All I can say from experience is, 3 is an unstable number, and if you tick one partner off, you're out!
All I can say from experience is, 3 is an unstable number, and if you tick one partner off, you're out!
If it is to be, let it be with me
It massively increases the difficulty in finding complete compatibility all the way around.Originally Posted by csreef
I was fortunate to be with a a few couples where the relationship was strong enough that I could play with one or the other partner and there were no issues with jealousy or anything. One guy told me to take his wife into the bedroom and "you guys get warmed-up". Another guy left me with his wife at a motel, ran some errands and came back later. We played as a trio and then I left them to finish off.
Of-course, I also had situations where people didn't define rules or boundaries and got upset when things happened they didn't want nor expect...it can be tough for sure...
> Are there any better ways of attracting bi couples who are serious to meet for ongoing friendships?
Funny. My wife and I wish there were better ways of meeting quality bi guys who are serious for ongoing friendships. We no longer look online. We have had good luck with nudist parties. : )
Playful808: What's interesting is I have friends that are active nudists. They downplay sexual activity at their naturist resort. "I'm sure it happens, but it's behind closed doors", she said. It's apparently grounds for dismissal at their camp as there are families with kids there. I had another friend who was a nudest along with his wife. He and his wife went to camps and resorts, but he always told me that "people assume because your a nudist, you also into wife-swap and swinging...which isn't true". I guess some people do and some don't.... glad you found a way to meet people. As a bi male seeking a couple, I appreciate the challenge it can be.
there must be different kinds of nudist camps then. if kids are there i guess it's safe to assume it's really nudism for it's own sake. i totally respect that. but if it's just conscenting adults there could be wiggle room for some sexual context, or the desire for something something might even be close to obvious. for those with experiance with nudism am i right or close to right?
i doubt ur around anymore but i wanted to talk about a point u made about how u shouldn't brag about penis size. i agree however alot of add's i see from a couple looking for a male, they want a hung male. i don't pay attention to those add's not because i'm not well hung but because they put there importance on something like penis size, which is there business i respect that but it seems superficial to me so those kinds of couples are not really for me. maybe u will agree not to brag about a big penis if there is no mention in the add the couple is looking for a well hung guy. everything else makes sense too, make sure there's chemistry & don't ask to meet 1 behind the other's back. that's all common sense.
I understand how you feel but you can't really fault people for knowing what they want. When we discussed what kind of people we should invite to play my wife's only rule was "No 'stubby' guys." That meant endowment was a parameter that had to be taken into account.
As a true bisexual I can honestly say loving sexual interaction with both female and male is equally desired and loved and when engaging a couple whether married or just a bf/gf playing with both equally is just natural sure there will be some who like to watch more whether it is her or him you must be able to read the flow of their wants , needs , desires. As for meeting couples sometimes you might come across thise who are very open about playing together and wanting a third to play with I have found that these are very open and get right into it when they find what they are looking for , and then there are those who look for a third by sending out either him or her to search out possible playmates , you need to be able read subtle hints given to you about a possible her or him joining or what if's with some of these situations you might need to go a little slower to let them get comfortable with how far you are willing to go and with who , being a true bisexual myself it helps when they realize I love both contact and sex with both equally , couples are so much fun to engage in honest , uninhibited , sexually open satisfying fun ....... Enjoy have fun be respectful
Well, this is IT in a nutshell. In a perfect world a bi guy should nicely dovetail into a M/F couple and everyone should have fun. Some of the hottest scenes I've had were having doggie sex with a woman as her husband was underneath licking my balls and her pussy as she sucked him. Another was fucking a woman missionary as she and I shared his cock between our lips... sometimes a woman sits back and watches, plays with herself and directs the men. Lots of ways to have fun in a MFM trio...but everyone should be on the same page lest you have a major blowup:
It's unfortunately rare that jealousy or expectations don't get in the way. One couple invited me over to play. Nice enough people, porn on the TV, glasses of wine, on a comforter in their living room. We had some fun in various combinations. His wife made some overtures which I assumed were cool with everyone. We started to make out and as we kissed we eventually began having intercourse. It happened when he went to refill our wine glasses....he came back, joined in, he finished the afternoon eating her out and cleaning my cum up, and then fucking her as she sucked me. The day ended on a very friendly note. I thought it was a home run.
Then I called back to say what a nice time was had and that I hoped to do it again sometime. I was basically yelled at and told I was " just a guy who was willing to suck a dick so he could fuck a guys wife". Excuse me ? We never got to a point where he was to fuck me (which would have been fine), nor me fucking him. We did have oral with one another and including her, but it was obvious there was a disconnect in their understanding of what was expected to happen. I was upset as I liked them as people and we had fun....do you need a playbook or a chart with rules on it ? I guess maybe sometimes you do.
This is why I like to meet for coffee or a drink, so everyone can flesh out the rules. You either look forward to a fun time or you agree it might not be what everyone seeks.
Wife and I are both bi, we are always looking for a nice clean average bi guy to play with. We really want to find one or two guys that we can hang out with and be friends with outside the bedroom as well. We used to have a good friend that would come over almost weekly and play, sometimes his schedule was different and he would come and play with my wife and I'd get to come home to her pussy full of cum. loved that. Wife also loved watching us play together, that would get her turned on to no end. She loves watching me suck a cock.
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This was one of the nicer aspects of a few couples I had long-term relationships with. We'd go to dinner or grab a few drinks, one couple liked to go bowling, and then we'd play. Sometimes not the same day ! Sometimes it was a social evening and we planned to play another day, sometimes we'd end our bowling early and get a room or go back to their place.
One couple liked to tease one another. The husband and I would be in bed when the wife came home from work, or me and wife would surprise him the same way. Sadly, not all couples are as stable and comfortable with these kinds of encounters. Ironically, they divorced a few years after we split up...
I was with a guy a while back that admitted to not getting hard enough to fuck his wife. He can still cum when sucked and he fingers and licks her pussy instead. I got the feeling that he might have been feeling me out to have a 3 some letting me fuck her. I played it cool and won't offer unless I am asked. It is one of those situations where you just go with the flow I guess.
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I would love to meet a bi couple. But at my age that will probably never happen unless I happen to come across an older couple. Still I really fantasize about it.
As a bi couple who has been married 36 years and opened our relationship to other 23 years ago we figured out early on that we needed rules to make things work smoothly. We decided that both of us would have an unquestioned right of refusal if the prospective partner was not to our liking. We would only do same room, full swap with couples and while I am allowed to see men and couples solo, no single girls solo without her present. She decided she would not play solo at all for safety reasons. Sticking to those simple rules has worked well. I love to see her enjoying others and she loves seeing me pleasure a woman and gets really hot seeing me top a man who is really enjoying it. For the record we have just as much trouble finding viable partners as many of you. Couples are tough to make a match where everyone is happy with each other and single women are called unicorns for a reason. Finding the right people requires a lot of work and even more patience.
When I was just out of college and starting out with my first professional job, I made friends with the HR manager at our company. She was an older woman (in her mid-50s). She and her husband had been married for 25 years. One day we were having lunch at an off-site restaurant and she straight up asked me if I was gay? I told her no, but that I was bi, but it wasn't anything I would spread around.
She patted me on the hand and assured me that she knew how to keep a secret. I was relieved to know because my whole reputation and probably my career rested on that fact.
Then she dropped the bombshell... Angela then said that she was "over" having sex, but that her husband (who was 5 years younger than her) was wanting to do "crazy" things like oral (meaning he wanted her to go down on him) and anal sex with her. My first thought was WOW! You guys have been married how long? Three grown kids later? What a boring sex life!
Long story short, she invited me over for a barbeque that weekend with another couple (their neighbors). After the neighbors left, it was only the three of us. We were all sitting poolside and I got up and went into the water. Her husband went to side and put his legs in the water while I was swimming. Angel went inside to mix some more drinks.
I swam over, pulled Richard's trunks down and gave him the bj of his life. That guy came in less than a minute. The whole time, Angel was watching from the kitchen window.
I dried off and drove home soon afterward.
The next Monday, she came into my office and dropped a key into my hand. "You can stay at our place anytime you want," she said.
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