I would be grateful if anyone can help me. It's a boyfriend problem.I am a middle aged female who was looking for a compatible man for a serious ( and fun ,) longstanding relationship.
I was " pursued "by a lovely man and we have loads in common. We met on the internet but absolutely not on a dating forum. He kept chasing me down the threads and we had a lot of slightly intellectual but innocent fun. Eventually he posted me his email address and we emailed, then phoned ( always him taking the lead ) and finally met. I felt that in many ways we are a bit like " twins"....so much in common ! I have fallen in love with him. However......I think he is Bi. He hasn't said as much but jokes about it .For example , once he asked me why I hadn't phoned him...and I jokingly said that he might have his " other" girlfriend round ( he doesn't have one btw! ) and he immediately said " or boyfriend " . I also notice that on the " mutual interest" ( as I said NOT dating ) forum that we both belong to and where we met ...he often engages with the openly gay posters ( more than he would with other contributors and sometimes with a slight nudge nudge wink wink sexual innuendo ).....
He really is a lovely ,intelligent , witty ,fun guy....same age as me ( middle aged ) however, I have noticed that his voice and gestures are sometimes very " feminine" / camp.
I have asked him if he is attracted to men...but he never gives a " straight" ( sorry about the pun ) answer. Would he prefer to be with a man? Is he in " denial". He has admitted to gay encounters in his teens ( at a single sex boarding school) but otherwise insists he's attracted to women....but then seems to contradict this by ( IMO) the way he sometimes walks, talks, dresses etc
I love him but I am so CONFUSED . I don't want to dive in , feet first and then have my heart broken by a man who would really prefer to be with a man ( and , because he denies this may go along with my love and then reject me ).
CAN ANYBODY HELP !