Am I the only one?

[BradInWisconsin]

I don’t begrudge ANYONE their consensual preferences. Enjoy, and more power to ya! I’m just wondering if any of the other guys here share my feelings. I love everything about a woman’s body, but when it comes to a man, the only things that turn me on about him are his cock, his balls, and the fluid they generate sexually. I’m not into kissing or caressing a man, just sucking him off. Also, I get a LOT more sexual energy (and masturbatory material) from sucking my partner off, as opposed to anything my partner does to/for ME. I’m just curious to find out if any others have similar feelings. ✌️

[NJwood]

Me too. It’s all about cock!

[Jozyxt]

Your perspective seems pretty common.

[Cum1st]

I don’t begrudge ANYONE their consensual preferences. Enjoy, and more power to ya! I’m just wondering if any of the other guys here share my feelings. I love everything about a woman’s body, but when it comes to a man, the only things that turn me on about him are his cock, his balls, and the fluid they generate sexually. I’m not into kissing or caressing a man, just sucking him off. Also, I get a LOT more sexual energy (and masturbatory material) from sucking my partner off, as opposed to anything my partner does to/for ME. I’m just curious to find out if any others have similar feelings. ✌️

I feel the same as you. Watching a man suck my cock isn't a turn on to me. Seeing a woman with her cheeks sucked in around my cock is something I want to see. a man's nipples don't move me to want to suck them, but a woman's nipples - I can't get enough. No part of a woman is less than exquisite to me.

On the other hand, I'm up for every thing in the area of his shorts - his cock, his balls, his asshole. Even putting my nose between his balls and leg and taking in that scent can make me cum hard in his mouth.

[JordanCD]

I agree. Most guys are fluid sexually (it's widely accepted in the scientific community) but when it comes to partnering 'for life' most of us want a woman - for procreation, family, intimacy, domestic life, emotional balance, support, etc. Not to mention women are more pleasant to look at than 99% of guys. Most of us are wired this way. Survival of the species and all that.

But another aspect of this is how much attention and sexual satisfaction & physical connection do you get from your female partner (if you even have one). If you have a woman who takes care of you sexually and makes you feel wanted, you won't be as likely to dab into men. When I was in my early 20's I had this 18 yo. girlfriend who was very much into me and literally couldn't keep her hands off me. She couldn't wait to fuck me every time we met. She had such a crush on me that she would be dripping wet as soon as her panties came off. We fucked in cars, the library, public bathrooms, anywhere she could get it. She couldn't get enough of me and would do anything I wanted. During that time I didn't even look at porn, much less gay/bi porn. I had all the attendion needed from her.

So another part of this is, we all want to feel wanted. When our wives lose interest or there are no women around, we look for where we can get attention: other men who are just as horny as us. We want to suck cock because we want to feel desired and appreciated. Look at guys in jail.

So I bet a lot of us guys on this website also don't have a great sex life at home.

[BiTexasGuy85]

When I first accepted that I wasn’t heterosexual, I was definitely only interested in cocks and cum. Once I started chatting with guys and watching male on male porn I started to find guys I was attracted to more than just their cocks. And even after that I couldn’t find guys attractive unless they were nude, I’ve just now (after 20 years of acceptance) have I started being able to look at a clothes male and understand his attractiveness. And some guys NEVER get there and that’s ok too! Welcome bud im happy you’re here

[DJBiNudist]

I agree. Most guys are fluid sexually (it's widely accepted in the scientific community) but when it comes to partnering 'for life' most of us want a woman - for procreation, family, intimacy, domestic life, emotional balance, support, etc. Not to mention women are more pleasant to look at than 99% of guys. Most of us are wired this way. Survival of the species and all that.

But another aspect of this is how much attention and sexual satisfaction & physical connection do you get from your female partner (if you even have one). If you have a woman who takes care of you sexually and makes you feel wanted, you won't be as likely to dab into men. When I was in my early 20's I had this 18 yo. girlfriend who was very much into me and literally couldn't keep her hands off me. She couldn't wait to fuck me every time we met. She had such a crush on me that she would be dripping wet as soon as her panties came off. We fucked in cars, the library, public bathrooms, anywhere she could get it. She couldn't get enough of me and would do anything I wanted. During that time I didn't even look at porn, much less gay/bi porn. I had all the attendion needed from her.

So another part of this is, we all want to feel wanted. When our wives lose interest or there are no women around, we look for where we can get attention: other men who are just as horny as us. We want to suck cock because we want to feel desired and appreciated. Look at guys in jail.

So I bet a lot of us guys on this website also don't have a great sex life at home.

I agree with most of what you said, as I am very attracted to everything about a woman and have never been attracted to a guy in the same way...but a hard cock is also so sexy. I never really thought about it in terms of what sex I was attracted to...just that I like 'this' in this woman and 'that' in another. Years ago we were in a gay/lesbian bookstore and I saw a sexy calendar of a bunch of naked people laying on beach towels, when I looked closer I realized that they were all actually nude smooth men! I didn't change my mind that they weren't sexy after realizing this, and instead opened my mind to the fact that the features are what are sexy to me and not what sex they are.
I also never had the desire to kiss another guy, but after being forcibly kissed by a guy on more than one occasion, I realized how hot and good guys can kiss...and usually you can't tell that you are 'not' kissing a woman.
Recently I am more interested in CDers who are close to being passable, like myself. Kind of like the best of both worlds...a sexy lady with a sexy cock and not all the issues females have with sex.
So, be open to try something new, and like it for your own reasons...

[Rest85]

I don’t begrudge ANYONE their consensual preferences. Enjoy, and more power to ya! I’m just wondering if any of the other guys here share my feelings. I love everything about a woman’s body, but when it comes to a man, the only things that turn me on about him are his cock, his balls, and the fluid they generate sexually. I’m not into kissing or caressing a man, just sucking him off. Also, I get a LOT more sexual energy (and masturbatory material) from sucking my partner off, as opposed to anything my partner does to/for ME. I’m just curious to find out if any others have similar feelings. ✌️

Absolutely. I am not interested in any romantic type gestures with a guy. No kissing...no cuddling, etc. I just want to be his submissive cocksucker. I want to be used, pleasure his cock and swallow his cum.

[Rest85]

I agree with most of what you said, as I am very attracted to everything about a woman and have never been attracted to a guy in the same way...but a hard cock is also so sexy. I never really thought about it in terms of what sex I was attracted to...just that I like 'this' in this woman and 'that' in another. Years ago we were in a gay/lesbian bookstore and I saw a sexy calendar of a bunch of naked people laying on beach towels, when I looked closer I realized that they were all actually nude smooth men! I didn't change my mind that they weren't sexy after realizing this, and instead opened my mind to the fact that the features are what are sexy to me and not what sex they are.
I also never had the desire to kiss another guy, but after being forcibly kissed by a guy on more than one occasion, I realized how hot and good guys can kiss...and usually you can't tell that you are 'not' kissing a woman.
Recently I am more interested in CDers who are close to being passable, like myself. Kind of like the best of both worlds...a sexy lady with a sexy cock and not all the issues females have with sex.
So, be open to try something new, and like it for your own reasons...

I could kiss a passable trans 'lady'. I would find it extremely hot to suck her tits and move down to pleasure her cock, reaching up to play with her nipples, etc.

[tenni]

These types of posts make me wonder. The definition defines physical and emotional attraction to women and men. There is definitely a lot of guys who claim to only attracted to cock and not emotional attraction to other men. Since bisexuality is fluid some guys may become emotionally attracted after some time. I don't know about "passable tranwoman. I have not been in that situation. I'm certainly not attracted to RuPaul and other drag queens. I'm not interested in tits and cock on the same body. CISMen are men and CISwomen are women in my book.

I'm capable to being emotionally attracted to both women and men. It is different kind of attraction to CISwomen than it is to CISmen.

As I wrote the numbers of CISmen only interested in a guy's cock seems to be a large number on this and I see it as objectifying other men for their cock.

I don't want to get fucked and I'm not always interested in sucking dick. Seeing a guy shoot his load is interesting though.

[curmwm57]

I don’t begrudge ANYONE their consensual preferences. Enjoy, and more power to ya! I’m just wondering if any of the other guys here share my feelings. I love everything about a woman’s body, but when it comes to a man, the only things that turn me on about him are his cock, his balls, and the fluid they generate sexually. I’m not into kissing or caressing a man, just sucking him off. Also, I get a LOT more sexual energy (and masturbatory material) from sucking my partner off, as opposed to anything my partner does to/for ME. I’m just curious to find out if any others have similar feelings. ✌️

You sound EXACTLY like me. So to answer your question...Nope, you are NOT the only one that feels like that.

[borntosuckcock]

Feel the same way, when it comes to men, just want their cock to suck and their cum to swallow. When it comes to women, I love every inch of their bodies and want to spend as much time as possible locking and sucking them. With men, it’s mainly, blow and go.

[Biryder]

I must agree. I love women. Pussy Is fabulous. But cock is awesome. To me sucking cock is so special. To me it is just a couple of guys having fun.

[KDaddy23]

It's the physical and/or emotional attraction... but we assume that both are required to meet the definition of being bisexual... and we all can't agree on what "being attracted" means which makes sense given that we all have our own aesthetic sense about such things. I've observed that many men, when they say they're not attracted to men, mean that they're not romantically attracted but this exclusion doesn't prevent guys from being close friends nor does it prevent a guy from seeing their idea of a nice looking guy and saying, "I'd love to suck his dick!" - and it doesn't prevent a guy from deciding for himself that if he's attracted to anything, it's the dick and the sex. Even I don't look at a guy and think that he could be my next boyfriend... doesn't mean I wouldn't be interested in sucking his dick unless, of course, he was my idea of an asshole. But since I have had male boyfriends, I'd never say that I couldn't be emotionally and even romantically attracted to a guy and because I did, I learned to never say never about that level of attraction.

That emotional/romantic connection, truth be told, isn't a mandatory requirement to say that you're bisexual; many of us do, in fact, base our desires in this on being attracted in some way and sometimes upon the expectation of some chemistry taking place and, for some, a level of "being into" would be very nice - and that's fine. The thing we should strive to remember that we are bisexual and in the way that works best for us and not solely based upon a definition. I see a lot of people stressing the importance of that emotional connection and even calling it biphobia if there's no interest in being romantical attached to someone. If that's the way you're bisexual, it works... and if it's not the way you're bisexual, that works, too, and yeah - if you look at a guy and you ain't even thinking about having sex with him, that's not really a problem either.

[Jkf665]

Feel the exact sameway!

[tenni]

Bisexuality definition is very wide and open to fluidness. The “and /or” part of the definition of bisexual can be an issue. It leads to comments about only being attracted to dick. That is not to say that is not your reality though. When you don’t bring to the front of your discussion any emotional aspect that you do have physical and emotional attraction for women it seems incomplete for a bisexual man to discuss both sides. Some posters include this both sides (men and women and attraction both physical and emotional). Some guys posting here seems to restrict their emotional side with other men. I could be wrong in my interpretations of posted ideas. For me emotional aspects between two men can be quite different than man/woman emotional interaction.

Some men on this site who identify as bi are reticent to kiss another guy. I see that as internalized biphobia. When a guy is comfortable in his own skin and begins to kiss with other men is a continuing of the guy's own evolution as a bi guy. The way that I see it is if you don’t kiss a male lover but will kiss a woman, your experience seems incomplete as a bisexual but that is your reality.

[KDaddy23]

Perception always trumps the truth, doesn’t it? How may guys does a guy have to kiss to determine that it’s not his idea of fun? There are women I wouldn’t kiss if my life depended on it; does that imply I have some kind of heterophobia? Doesn’t make sense to invoke biphobia just because a guy, for whatever reason, won’t kiss another guy and it is his choice either way, isn’t it? Doesn’t mean he’s being bi in some kind of wrong way or that there’s something wrong with him and, yeah - some guys are just lousy kissers.

We will, of course, agree to disagree and I’m good with that; you say it’s internalized biphobia and I say it’s choice - nothing wrong happening here.

[emerging]

I guess I am different from most of those that have posted. I want to have a nice relationship with a male and a passionate sexual experience. This means kissing, skin on skin, hands and mouth roaming everywhere. Thus I prefer to have a nice bond before getting it on. I am that way with women too, I prefer sex with them after we become friends.

[tenni]

Perception always trumps the truth, doesn’t it? How may guys does a guy have to kiss to determine that it’s not his idea of fun? There are women I wouldn’t kiss if my life depended on it; does that imply I have some kind of heterophobia? Doesn’t make sense to invoke biphobia just because a guy, for whatever reason, won’t kiss another guy and it is his choice either way, isn’t it? Doesn’t mean he’s being bi in some kind of wrong way or that there’s something wrong with him and, yeah - some guys are just lousy kissers.

We will, of course, agree to disagree and I’m good with that; you say it’s internalized biphobia and I say it’s choice - nothing wrong happening here.

Just a few thoughts on kissing, sexual play and attraction to same gender (physical and emotional) . Am I the only one?

A guy does not have to kiss another man to say that he is not into kissing men. I see such men as struggling with their bisexuality just as they struggle with attracted physically to some men(even if only his body sex organ part) and have sex with other men. Some attracted just to a body part may be objectifying the other guy as a factor in accepting same gender play. It is like there are stages of acceptance and kissing is for those who are more comfortable. Biphobia comes into play as a form of fear. Fear of being found out that you sexually like naked play with other men. Fear that if you kiss another man you are really a fag because strong, masculine men don’t kiss men. (taboo) Some how a guys cock is ok to be attracted to in some guy's mind. It may be fear of intimacy and exposing yourself to other men. You are weak if you suck dick or kiss another man or let him penetrate you. Penetration seems to desired for some on this site. Gender play switch sub for dominant comes into play as the guy explores his sex attractions.

I don’t think that there is such a thing as heterophobia? Heterosexuality is the dominant main stream sexuality . Society makes heterosexual sexual acts as the norm that all should want. Hetero have that already. Kissing another man is not the norm....nor are the same gender sex play.

Yes I find some married guys in long term marriages are lousy kissers. How could that be? I've never personally been with a lousy kisser woman..lol

[bblover]

You're not the only one. There are many of us out there that are only looking for the sexual, physical, part of bi sex. Personally, I can say that I have never been attracted to a man physically. It confused me for a long time. How could I want to fuck and get sucked off by guys but not be attracted to them. More recently, how could I want to suck cock and get fucked when I have no physical attraction.

My wife helped me come to terms with it. She likes to say its a motion, not an emotion. Not sure I agree with her terms but it works.

Short answer. You're not alone.

[proteindump]

I am not into kissing nor anal penetration. I love to suck cock and be sucked. I really admire a nice, cut cock that gets real hard. I like a good load to swallow too. I am an exhibitionist and really enjoy doing 2 or three at the same time and love it when wife/girlfriend is there too. I know, I'm sick. lol

[Alan0402]

No kissing or romance for me either, but I’m more of the primal/dominate type. Get on your knees, pull out my cock and start sucking. Tongue my balls, asshole and then beg for my cum...... then go home to your wife.

[Rest85]

It's exactly the same for me. I want no romance with a man. No kissing or cuddling or words of endearment. I only want to enjoy pleasuring his cock and being fed his warm thick cum. I love playing submissive slut for (preferably) a bigger cock. He can, and I hope he will, talk dirty to me as I kneel before him. He can call me a cocksucker, a faggot; tell me he knows I want to be his cum slut, etc and it will only turn me on more and more. I will whimper and express my appreciation for being allowed to suck his dick. I will tell him I want him to cum in my mouth and I will thank him for letting me be his slut when he is done, but when he IS done with me, I'm just a regular straight acting guy who'd in the closet about my love of sucking dick. When I am out, I ogle attractive ladies like a dog but I never look at a guy and feel turned on or want to flirt with him...no way! But when I am in a setting with a guy and we know what we are there for...and he pulls out his cock, I get dizzy with lust and have to play with it and suck it. Cocks are fantastic. Pussy is fantastic.
For me, the ladies are for romance AND sex. With a guy, I only want to concentrate on his cock and his spurting load.

[ClassicPaCpl]

I feel the same, I love women... Gods greatest acheivment! They are beautiful, sexy and nothing compares...
All I want from a guy is his cock... Yes I have said before that Im not into muscle guys and prefer a more mature guy but its his cock that interests me not the guy

[BradInWisconsin]

Great comments, all. I’m so glad to know that there are others in the same boat as me. No kissing, no romance, no feelings of love. Just whip it out, let me pleasure you, let me see, hear, feel, and taste evidence of your pleasure. That’s all I’m looking for with a man.

[notmacbi]

Agree Brad. I just want to suck that cock, try to take the balls in my mouth and finish off with him jacking in my hot fucking mouth.

[Nocockyet]

Wow. So many good points are made here. I am in the same mindset as many of you, that I don't have to kiss a dude to know I don't like it. I struggled much of my life worried that I might actually be gay because I like to be penetrated. I avoided realistic looking dildos because I thought that would somehow mean I prefer men. It took having a fling with another woman to make me realize that there is no rulebook. No one thing makes you gay or not. You are what you know and believe you are regardless of what you like to do with your body. For me it's a heightened level of sexuality knowing I can please and be pleased.

[Godownonit]

Agree completely. It is ONLY about the cock...and the cum load. Frankly, most of the time when I am sucking cock, I forget that there is a guy attached. The cock is the focus - and it is EVERYTHING.

[Bimiself48]

I am so glad I found this site. It's good to know I'm not alone. That there are others like me. When it comes to guys it's all about the cock and sometimes a little ass play. I prefer women, I have no desires or have ever met a guy that I wanted the same kind of relationships that I've had with women. It's just sex with guys for me, same goes for kissing, I've tried kissing men and I'm sorry I just don't like it. I wouldn't mind meeting a guy that had the same desires as me and understood discretion to be friends with. That would be awesome. Unfortunately very few of us are this open out in the real world.

[Neonaught]

I am firmly bisexual and have absolutely no hang-ups about being that way. For me, affectionate, passionate sex is the best no matter the sex of my partner. When I kiss and caress either sex I always get hard as a rock!