn't (and still isn't" accepted as much when we were boys as it is today. Don't get me wrong it's still "too hard" to be accepted by some as people that see no gray. They see people as either Gay or Straight. Straight (as well as some Gay's) think Bi people just want the option to nail either sex. Truth be known most (at least me) Bi people wish they had the opportunity to come out as Gay, but they are afraid of having the stigma of "queer" or Gay following them through life.

  16. #76

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    sixty-three here. have been bicurious since my first wife and I dated at age seventeen. she was home-coming Queen and seemed not to be enough to quench my bicuriousity. Loved her and love my second wife. Despite that I have bad strong desire to experience a male. Thought often of wife and I experiencing bisex with another like-minded??

    As i aged I have felt less and less guilty about my bicuriousity. if my wife and I found a bicurious couple to play with, we would go for it with little likelihood of guilt feelings.

  17. #77

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    I'm definitely experiencing this. Perhaps boredom with the norm, or maybe coming to realize that the "norm" isn't all that normal. I'm learning that perception is what gives us a lot of our values and as a child, a lot of values were fed upon us by the media and family. I think over 40 is perhaps when your mind opens just a bit more to possibilities and not constraints.

  18. #78

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    I find it interesting that it's mostly women who think older bisexuals do it for some deeper reason other than for easy sex they no longer get at home. I turned to it for one reason only I wanted some sexual contact and I wasn't interested in having an extramarital affair as my wife suggested. I love her but I don't want to be emotionally and intimately involved with anyone else. But because she has no desire to have sex with me(menopause possibly, I think more to it, she isn't very forthright) why should I wait 10yrs to find out if she does want to have sex again with me. There are many men like myself that just need sexual release but are depressed about it because of guilt and because it's not really what they want but they will settle for it. I am very attracted to the opposite sex I do not find men attractive but will have sex with them because they are willing to. I do understand my wife's condition but at the same time she has shown no interest in doing anything to improve things or even want to touch me. I am so starved for attention from her I often cry alone and I make sure I can't be heard by her so she doesn't have to feel bad about it. I think part of why she doesn't want me anymore was because of cybersex, no one can compete against it I could never live to the level of excitement that she got from it. She denies it meant anything to her but when I emailed her lover and told him, that he was ruining my marriage and that cybering was a way for him to pretend he more of a man than he was she was very upset and our sex life went to hell after that. That was like 5 yrs ago and we have probably have had sex like 10 times. Been more than a year since and she couldnt wait for it to be over with as a result I wasn't able to complete and having ED problems and only made it worse. I think the ED problems stems directly from all of this. I wake almost every night with a raging hardon so I know it isn't physiological. So for those that actually think for most of these middle age men that it's some deep seeded thing you couldn't be more wrong and only shows your lack of understanding. Bi-sexuals are in it for the sex plain and simple, they do not want to leave their wives for men but desire greatly to be intimate with their wives. Not all are great lovers or have been the best husbands. Why is it that women always look to men as being bad husbands about anything they disapprove of. They act like their actions are always acceptable but a man's are always wrong. It's understandable there is going to be changes to a woman during menopause but the cold heart-ed way some deal with it and then act like it's the husband who has the problem is down right cruel. Not even willing to make even the slightest effort to meet even part of the way. These men are also going through changes the lost of testosterone is very depressing, start feeling all emotional feeling like your less than a man and so on. My point is simple there are women who do go through menopause and do try find ways to improve things with their husbands. So why not my wife unless there is something more. Which I think some women are looking to get out of the marriage. I read recently about women who want their husband to have an affair so they can end the marriage and then blame him. I realize there will be women in here who argue the point but you will make the rest of us wonder if your thinking the same of your husband. I mean really get off your self righteousness, stop thinking your better because your a woman. There are lazy women who can't be bother with putting any extra effort into their marriage, so when menopause hits it gets compounded. The husband is left with his feelings and no outlet for them, the wife doesn't care. So they seek attention that normally wouldn't even consider. I know I could never pursue a woman right now because I have no confidence and women are turned off by it. Not to mention what a terrible way to start a relationship with another woman as well as I'm not interested in doing that(I want my wife who only wants to be BFF). So you who judge harshly look to yourselves for condemnation as well. I don't pretend to be right about what I have done and anymore I lack the desire for even easy sex with men, even though my wife says I can cheat. I was so depressed when she said that. She leads me on with things like wait till I lose my weight things will change. She has lost quite a but of weight and I finally get a kiss on the lips. She tells me she loves me but has no desire for me. Not sure she understands love between a man and a woman anymore. If she does someday want to have sex not so sure it would be me she would want it with. That might not even bother me because that would at least be something. As of right now I feel like a very lonely person because of all of it, she doesn't want to talk about it at all, which is another reason why I think there is more to what she says. I also think that many of these middle-aged men like myself are in same boat wives only staying married because of need not because they want their husbands. So stop pretending it's something else other than a need for 'sex' with an easy source 'bi-sexuals'. They are not doing it regularly just when the need becomes so great and they are so emotionally weak. Rest assured I have not been emotionally fulfilled by any bi-sex encounter I have had. In fact it has actually been keeping from same sex encounters anymore lately. Still want to have sex but when you can't get the emotional part of it's not the same. Oh and 1 more thing I'm sorry to say to those who think your either gay or straight and there is no in between, there are more than enough examples of greyness in the world to confirm that bi-sexuals are not gay, but just want sex. I myself do not even get the slightest feeling about another man. But I have had sex with them and have lost my desire for it. It's truly foolish to think that the world and life is wholly black and white, gay or straight, conservative or liberal, and so on. In chemistry there are 3 components to an atom, electron(-), proton(+), and neutron(no charge). Something to consider the next time one of you thinks to have superior understanding through a black and white mentality.

  19. #79

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    I have chatted with so many men on different websites who are over 50, married and love their wives, have fantastic sex lives, yet suddenly find an attraction for some sort of male sex. Mostly it is just an attraction for one part of the male, the cock. Up to that point, these men say that they felt that they were totally straight and never had any attraction for another male. Perhaps it is similar to leaves on trees. Leaves always have the colors you see in the fall, however, in the spring and summer the chlorophyll hides the colors. Late in the season, in the fall, the shorter days causes the chlorophyll to decrease and the true colors come out. I think that such a metaphor describes me. Up to a few years ago, I never thought about sex with a guy. But in my early sixties now, the days are getting shorter, my colors have come out. I still love sex with my wife but now my bucket list has expanded. I think I was always bisexual in my perspective on life, but now my sexuality is catching up. BTW, I am bi-curious, but have never done anything yet with another guy. Like many guys in the same situation, I wonder if I might like cock or if i might not after trying it. Maybe the fantasy is more alluring than the actual experience.

  20. #80

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    My story: I think sex is a small percentage of a wonderful marriage, but those times when it becomes larger it becomes important and is a part of life. We have been married now for almost 40 years, my wife has always been and always will be the love of my life and I hers, she is my life. She lost the desire for sex many years ago mostly due to medical reasons, some things just can’t be fixed, she would offer for my sake, I have a high sex drive, for her sake I couldn’t, love is all caring and sex is only a small percent, for many years when those times arose I took matters in hand and life went on. What I didn’t realize for the longest time that I wasn’t the only one that felt the hurt of the situation. I finally “confessed”, I told her I was gay for the last 18 years, she accepted that our married life together had not been effected during that time, there was no reason to fear, she was in a way relieved, life is better without the tension, now mostly comfortable she even jokes about the subject at times, (while chopping big sausage for stir fry) . I never recall ever having thoughts about sex with another man until that time. I had a much older friend at work with basically a similar problem, in love, good married life but no sex, as a teenager he had an encounter with an older man that sucked his dick (9”) on a fishing trip and paid him $20.00 for the privilege. After I got full upper and lower dentures he had on more than one occasion jokingly offered me $20.00 for each time “to help pay my dental bill” if I would blow him “without the dentures”. After months of thinking about it on and off mostly during my-self relief situations I realized that it was the answer to both of our needs. It was safe, discreet and became convenient, extremely enjoyable and often. It “relieved” the problem and caused no problems. He passed away a few years ago, he is remembered as a good friend and buddy who helped in life’s journey. After a few years of trying to find another married buddy I hooked up with a guy at his home, I found that he was more a cuckold than bi, I did have sex with them but quit the arrangement because of his wife, I was happy to know that I was still able to please them both and she was a wonderful lady but not my lady. I will continue to search for balance, for a buddy, from the age of 42 and now at 60 I am a bisexual, I wish things were different with my wife but such is life at the moment. We are happy together and soon enough that will be the only thing that matters…. Thank you Drew for this website and to most of the folks here.... Gary
    Last edited by Nedsome; Oct 5, 2012 at 5:20 PM. Reason: forgot something

  21. #81

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by loveatl View Post
    Just wondering why most bi-men are over 50, most of which are married, semmed to all of a sudden want to be with another guy, in some way or another.
    Did this come to the front, because of age---can they not find a female now, that turns them on---or is it something that as been there all along, but society didnt accept it till they got old enough not to care---
    Were they afraid of being called gay infront of their friends--
    Can you really be bi at 50 and not at 20? Maybe people are more open now?
    Just curious, because I find myself in the same sitituation. Have always thought of being with another guy, since the first time I was a teen. But never acted on it. Now that I am older, want to try it again.
    I am so confused??
    I can only speak for myself but I've felt the same way you do. For me I've struggled most of my life with my sexuality, since i was 15 I've known there was some interest in men as well as women but because I was a horny teenager I thought it was just hormones. By the time i got into my mid 20's I knew it was more than that, still I kept brushing those feeling aside and tried to just date women. As I got into my early 30's those feelings were stronger than ever and at age 33 I finally had my first experience with another man, greatest decision of my life. Since then i've embrassed my sexuality. Now at age 45 I'm finally comfortable in my own skin. I think when I was younger I worried too much about what everyone else thought instead worring about how I felt. So I think it's normal that so many men come out after age 40 because if they were like me it took them a good 20 years to finally except and be comfortable being who they truly are.

  22. #82

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    OK, I have NOT read all the posts, so I don’t really know what is trending, but hear I go. I’m 51, started way too young but it’s so true. The older I get, the more I tend to enjoy MM fantasies and experiences then “straight” fun… Don’t really have an reason but there it is. Oh ya,,, I’ve been married over 26 years!

  23. #83

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Pure speculation that it's either a waning of testosterone or, I have heard some men say that their wife no longer wants to have sex. This is very unfortunate because I do believe in committed relationships .. screw the sex - what I want to know is will you love me when beauty fades?

    Also some of it may have to do with confidence and self-esteem. When I was 18 I didn't know WHO I was, I can imagine that by my 50s I might have it worked out.

    A lot of other well thought out responses here, I think men do feel stereotypical pressure to conform to gender roles the same way women do. Why is it so hard for some guys to hug another guy, for example? We obviously love who we will love..at least on the inside. Sex or no, I get very tired of having to hide the way I feel back half of my friends.
    Last edited by elian; Oct 6, 2012 at 9:40 AM.

  24. #84

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    OK... I looked in the mirror and damnit...there was an "older guy." I “turned” in several directions....tome I appeared similar to that as I did as a non- "Older Guy." (Butwith less blonde tone to my hair and more salt and pepper) I know what you maybe thinking what has that got to do with this conversation....I will attempt totie it in....bare in mind...ok bear I prefer a lighter approach to most oflife's questions. Oh… I did notsee aturning to bi…just a bi guy.

    Quickly, I was not aware one "turned" anything. However, I could wellstand to be corrected...I have yet to take a course of action in my lifebecause of how my partner looked or aged ....Now....having written that....

    I have had a sensitivity to sensual stimulation as long as I canremember....that can be back to 3-4 years old or 5 minutes ago depending onwhich memory bank is in place....I became "interested" in the greatfeelings derived from self placing pressure on my pubic area in this timeframe....felt good, didn't want to stop... was chastised by Mother forit...never explained why...played "Dr." early on with neighbor girland then male cousins and from there.....had additional fun times with bothfemales and males.....we had a group that explored and experimented together inkind of a morphed state well into our 30’s.


    It was a special group of guys…we all trustedeach other and there was not really a concern over sexuality or masculinity ortestosterone… we truly “bonded” as intimate friends…not so sure it was aslovers! Then, as life can do to us, circumstances all changed…as they havealways said in business…location, location, location …..choices and time andlife quietly divided the group…..on the rare occasion I speak with one of thegroup…I am brought back to that wonderful sense of exploring and sharing…weshared learning and experimenting with ourselves, each other and even our hopeto be doing with female partners to our gf’s….we truly taught each other aboutsex, how it felt, how it made us feel and all of the details of it…this was abit in the dark ages so even responsibility of STD’s and the dreaded gettingpregnant!

    So…..the truth is I have been fortunate toin most cases be comfortable with my feelings toward people, male or female fora bazillion years…or maybe just 57. Iadmit not always comfortable in openly expressing them to the world.

    I fear many guys my age or perhaps begindeciding this earlier on … feel that they want to expand their penis time, likewhen they were a teen… They have detached themselves from the romanticism ofbeing with the one or any individual(s) that really wants to be with them….andthey somehow arrive at the acceptance from their youthful experimentations orthoughts that, as the case with Mr. Clinton, I……did not have sex with thatwoman!!” that perhaps if they look totheir fellow man it will not somehow impact the entire rest of their live withtheir partners….but as we all kind of know … if we start having sex and it ispleasurable….do we want to stop? It is aguy for goodness sake ….we were just ….well you know….

    Some of us “freaks” have always understoodour attraction(s) to people. OK… I haveanyway…. so the “bi” label is not a “turning” event…there are many things Ilack confidence concerning…but I have always had an internal confidenceregarding my sensuality…it is probably somewhat from a male, verbally,emotionally dominating my childhood….seeking within my friendships comfort andto please…and having had the fortune to have male friends have it be OK to beintimate both physically as well as emotionally….

    So…as we age we seek to reach out and havethat “bond” we had in our youth….only as we have aged it is not now just about “cowboysand Indians” or whatever it almost always has the need for sexual outlet….Ineed my penis to be a part now…so if he and I can experiment as we did asyouths (yoots- “My Cousin Vinny” reference) it is no different, is it? And my wife does not understand, I cannottalk to her I am afraid….somehow all plays into this somehow…

    Lastly, it might be that some sex, perhapswith a guy will not end up in a divorce and me losing it all and he might asmuch if not more to lose than me…and many guys just care about the cumming andgetting off not what is for breakfast!?? So … I am not sure they “turn” I think they rationalize more so…

    I probably did not do a very good job hereof wrapping this together…I just think we do not turn people….we may, asindividuals view and accept things with an adjusted perspective. I think that as we age if we have never beenreally good at communicating sensually our desires and pleasures and feelingsand wishes…we may well turn to someone that has done the same thing. We might try to both return to thatexcitement or “yootful” experimentation and that level of excitement in firsttime sensual/sexual feelings awakened…or perhaps it is simpler it is any portin a storm??? J
    If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did
    not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.

    -- Charlotte Bronte

  25. #85

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    no the older you get the more you know what you want

  26. #86

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    I have ALWAYS bee bisexual.
    I wish I had turned gay as I aged and early would have been even better.
    When I am with my longtime friend I feel totally gay.
    BUT, as soon as I even see a woman, I am bisexual again.
    JEM

  27. #87

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Like so much else about sexuality, there is no one answer. Everyone has their own story. That's what makes this all so interesting. Here's my story. I've been bi forever - and that's a very long time. Until about five years ago, my sexual encounters with men were limited to occassional pick-ups on business trips or visits to a massage parlor or gay bath. I loved having sex with men. But for reasons I didn't understand until now, it always seemed inappropriate or irresponsible. Five years ago, my job as a parent ended when my youngest son moved out. I now see that no longer having to be a parent was liberating. I joined this website and have been enjoying my bisexuality ever since.
    Bisexual Explorer

  28. #88

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    My story is a little different. All through my teens and into my 20's and 30's I considered myself "Gay" I was only interested in males, and never gave much
    thought to having sex with women. But then in my 40's I started getting curious about the other sex. Finally I had my first sex with a girl that was 19. She happened
    to be the girlfriend, of a guy I was seeing...who was 20. I was looking for her boyfriend one day, and stopped by her apartment to see if he was there. We sat and talked
    for awhile, and she was fully aware that her boyfreind and I were having sex..and didn't have a problem with it I mentioned I had never had sex with a female before..so
    she volunteered to be my first. It did seem to be a little "kinky" doing it with a girl....but I found I enjoyed the physical sensations very much. After awhile..this turned into
    a regular thing..and she would invite me over about once a week, and we would take care of each other's ..."needs" . At the same time, I was still seeing her boyfriend and
    having regular sex with him..and he might have suspected something...he never knew about me and her. thinking back now...I would have loved to of had them both together
    at the same time for a wild 3-way. LOL

  29. #89

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Ok I am in my 50's, however I have always been bisexual. In my life I have had 6 male sex partners and 4 female sex partners. I have always liked cock better than pussy, but been turned on by both. I can only speak for myself, but I still have a stronger desire for cock. If I had to choose and could have either a man or woman in my bed I would pick the man. In an ideal world I would pick both.

  30. #90

    Re: Do older men turn bi???

    Quote Originally Posted by cliffml View Post
    Now at age 45 I'm finally comfortable in my own skin. I think when I was younger I worried too much about what everyone else thought instead worring about how I felt. So I think it's normal that so many men come out after age 40 because if they were like me it took them a good 20 years to finally except and be comfortable being who they truly are.
    I am the same age and have the same experience. Its not that I have turned bi it is that I have discovered and accepted my bi-sexuality and am moving to embrace it.

 

 

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