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  1. #1

    Why does this happen during anal play?

    I have always wondered why does this happen, either with a dildo or getting fucked in the ass. I notice everytime I penetrate my ass my penis starts to shrink dramaticly and becomes smaller than when I'm not hard. I can be hard and it just starts to shrink. I enjoy playing with my dildo or having my transsexual friends do me a lot. Does any one know why does this happen or if it happens to them?

  2. #2

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    there can be a couple of reasons.... the one that is most likely, is that the position you are in, is restricting the blood flow to your penis... the other option is nerve damage to your spine and that is again, a positional thing....

    try doggie style and then flat on your back and get somebody to massage your prostate..... if you get a electric shock type feeling, its nerve damage......
    The only thing more painful than a broken heart, is catching yourself in your zip and having very cold hands

  3. #3

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Well it's only when I get penetrated. When I'm the one doing the penetrating to a partner I stay hard, or even when I masturbate i can stay hard. It's only when I get something in my ass.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    When I get penetrated , I get harder than hell . If he lasts long enough , I will cum like gang busters . Doggie style works best for me .

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Have had the same thing happen, it is all about relaxing. Once you get penetrated you need to relax, maybe have your partner stroke you while on your back after he enters you, this in most cases will get you hard again. Call it redirecting your attention.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Or, have a wonderfully talented mouth on your cock as you are being penetrated. That's great fun too, and I'm sure it would keep you hard..:} This can be done while you have your heels on a person's shoulders, or in a nice 69 position while being entered from the back.
    Either or, its all good..:} (Is it gettin' warm in here???) lol
    Cat
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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    dear me....very nice Cat....all that you describe is great and fortunately I have been able to have those experiences...69 while being entered from the back I haven't experienced yet actually, but I have been the one underneath the person being entered from the back and had a wonderful time orally with both him and her....love being sucked as I'm being penetrated too; it's exquisite and when orgasm time arrives....not enough words...yes, it's definitely gettin' warm in here.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cherokee_Mountaincat View Post
    Or, have a wonderfully talented mouth on your cock as you are being penetrated. That's great fun too, and I'm sure it would keep you hard..:} This can be done while you have your heels on a person's shoulders, or in a nice 69 position while being entered from the back.
    Either or, its all good..:} (Is it gettin' warm in here???) lol
    Cat
    Last edited by ErosUrge; Jul 12, 2013 at 1:01 AM.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Quote Originally Posted by Cherokee_Mountaincat View Post
    Or, have a wonderfully talented mouth on your cock as you are being penetrated. That's great fun too, and I'm sure it would keep you hard..:} This can be done while you have your heels on a person's shoulders, or in a nice 69 position while being entered from the back.
    Either or, its all good..:} (Is it gettin' warm in here???) lol
    Cat
    It, at least to me is as Cat and Indy say. When I have a cock in my ass it feels so good that unless I have a mouth on my cock all of my attention is on the fantastic feeling in my ass. My dick goes soft. Although I have had it so good that I have cum with a soft cock, and I always have anal orgasms. If I am 69ing while being topped or pegged I get harder that normal.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    All these sound like good ideas, I haven't had the opportunity to actually have more than one partner at the time. I do know this though I enjoy the hell out the penetration that when I cum and dick is small the cum is a lot but its always more watery than when I the giver its a thicker more concentrated load. That's another thing I'm wondering why it happens.
    I have seen on a lot of gay and ts (my fave ) pornos that the receivers cock has the same shrinking reaction as I do though :o

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Happens to me too I always thought it was the prostate making me go soft or just the thought of fucking my ass and working a different area and blood flow changes

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Happens to me all the time. As soon as my hole if full I go flaccid and very small. But it feels good and I do cum. The only time it will stay hard is if I am getting sucked as I get fucked

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    when i get penitrated my cock also goes semi soft but i still cum large amounts even larger than normal.

  13. #13

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Welcome my son, to sexuality.

    The same thing has always happened to me, whether being penetrated or performing oral sex on a woman...
    I enjoy these things intensely... and lose my erection... which I've learned is okay/no problem - I'll get it back up when necessary.

    It just happens... and these are the reflections of an old man over 50. Going way back into my 20s (remembering the same issues). Dunno why... it just happens. That's okay.

    Best wishes and many normal and alternate orgasms to you!
    Blue

  14. #14

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    It happens to me. 69-ing with another during anal sex (getting sucked) keeps it hard or harder anyway...not sure why, but I can still top and fuck a woman before or after anal sex, so it's doesn't bother me.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    I have trouble not being stiff, and we have found that if I have my Aneros in it makes me stiff enough that we can do it. The first time our boyfriend made me let him do it to me I got stiff as hell as soon as he was in. I always get stiff when one of the Men is doing it up my ass. It makes me cum over and over every time they put it all the way in, too, sometimes so many times that it leaves my balls sore.

  16. #16

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Is going soft a problem? I mean, if you are with only one partner, and he's fucking your ass then you don't need to be hard, do you? If you are enjoying receiving and he is enjoying giving, then just go with it. Alas, if this is a problem try what others have suggested, like different positions. Maybe different sized (i.e. smaller) dildos might change something. Good luck and please let us know what works for you.

  17. #17

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    certain muscles have to be tight to hold blood in the penis, to take an object up your butt, they have have to loosen.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Interesting. I would also go soft while being ass fucked. I agree with the poster who said he was concentrating on the wonderful sensations going on in his ass. That's what I figured caused it. Never really a problem so I didn't give it much thought. I always take note while looking at anal sex porn. Many of the fuckees are also soft or at least noticeably less then fully hard.
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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    if I have my ass full I get soft but if only in a little way I stay hard. I always thought with my ass full it blocked the blood from getting to my cock.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    I've found the same thing to be true, unless I'm doing very rigorous masturbation at the same time or receiving oral from someone at the same time as I'm getting anal from another.

    Don't have a clue why... but it IS an interesting problem to find a solution for!

  21. #21

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    I think it's natural - my body reacts the same way with anal play - anal stimulates a different kind of orgasm..one more like what I think women might feel.

    Also just saying, it may be soft - but it's still very pleasurable.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    I may go soft but once I feel that hot load in my ass it doesn't take long to orgasm myself.
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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    I find that I go soft as soon as my asshole is touched. I find that this happens because all of my sexual feelings are then focused to to that area only. Used to piss off my wife something terrible. She was convinced that it was because, somewhere deep down, I did not like it. Quite the contrary, I absolutely love my ass played with.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Quote Originally Posted by Crowbarsal View Post
    I have always wondered why does this happen, either with a dildo or getting fucked in the ass. I notice everytime I penetrate my ass my penis starts to shrink dramaticly and becomes smaller than when I'm not hard. I can be hard and it just starts to shrink. I enjoy playing with my dildo or having my transsexual friends do me a lot. Does any one know why does this happen or if it happens to them?
    It happens with me when i use my dildos or vibrators very frustrating.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    Quote Originally Posted by elian View Post
    I think it's natural - my body reacts the same way with anal play - anal stimulates a different kind of orgasm..one more like what I think women might feel.

    Also just saying, it may be soft - but it's still very pleasurable.
    I have totally the same opinion. The anal orgasm or amazing anal play depends on type of stimulation etc.

  26. #26

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    It's a positional thing for me. I'm best on my back with my heels in the air. Then I can fuck myself with a dildo til the cows come home, and stay hard to the point of almost cumming hands free. If I stick my dildo to my 60 pound dumbell, and position it so I can squat on it, I have more trouble staying hard. I have to keep after it or it won't happen. Heels in the air, I can stay hard as a rock without touching my cock. So therefore, that's what I do most often. Plus then, when I do cum, I can use my free hand to scoop it all up and eat it all up!

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    I've never figured out why this happens. I've been as hard as a rock before a guy gets his dick in me and the moment he does, I've gone soft despite still being very much aroused. I suspect that the initial discomfort of being penetrated might cause a disconnect but I can neither prove nor disprove this. I've been hard, got penetrated and gone soft, and unless my dick is getting some attention - by myself, him, or whoever happens to be there - I'll stay soft but the thing that bakes my noodle is that there have been a few and rare times when the dick has gone in and I'm still nice and hard... and I have no explanation for it at all. For example, I was in the shower and washing my junk and my dick got nice and hard and, well, since I was all nice and soapy, slid a finger into my ass... and my dick got soft even though working my finger in and out of my ass felt heavenly and my boner didn't come back until I started jerking off.

    And I'll be damned if I know why; I've never known why. I just know it happens.

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    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    As a top most of the bottom men I have had the pleasure of fucking go soft quickly after penetration. I recently start flip fucking with my favorite bottom and if he fucks me before I do him I stay hard as a rock so yes, there are some men who can stay erect during a fuck. My absolute favorite thing is to make a guy cum hands-free just from the prostate stimulation I m giving him.

  29. #29

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    I normally go soft when being fucked, but not always.

    If the top is hitting the right spot (rarely happens) then I get hard as hell even if there isn’t enough lube and I’m hurting!!

    In three ways or group sex if you have a cock down your throat, a cock up your ass and a mouth around your cock then your body just goes with the flow!

  30. #30

    Re: Why does this happen during anal play?

    If my husband gets no extra stimulation he can get soft but if he is rocking with it or backing up onto it he stay hard.

    And, the more stimulation my husband gets the harder he gets such as: cock in anal hole, cock in mouth, or the visual of a cock fucking him (mirrors, video, or position he is in), verbal talk to him about what is taking place, what I am seeing, feeling, or doing or what is begin done to him, you know detailed descriptions, and last but one of the most important - I am going to let you all in on a secret. Squeeze the butt. When doing my husband or when helping a cock do my husband I squeeze massage, knead, spread, open, and squeeze his butt while feeling around the cock that is fucking whichever hole. I do not care how many times he has cum himself he will get rock hard again. I know I am the same, when taking it vaginally or anally and my butt gets squeezed, amazing things happen! Perhaps that is why I love dp so much.
    Last edited by wifekinky4husband; Apr 3, 2021 at 5:42 AM.

 

 

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