Question for the MEN, mostly

[parkwings]

Who do you find yourself glancing, looking, ogling at? Men, women, both,?

Myself, most times I'm pretty oblivious to men out on the streets etc. yet I masterbate almost exclusivley about men. When I'm out and about, with my mind in neutral, I seem to notice the women..because they are so pretty and stick out way more for me. Maybe it's because they dress in a certain way?
Maybe I've been brainwashed by society to notice them? I don't know, but it seems a bit strange to look at them constantly and then rarely masterbate about them, how wierd am I ??

[jay_1981]

i look at women mostly, but do notice the cute guys, when i wank, men and women are involved

[paukenplayer]

I hadn't really thought about this until reading your post.
As I think about it I have to say that I check out attractive people, M or F. I try not to be obvious, though...

[Woody]

Guy or girl if they catch my eye I'll have a quick stare and appreciate.

[rmorti]

At the moment I am more looking at the guys, facinated and seeing something thats still new to me. I enjoy masterbating over women in nice underwear and straight porn though and get more turned on in the idea of doing stuff with girls.

[kitten]

You said you wanted responses from men, mostly, so my is I look at both with great appreciation and generally fantasize about someone that I recently speak to or that I am getting to know.

[jem_is_bi]

I tend not to be attracted to either men or women unless I know them and feel they are attracted to me.
On the street, I am slightly attracted to women. Women are pretty and a few are stunningly beautiful. I can appreciate the difference between a handsome man and one who is not handsome. However, I have no attraction to men unless I know they are gay or bisexual and express interest in me. Then, I will find them sexually attractive.

JEM

[Toad82]

I tend not to be attracted to either men or women unless I know them and feel they are attracted to me.
On the street, I am slightly attracted to women. Women are pretty and a few are stunningly beautiful. I can appreciate the difference between a handsome man and one who is not handsome. However, I have no attraction to men unless I know they are gay or bisexual and express interest in me. Then, I will find them sexually attractive.

JEM

Not to sound stupid, but how does that work? How can you turn it on and off like that?

RJ

[dafydd]

I mainly look at men in a lustful way but can be captivated by a beautiful women. I masturbate to both men and women, as a top each time.

d

[jem_is_bi]

Not to sound stupid, but how does that work? How can you turn it on and off like that?

RJ

It did not work that way when I was 20. All women turned me on and men if I knew they were gay.

I am not sure why I turn on and off so easily now. It just seems to work that way.
I never find a straight man sexually attractive. A gay or bisexual man, just needs to express a little interest in me for me to become interested in them.
I can look at women and appreciate their beauty (like a beautiful piece of art). But, I cannot get sexually aroused unless I get to know and like the woman and unless she is attracted to me.

It is kind of strange that it works that way for me.

JEM

[warmpuppy]

I am among the group that loves women, enjoys sex with some guys. When I'm doing a guy, it's all about the sex. With women, it's both physical and emotional. So I don't usually admire guys when I'm out in public.

[the mage]

I'm constantly ogling women.
Can't help it.
Here in Toronto we get all kinds of dress, form nudity on the beach at Hanlan's point to Muslim women fully covered except for the eyes.

Even nice eyes that simply return a smile can turn me on when its a woman.
My Lady tolerates me because I try to be discreet about it. Sometimes it doesn't work though, long legs in a mini will turn my head every time.

As with many others I am turned on by men only in a sexual situation, knowing they want me is the turn on. A good looking straight guy will not get a glance but an average in shape guy who sets off my gaydar can turn me on.

I have come to believe that the phenomenon of men switching sides in mid years, a very common thing, is directly related to women's being unable or unwilling to overtly express sexual lust.
Most women will not even let a beautiful man see them looking at him, never mind approach for play. The average guy with a boiler and bald head is as noticed as a mail box.

[Pianoman181]

It's interesting that you posted this topic actually because it brings me back to a earlier though i had this week.

Early on in my teen years this situation where you masturbate to men yet only realy notice wemon while walking about was very much what i was expieriancing. Now As i grow older and became more comfortable with my attraction towrds men i find that i notice both wemon and men equally now. My point to this is that i read an interesting idea about bisexuality that it goes in phases throughout your life with your attraction to both men and wemon. So my idea is that there are sevral different phases of being bisexual as far as how you expieriance attraction. and the phases that each person expieriance throughout their lifetime depends on who the person is and the chemestry of how their body works.

Thats just my guess though, only thing that makes sence to me

[amcu48]

If she is young, shapely and dressed right I cant help but oggle. Guys I only think about when I masturbate, and thats only oral with me giving.

[Johnny Reb]

I've always checked out girls when they catch my eye as attractive. I also do the same with guys. I actually spend more time checking out guys because I am more picky with men, if that makes sense. At first when I began to check out guys I was in denial, sort of, what are you doing you sick perv.

[DiamondDog]

I mainly look at men in a lustful and romantic way, as in I'll think that one of my friends who I'm into both sexually and romantically would make a great husband if he wanted that sort of relationship with me.

I'll also look at men in a purely lustful way but it's more like kissing him and then blowing him or having him blow me or thinking about what his cock and balls look like or how he likes to j/o.

With women I can notice their beauty and while I used to find a lot more of them sexually arousing than I do now, I'll still ocassionally have sexual/lustful thoughts about them but it mainly happens when I see a woman and a hot man at the same time and I'll think about having sex with both of them at the same time. <EG>

I love to look at men and if I get cruised or flirted with back that's fine too!

Most hetero men are so dumb that they don't know when a guy is checking them out and wouldn't even think that another guy would find a man hot.

[wanderingrichard]

i tend to look at both, nothing turns my head faster than a shapely butt and legs, doesnt matter man or woman.. next i look at the eyes and the smile.. plus how well they are dressed. by that i mean do they dress in a confident, flattering manner or are they sloppy or trashy or appear not to care about themselves?? don't get me wrong, sometimes trashy is very appealing, but most of the time it's a major turn OFF!

[eyewarepanties]

I find my attraction is to women, I think they are sexy, beautiful and very pretty. I am not attracted to men in the same way. Now I do like looking at cock in pictures and having oral sex with men, but I can't say I am attracted to them, as to whether they are pretty or not.

[biwords]

I'm kind of all over the map. I notice women much, much more often than men, but on rare occasions, the sight of some man makes me positively wobbly. I enjoy sex with either equally. I'd be much more likely to fall in love with a woman, but I no longer regard it as impossible that I'd fall for a man. Masturbating to thoughts of a man? Only once in my life (to completion) -- and that very recently.

[wm1809]

mainly men, but women also if they are really good looking

[Diana_TS]

Have to think before answering this question. I notice both sexy women and men. Notice the sexy women for two reasons, they look sexy and are nice to look at, and from jealousy as I wish I could look as sexy dressed. I notice the men for one reason, lust, nothing turns me on like a sexy man especially if he looks available.

[wolfcamp]

I love to watch attractive women. I am rarely attracted visually to men. There was a time when I sometimes looked at a man and noticed a slight arousal in my crotch. I usually tried to ignore it. I worried that it meant that I might be turning gay, and I didn't want to lose my attraction to women. Kind of a stupid thought, I know. I don't worry about that anymore.

For a long time I fantasized almost exclusively about men. Recently I have been fantasizing more about women. One of my favorite stimulation helpers is the Frederick's Catalog. I can sometimes get very turned on by some of those models, but it depends on my mood. For some reason I like the Fredericks models better than pictures of full nudity.

[void()]

Guy or girl if they catch my eye I'll have a quick stare and appreciate.

Fairly the same here. Though, with having a wife, I'm more inclined to look at guys. And right now, I'm not looking at guys. Recently met someone who's special to me.

[Tx46M]

I am among the group that loves women, enjoys sex with some guys. When I'm doing a guy, it's all about the sex. With women, it's both physical and emotional. So I don't admire guys when I'm out in public.

Nor have I ever looked at a male and "wanted" him. Chatted with several guys from here and actually met 2 and may meet another. I suppose since I am not really attracted to men but do enjoy m2m sex...and still love to look at only women that makes me unique? When it comes to porn I do enjoy bi & gay as long as the guys seem normal and not twinks or fem types (no offense to anyone I hope). Can't fake an erection!

[rmorti]

It depends on my mood but visually I appear to be more gay, when I see a guy with a defined build and clothes that show it, I cant help but get drawn to them over a girl. but somedays its the opposite. Mentally im straight, I get really turned on at the idea of girlies in underwear, doing stuff, having stuff done to me. Porn wise I enjoy straight porn more too, or even sometimes woman on woman. I think im just more visually intregued by men due to it being a taboo and not done anything about it yet.
I find that men are really boring naked, i dont really like the penis, and well find the build when naked a bit...dissapointing. Whilst girls can wear such nice bars, underwear and be so sexy...its really hard to describe. I wonder if things will change when I actualy try something with a guy.

[rmorti]

Another thing I find is when i see a guy whilst looking at girls it notice them more, but if i decide to go home and say try masterbate over a picture, I dont really seem that....bothered...interested or attracted...

[Cantaloupe Island]

I find myself always looking at women. Occasionally I'll check out a super cute guy. But mainly women. However, I tend to masturbate to gay thoughts. And definitely I really won't check out or flirt with a guy unless he's bi or gay.

[dafydd]

Most hetero men are so dumb that they don't know when a guy is checking them out and wouldn't even think that another guy would find a man hot.

I don't think it's that they're dumb, they're just not receptive to the male sexual gaze. Why would they take a second glance at you if they were not gay.
I was discussing this with a female straight friend, wondering if girls cruise the same way as guys, and she pointed out that guys are more visual orientated than girls when it comes to checking out. Actually a rather interesting point she brought up was that in her experience, straight girls tend to look more at other straight girls as a means of comparison e.g. how thin/beautiful is she.
In this way gay guys hit a double whammy of cruising - we lust after cute male bodies, but we also want those bodies to be our bodies. Now a straight guy may want to fukc a fantastic girl but he doesn't want to look like her. With me when I see a hot guy I want to fuck him AND look like him. I get lustful and jealous. Anybody expeienced this?
But no DD, I don't think straight guys are dumb in this respect, I just think they are not living in our sexual univserse.

d

[mrplayfuluk]

I'm the same as Parkwings. My fantasies are largely man on man, but on the street or out and about my eyes are drawn to women virtually exclusively. I've often tried to figure this out but it maybe because i am in the bicurious wating room still and when I look at at women my past sexual adventures mean i see them in sexual way. Not having had any adult sexual experience with guys yet means its harder to look at straight guys and imagine... Perhaps when I let loose with another guy it might be different. if only biguys had Bidars!!! Now there's an idea......

[DiamondDog]

if only biguys had Bidars!!! Now there's an idea......

Actually some bisexuals do!

I know that for myself I can easily tell if a person is bisexual or gay and they can tell if I am too.

This includes even if we're not in a "gay" space and even then it's sometimes even more obvious even if no sexual words are spoken.