Sexually Frustrated Married Men

[KDaddy23]

I was telling my protege last night - and because of an article on Quora he shared on me about how to catch a married man cheating to have sex with men - that in my teen years - 13-19 - I had quite a bit of sex with sexually frustrated married men and men between the ages of 40 and 50 and from middle class to upper middle class. I found them to be... better partners than the single guys I'd have sex with and easier to get along with because few of them had an agenda other than being able to slake their lust for dick. More bottoms than tops and the majority of them were amazing cocksuckers and I'll even say "desperate" enough to go this route in order to be able to have sex when their wives weren't having any of it. As far as the cheating part went, I'd said to my protege that if a guy is left hung out to dry sexually and getting some M2M action is what's called for, they're going to do whatever they have to do and some of those guys I'd slept with said that being able to sleep with a man - and not have to go through all that crap women put men through - is worth the price of a divorce and gaining his freedom to have sex as he wants to.

And I mentioned that I'd often have very strong impressions that the wives of these men knew that they were getting some dick action and said nothing because they guy was still taking care of things.

[Lucky 61]

Has anyone had any luck with Sniffies to find willing playmates?

[Jozyxt]

married guys needing service are the BEST,

I am still looking for a cocksucker that is convenient. A great BJ is a great thing , but a convenient cocksucker who can provide frequent OK BJs is great too. Convenience means hosting nearby and able to work with my schedule. I could really use one right now.

[wifekinky4husband]

My situation is somewhat similar. I love my wife and we have a great relationship but here sex drive is pretty low post-menopause. I have an absolute need to have more sexual release than she provides so I get it by masturbating - almost exclusively to gay porn. And I want to go beyond that and have a FWB but I'm not willing to ruin my marriage to have that. I'm OK with that because REALLY enjoy masturbating - the point of frustration is that my wife expects me not to masturbate at all. I'd love advice on how to have that conversation with her!

You do what my husband did when I went through my slump. We were 100% monogamous and had gone through a great beginning of the marriage. If either of us asked the other for something, we had to be willing to go the extra mile and be able to do it ourselves. We are always very upfront. Then I hit a very long slump. It was horrible. I had almost no desire for sex. We never figured out why. During that time my husband learned to take eat cum, take cum straight from his penis, play anally on himself, purchased toys, used them on himself, eventually learning to totally gang bang himself with loads of playthings and eat more cum in a day than I could in a week. Yeah, he learned he could come A LOT doing all of this. It got so that I had to triple check before I opened the front door or walked in with someone, he might be getting it on as we walked in (and yes that happened more than once). That?s actually how we eventually started opening up to having sex with others but that took a lot more time and many years down the road with a lot of patience and hard work. He knew my history and even in my slump it was very entertaining to watch. I could probably sale his videos for a decent amount. So like you ? phalluster, my husband learned over time to be one heck of a masturbator enjoying it a great deal. He was okay with my slump after a while. We continued working on me and one day over time I came out of it, no rhyme or reason.

I have had so many friend male and female ask me for input on similar situations. My advice varies at times but overall it?s: be upfront, open, honest, you just have spit it out. My husband did everything out in the open. Yes I was stunned by a few things walking in on it but I got the message loud and clear ? get my act together because the train is not slowing down because of me. He married me for sex. I married him for sex. We could have been roommates and best friends without the sex and had a great life, but we felt the need to more of a commitment and we wanted all the sex it offered. Then stuff happened, who knows why. I can no more ask him not to have sex if I am not interested than I can ask him to stop breathing. That?s ludicrous.

Dozens of friends, years later, all still together, all worked it out. How do you have that conversation with her? You flat out tell her. You do not offer enough sex for in our marriage so I am willing to tend to it myself. If you are not interested in me masturbating then what better solution are you offering me? Is she okay with porn? That can be the main issue for most wives. Either way that discussion is one you will have to have as well. I?d rather my husband watch a group of gay men live having sex than porn. There are many psychological reasons but mainly the rewiring of the brain. All one has to do is run tests to prove it. Okay back on telling your wife. I remember when I told my husband I wanted to go to our neighbor?s sex part and watch them have sex. He was stunned. When I told him that is was mainly to watch the men have bisex, he was floored. He knew my past and it is my life, of course he told me that.
Ask your wife to offer you solutions. Sex dolls? Sex toys? Machines? Surrogate sex? Massage sex? Another woman? Okay no women, what about men? Eventually couples have gone there. Some spouses handle it well, other freak, just remind them ? They Have a Choice. Sounds like your wife will choose the masturbation.

Okay so now I am going to vent. How dare a spouse expect their mate to not have sexual release! What the HECK do they think the sex was in the beginning of the marriage? I?m sorry but they are just plain idiots with their heads stuck up their keisters. Dumb arses. Step up or step out of the way and let your mate have the freedom to do WHAT you Refuse to Do. Again?. dumb arses.

[wifekinky4husband]

My wife and I are a bisexual married couple and while we have a decent sex life she's never been able to match my sex drive so I am allowed to enjoy men as well. All of my regular, recurring partners are sexually frustrated married men, the majority of which have wives that have ended their sex lives. Most of them over the years have had some man to man sex experiences and enjoyed them but for many those experiences were many years ago. The fact that I host frequently and have an understanding wife makes meeting easier and I have rarely met anyone that didn't want to come back as often as they can. I'm a top who deeply enjoys pleasuring a partner and knowing how hungry for sex, affection and the release of a good orgasm they are, I'm able to give them that and that makes us both happy. The facts that I am very careful about making sure that I stay disease-free and can provide them with a good experience seems to relax them eventually and allow them to enjoy their time with me and get what many of them have longed for, often for years or decades. It's a mutually beneficial arrangement.

What I have never been able to get my head around is how many women out there quit on sex, often at surprisingly early ages. What the hell is wrong with these girls? Sex is one of the great joys of life and I have always thought that it's cruel to expect someone to live with you and care for you and yet deny them such a basic need.

100% agree. I fought my way through it to get back to desiring sex. It is doable and there are so many alternate ways to keep your relationship strong when the imbalances occur. I think so many humans have gotten to apathetic. We need a new love revolution!

Btw I am messaging you so we do not hijack the thread.

Kudos to you good sir! I wonder how many wives' might wake up if they say their man enjoying sex again...???

[wifekinky4husband]

@Rest85: In my experiences, guys who want to get with you aren't always obvious about it. The thing you never want to do is to guess incorrectly about a guy so the best thing to do is to engage him in some way - usually a conversation - and feel him out. That's a process that takes time; it depends on how you - or the other guy - reacts to a stranger getting in each other's personal space and striking up a conversation; I have had guys just come up to me and tell me that they want to take me to bed... but that's the exception rather than the rule.

Like, those sexually frustrated men whose lawns I cut? The first guy just... talked to me. Nothing specific other than how he wanted his grass cut. Then asking me about school and hobbies; innocent stuff that's disarming... for most. But I'd had older men hit on me and I recognized that this guy was going somewhere; I was sure about where he was going and, well, what to say if he asks? It took him over an hour of "casual conversation" before he asked me what I thought about gay people and men who have sex with each other. I could have acted like a little bitch and offended but I got the sense I could trust him but listened as he told me about his sex life with his wife - not all that satisfying - but he found pleasure with men. Was that something I might be interested in?

I sucked him off - and revealed that I knew more about this than he may have thought - and he sucked me off. The next week, he fucked me and I did him. It was great but I did have sympathy for him because I'd met his wife and she wasn't one of the nicest people I'd ever met. Even when he recommended my... services to his friends, they didn't come right out and ask for sex but pretty much tip-toed around the subject - and I was happy to let them because, for me, it was a win/win: I was getting paid for the work I was doing (and handsomely) and, at the least, giving and getting blowjobs from guys who were just like the original guy: Horny, frustrated, and getting some dick was the answer.

Approaching a guy who gets your attention is... iffy. So many unknowns and, usually, you might have to have multiple conversations with a guy before you can really start to feel him out and however you decide to do that. I would say that if a guy approaches you and starts talking about anything, be cautious... but give him a listen, you know, if you have the time to. There are a gazillion sexually frustrated married men out there who might be interested in ending that frustration with another man... but the discovery process - and being receptive - has always been iffy.

You are so correct, there are so many sad situations out there. We could have dozens if not hundreds of men in our sex group if it were not married coupled only. It is pretty easy to recognize them once you develop that skill.

[wifekinky4husband]

I'm married to a beautiful woman and we have sex 3-5 times a week. I'm frustrated only because I want to enjoy having sex with a guy too. No, my wife will not go for it. I just want to be able to enjoy playing with a guy as much as I love fucking my wife. There are things that I can get from another man that I can't from my wife (receiving a good bj, getting fucked and sucking a dick). Not to mention the rush from sneaking around.

LOL - Oh my Goodness, you sound like me selling this to my husband. In the beginning he kept asking, "Why do you want ME to do it? You have everything I need and want. Why on earth would I do any of that?" My response, "I do not have a penis, you have no idea what it is like for me to suck a guy off. You can't share in the experience until you do it. And shooting off into your own mouth is not the same as having several back to back Fing your mouth and filling you with load after load of fresh cum. You have no idea what I have done, what it is like. Yes you have me to put your penis inside, any of my holes but as much as we can pretend and as good as it feels for us to F you in you a** there is nothing like the real deal bareback cumming inside you unloading filling you up especially one after another. The orgasms you have now will be multiplied 100 fold. I guarantee!" Over time watching, being around other bicouples, slowly beginning to play here and there, then pinning him down and pressing the issue, he gave in. The man is as good as me now in both areas. But no sneaking around - be careful with that. Trust lost is a nightmare to regain.

[wifekinky4husband]

I really appreciate the responses and they validate my thinking.
I should clarify a couple of details that are pertinent given the responses. She has not cut me off completely - we have sex once every week or 2 and when we do we both enjoy it. She has never explicitly told me that she expects me not to masturbate, but anyone who has been married to the same person for more than 30 years has a pretty good idea what their partner is thinking. Of course I could be wrong but I think if I told that I masturbate every day it would not go over well, and especially not if I told her it is almost always to gay porn.

You need to let her know how much more sex you desire. I would be careful with regards to the porn though.

[wifekinky4husband]

I know what you mean by having an idea for what your partner is thinking. But perhaps what you observe is not everything your wife is thinking.

Why don't you try masturbating in front of her during sex. I know nothing of your sex life, but have found that shaking things up is a good way to keep the sex lively,

I agree!

Don't hide it. Don't feel that you should. You're married for goodness sakes. Let her know, invite her to watch but she is going to want to know you are thinking about her so you better practice on that.

[bibliss]

Married men are indeed beautiful human beings. I believe strongly that married men can remain committed -- in the most positive sense of that term -- to their loving relationship with their wives -- and still embrace their bisexual erotic nature.

[DD788Snipe]

Married men are indeed beautiful human beings. I believe strongly that married men can remain committed -- in the most positive sense of that term -- to their loving relationship with their wives -- and still embrace their bisexual erotic nature.

I completely agree but women have a hard time with that. Not all but most.

Kinkywife I wish all wives had the same understanding as you do. Your husband is a very lucky man. I'm envious.

[Tight1-4u]

Ok I must admit that I probably have not expressed well how this all makes me happy to see and hear others talking about these great men.. I am going to try and explain how I feel about all this.. and why I feel it is so important that others view it kinda the same way..
I feel very strongly that I provide not only sex to these men.. but marriage counseling and sex counseling.. let me explain: by the time these guys come to me for sex.. things at home usually have gotten very strained and stressful.. they are at wits end trying to figure out what is going on.. they can’t understand why they have been cut off.. they probably have done a lot of sole searching to figure out how they can make it better.. they have a lot of stress and strain and built up frustration as well as cum.. the situation at home is stressful.. they are moody and sexually angry!!! So things in their eyes is falling apart.. they are imploding from the inside.. they don’t know what to do.. it seems like what ever they do is wrong.. and being in that mood thing just seem to be getting worse..
enter me.. when they first come to me you can most times see, feel the tension.. so after having sex with me and unloading all the backed up cum in me they leave feeling just a bit odd.. they just unloaded a lot of stress and strain and realized they are relaxed.. something they haven’t felt in a long time.. so they feel kinda weird about it.. then in a few days they feel stressful again.. so they call and want to unload again.. that is when they learn that I am excited to hear from them, excited to see them again, excited to have sex with them again., they like that.. when they show up the next time I am naked and ready., I drop to my knees and go to work getting them ready for sex.. I always tell them that I am sub so you be in charge.. do to me how and what you like!!! Again they unload all their stress and strain in me.. they even kinda start smiling.. as time goes on and they come to me to unload you can see a change come over them.. they smile more, their moods are better, they get a spring in their step.. you can tell their is more good in their days than not.. somewhere along the line their wives notice the change too.. things are better at home.. now this change takes time.. but I provide a place where he is wanted,, I am excited to see him,, I am excited to have sex with him.. now he feels good about himself.. at some point his wife notices and feels good about the change.. soon they don’t need me anymore.. which I must admit at first was kinda hard for me because I wasn’t seeing him as much if at all.. but then I realized that in some small way I gave him what he needed at the time.. I would say that 98% of the guys I have had sex with have patched things up at home.. I would say that is good!!!

[KDaddy23]

I think that the plight of sexually frustrated married men isn't really understood until a guy becomes one. I've always found it interesting that when you leave a man to his own devices - he's at his wit's end dealing with a wife who won't have sex with him - having sex with a guy just seems to be the thing that has to be done and provide they don't turn to another woman for it and running the risk of eventually getting cut off again. When I got married, I was... floored by the many men and women who wanted to have sex with me and many of them just happened to not want to have sex with me before I was married! Now, I've always been bisexual so it's not like I had to change anything about myself but I've been with a lot of SFMMs that I understand why we're having sex and what has led him to this moment. Sometimes it can be like therapy or counseling because I've - again - learned why we're doing whatever and if they're feeling some regret about it - and, sometimes, they do - then it just makes sense to ask them what would make things better at home for them or if they think the marriage can be salvaged in this respect and sometimes they're able to get things at home back on track... and sometimes not and now divorce is the only solution.

Still, married men are quite prized...

[wifekinky4husband]

I completely agree but women have a hard time with that. Not all but most.

Kinkywife I wish all wives had the same understanding as you do. Your husband is a very lucky man. I'm envious.

Yes I do not get the majority of women. They all need a swift kick in the derriere. Why the heck do they marry you guys in the first place? They can have friends, companions even, they can share a home, even have kids (no sex), but for the sex I know I wouldn’t have married. Yes I went through a slump but we still found a way to make it work. It’s so simple to me, if I am not going to give it up to my man then he needs to get it somehow: masturbate, dildos, sex toys, machines, devices, dolls, I’d rather him get sucked off by a group of men than a single woman. I know he will never do it but I’d rather him F men in the a** than a single woman. I’d rather him have group sex period over one on one sex with anyone. Honestly I would prefer he get F ed in the a** and suck cock than anything. It is less threatening to me. Spit roasted is amazing top watch and I’d be 1000% fine with that all day long everyday on him if I wasn’t providing sex.

I am not the only wife who fills this way. In our group all the wives feel this way except maybe the newest, they haven't matured yet.

[KDaddy23]

Yeah, it's not unusual for women to feel the way wifekinky feels about it. Better hubby get his jollies with other guys than to seek them with another woman because she's right and more so when you ask your woman that is she's not going to have sex with you, who's supposed to... and her answer is, "No one is." And if you don't like it, all you can do is not like it... and this mentality is exactly why men cheat on their woman and if it's with a guy, well, maybe he wouldn't have gone there if girlfriend was giving it up to begin with.

And, yeah, a lot of women need a few swift kicks in the derriere because there's a good chance they're going to find out what a sexually frustrated man is going to do about that and, yeah, they really have no idea - or doesn't care - how this frustration is very damned unhealthy for him and in a great many ways.

[wifekinky4husband]

Yeah, it's not unusual for women to feel the way wifekinky feels about it. Better hubby get his jollies with other guys than to seek them with another woman.

Exactly! He can F all the women we wants in our group but I am not about any of this one on one mess. Oh and I am right there supervising - lol! :0

Sorry for the misspells earlier and typos. I was tired and didn't catch them before it would no longer let me edit.

[wifekinky4husband]

when you ask your woman that is she's not going to have sex with you, who's supposed to... and her answer is, "No one is." And if you don't like it, all you can do is not like it... and this mentality is exactly why men cheat on their woman and if it's with a guy, well, maybe he wouldn't have gone there if girlfriend was giving it up to begin with.

Totally! We apparently live in a very liberal area sexually - somehow, I am not certain how everyone sort of migrated here. I've never had neighbors so openly talk about sex, marital problems (sexual most of the time), and kinks - oh my goodness at the kinks. Crazy! With all that said, I can tell you so many stories of people in our area one after another of the lazy to the crazy. It's sad but also fires me up when a young wife says, "I don't get why he is cheating on me." I ask point blank - do you F him? A lot? All the time? All over the place? In ways and manners unbecoming of an unmarried woman? lol. Yes I laugh. Do you do oral, anal, toys, bend over, bend him over, oral/anal, finger, masturbate, yes I can get very graphic with them. The dumber they act or the more innocent the more I pour it own. It down right irks me. 7 out of 10 are lazy ladies who don't want their men to have fun sex with them or anyone else. Grrrrrrrr - and this is not the I'm turn on Grrrrrrr, this is the I wanna smack the beeeegheebeees our of them. There needs to be major marital sex training centers all over the place to train couples on how to have good sex - oh my goodness. I get bad marriages can stem from other issues but I still have yet to find one that has not overcome everything as long as the sex was stupendous! My man has proven he will do ANYTHING for me because our sex is that good. Seriously, the man sucks cock for me, drinks as much cum as I do if not more, and takes it up his backside like a cowtown whore being rode like a bronco. He would never in a million years do any of this had it not already been amazing. He'd be out whoring with the women. The man loves women, loves me but does some pretty incredible things because I have always seen to it that our sex was good, even when I went through rough patches myself.

[wifekinky4husband]

And, yeah, a lot of women need a few swift kicks in the derriere because there's a good chance they're going to find out what a sexually frustrated man is going to do about that and, yeah, they really have no idea - or doesn't care - how this frustration is very damned unhealthy for him and in a great many ways.

Preach it! The last little neighbor girl who came crying about how her man was having sex with someone else got preached at by me. After asking her a lot of questions, she wouldn't suck him, jerk him off, only gave it up vaginally in three positions, and wanted nothing to do with his anal toys or any toys. She said, he doesn't need any of that or really want it.

Come to find to find out, a gay couple suck and F him almost daily. They like him so much they want to bring him into their home. That girls hasn't a clue what her man wants. I know the couple and they are extremely sexual, we had even considered inviting them to our group. They give off an amazing vibe. I told them they should let her walk in on a nice spit roast of her husband. Oh but now I'm being mean.

[KDaddy23]

Here's the question I've asked both men and women: "If you're not having sex with your partner, who's supposed to and more so when you know that having sex is part of being in the relationship?" The usual answer is, "Nobody is!" and then I got to point out to them that if they're being cheated on, well, now you know why it happened. Too many women find out the hard way what can happen when they leave their man to his own devices and how withholding sex will put him between a rock and a hard place and the next thing they know, he's having sex with someone like Tight1-4U because he's willing to do what his woman refuses to do. In your example, the girl didn't have a clue about what her man wanted... because it wasn't about him: It was all about her and what she wasn't going to do and her... limited view on the many ways a couple can have sex and keep it all in the relationship.

Spit-roasting her hubby and she getting an eyeful of that is... mean but it would drive a lesson home to her if she's smart enough to learn it... and I don't get the feeling that she is. The message is, however, that if a woman puts her man into a position where he becomes sexually frustrated, whatever happens next is going to be something that she's seriously not going to like and will, very likely, destroy the relationship - and that it didn't have to be like that and the preventative solution was relatively simple: Have sex with the man and have a sense of adventure while you're at it. If the worst happens, you can bet anything you want to that she'll put all the blame on him and will not accept any of the blame and, sadly, that's pretty typical.

[KDaddy23]

I have sucked and fucked a lot of sexually frustrated men and, usually, all because their woman refuses to have sex with them and doesn't much care about the consequences of her inactions...

[wifekinky4husband]

If the worst happens, you can bet anything you want to that she'll put all the blame on him and will not accept any of the blame and, sadly, that's pretty typical.

This is also the consistent conclusion I have witnessed. I will reach out to the poor thing and talk again. I hate whining, even more so when the person has the ability to do something about it so I get very snippy. I think a good day out in the sun at the pool with our ladies (always nude & always talking sex) might wake her up. She might not know how fun sex is and hopefully seeing other ladies who love it might help. If it does I'm going to send her a bill for therapy - lol.

[wifekinky4husband]

I have sucked and fucked a lot of sexually frustrated men and, usually, all because their woman refuses to have sex with them and doesn't much care about the consequences of her inactions...

I think all you guys who do this and know this should post all this on those wife whining sites where the women post about how their husband always want sex sex sex sex sex.

Somebody needs to wake these women up!

[Tight1-4u]

I have sucked and fucked a lot of sexually frustrated men and, usually, all because their woman refuses to have sex with them and doesn't much care about the consequences of her inactions...

Too many women find out the hard way what can happen when they leave their man to his own devices and how withholding sex will put him between a rock and a hard place and the next thing they know, he's having sex with someone like Tight1-4U because he's willing to do what his woman refuses to do.
KDaddy: thank you I could have not said it better myself.. I love my guys.. they deserve better.. I love giving them what they want and need.. I love being sub,, it amazes me that most of my guys have never really been in a situation where they are in control.. when I have sucked them hard and gotten them ready to fuck me.. given them the lube to get us ready and are at the point of no return ( lol ) and tell them they are in charge,, most times I get kinda a blank stare look like they are confused.. they are not sure what to do.. so I explain to them that they are in charge.. do me how you want.. do to me what you want.. they will but be asking is it ok if I do this.. I just say yes please do what you want.. like I said before when they have unloaded in me I kiss them deeply and thank them for fucking me and giving me their stress and strain and built up cum.. tell them that they did good that I really enjoyed them being in me.. that I am excited to see them again and have them in me.. most of the time they have a confusing look on their face.. but smile and say they feel better.. it usually takes 2-3 sessions before they really get the idea that they are in charge.. that I want to please them.. and that they are pleasing me.. I love these guys!!! I love seeing the changes they go through.. both mentally and sexually... I love watching them go from almost timid sexual men to strong powerful sexual men.. large and in-charge!!! I think that most of their wives have never seen or experienced their men being strong powerful sexual men.. again thank you KDaddy!!!

[KDaddy23]

@Tight1-4u, you're the one to be thanked for what you've said about this and bringing some important awareness to this most troubling problem a lot of men wind up having to deal with. I know that when "a lot" of married men were hitting on me for sex, at first, I couldn't figure it out because they're married and it's a wife's duty to fuck her husband but then I would learn that wives, for many reasons, shirk and avoid this and while those men weren't of a mind to have sex with another woman, they were quite eager to have sex with me and other guys. Sometimes it wasn't about me blowing them or them fucking me - they wanted to suck me off and wanted me to fuck them because, as one man said, it was the kind of sex that he couldn't get from any woman and that made sense. And it is to note that some of those frustrated men I encountered were experiencing sex with a guy for the first time, which got me to wondering what makes a guy who's sexually frustrated decide that having sex with another man is the solution to his problem. Some, as it would be discovered, were getting back to letting this side of themselves out to play after a long time being "stuck in the house" but, yeah, you get a man sexually frustrated and left to his own devices and, well, wives who aren't giving it up to their man will be the ones with a very serious problem.

[papasmurph]

I am fascinated how the word gets around... as @KDaddy23 and a couple other guys described. KDaddy has always been quite confident in his sexuality and able and willing to share his knowledge and his stories with us. I just can't imagine this word getting around so that one guy mentions it to another guy and then, that guy contacts you...and your group grows. I've never engaged with a neighbor or a friend, or had a conversation that went that far... I've tried. I once danced around the topic when a young man came to install a front door on my house. I really can't believe how bold I was but without coming right out and saying - do you want a blow job? he knew what I was suggesting, and he said no thanks... it was OK, though - very calm response.
I've put the word out on various places and have had some hits. I can host during the day three days per week - and I"ve had a couple guys stop by - one repeated a visit a few times. All married. All just regular guys. I enjoy this a lot. I get a rush from it even if I get nothing in return. Usually, with these guys I do not get anything in return, either.

[Tight1-4u]

Papasmurph: I don’t know about anyone else but for me this all started very innocently.. back like 25 years ago back in the early days of Craigslist.. I was responding to and placing adds to hookup.. back then there were way more tops than bottoms.. so it was kinda easy to find someone to have sex with.. but I noticed there were a lot of married men looking.. at that time I just figured that they were cheating on their wives so I pretty much avoided them.. not wanting to be in any way shape or form in the middle of that.. there were how ever a few guys that kept their marriage to themselves.. and yes we hooked up.. only to later to reveal that they were married.. and explained their situation.. still it took me a while to wrap my head around it all.. and find my way to being open to it all.. so when it kinda all made sense to me I started to place adds about sexually frustrated married men.. it seemed like they came out of the woodwork.. to be honest I was over whelmed.. I certainly was not prepared to handle all the guys that were contacting me.. so I started screening them to try and weed out what I called the players.. guys just looking for an easy hookup.. I realized that there were real guys out there with real frustration.. a lot that were really depressed and confused about their situation.. I was confused about the whole thing.. so I started seeing one or two along the way and would talk to them and ask questions trying to figure out wtf.. so one thing became very clear.. that women weather or not you want to admit it or not control sex!!! They divvy it out like it is gold.. men go from being single and chasing pussy to married and begging for it.. men get caught and the wife is in total control of sex.. then when she cuts it off they think it is their fault.. most go to great lengths to try and figure it out.. as long as they the females see and think that the guy is stressed and suffering in their minds things are fine..
Enter me.. I was already a sub bottom guy.. already knew that I have a female half in me.. loves to have sex with men and be the female in the act.. so the married guys I started seeing came to me very kinda timid repressed.. all I did was enjoy seeing them and being with them.. having sex with them.. enjoying sex with them.. I started noticing that they started being happier more vibrant.. being more in control and less stressed.. and their wives started noticing as well..
so over the years I have kept placing adds but nearly as often as before.. and the guys that have been here over the years also refer guys to me.. so it has all kinda snowballed into what it is today..

[DD788Snipe]

But no sneaking around - be careful with that. Trust lost is a nightmare to regain.

No better truth spoken.

[rascal2014]

I finally understand about being a married frustrated man. My wife lost most desire to let loose during sex several years ago.

I finally met a guy last Monday that was willing to help me be a top. I have some ED at times but he knew how to get me worked up enough to enter him. It was an incredible experience and hopefully I will get to meet up with him again soon. He didn't ask for anything in return. It seemed I was satisfied for the rest of the week. I want to say thanks to all who takes the time to help us old sexually frustrated guys. It was my first time being a too. I had tried once before but the guy didn't understand how to relax.

[KDaddy23]

@papasmurph, the word getting around depends on some stuff and I happened to live in a city where the word on who was sucking dick and other stuff tended to get around pretty quickly because while the rule has been, "I won't tell if you won't," guys do tell other guys about the guy who'll blow or fuck them and I either had the good or bad fortune to be known as that guy who was very cool about it. And the "funny" part is that you never really know who knows you and who might put the word out on you. I had a neighbor who knew a guy I'd gotten with so we could suck each other off and I was talking to him one day while we were both cutting our lawns and he comes right out and says that he heard that I'm good at sucking dick... and would I be interested in helping him out? Being my neighbor, I knew his wife - she was a real piece of work so I wasn't all that surprised that he needed "help" but when I asked him who told him this - and gave the guy's name - I just shrugged and agreed to help him out and more so when it was better than cutting grass.

He then told the guy who lived across the street from us and a guy who I never interacted with other than speaking to him and he's in the same frustrated boat but this time, it didn't take much to figure out who told him. In this way, I learned that I wasn't the only cocksucker in the development and many of those guys were of the sexually frustrated variety. I get that some guys adopt the rule of not shitting where they eat and out of concern over being outed but, nah, I never let that bother me all that much because good sex is where you find it... and sometimes, you don't have to go far to find it.

Still, this situation leaves a frustrated man to his own devices and to the point where he will pretty much do anything to not keep on being frustrated and if that guy knows another frustrated guy, well, he now knows a guy who might be interested in helping him out, too. Where I live now, I'd hooked up with a guy in the development for a quickie blowjob and, yep, he told someone else about me and I did that guy, who turned around and told another guy... and that's just how it can work. In this situation, it becomes a matter of "If you don't mind, it doesn't matter..." and for the sexually frustrated guy, he's probably not going to mind a whole lot; it's not to say that he's gonna run around and blab about what he did with you but, yup, sometimes, it happens and the best advertising ever is... word of mouth.

[Tight1-4u]

KDaddy:sometimes, it happens and the best advertising ever is... word of moutH
Very well said.. most of the guys that I see are or have been referred to me by guys I have had sex with.. the conversation usually starts out... I heard you are the guy!!! So ya word of mouth...