Originally Posted by
Realist
Sterculius wrote: "........for almost 3 years until we graduated and he moved to California"
My first was the day after I turned 14, after we'd discussed it, got to know each other, and I felt safe. I didn't know what to expect, but I wanted it! Because he was much older, I had to convince him I was not a security risk, or one to share secrets easily. Consequently, my first time was sublime!
From the beginning, I was always prone to developing relationships before getting sexually involved. This takes time and effort. Those who often, or only, have sex with strangers, think the way I go about this cuts way down on the number of potential lovers. If shear numbers of encounters is important, I guess they're right. With me, it's not about quantity, but quality. That's just the way I'm geared.
I've often had similar ends to relationships, as Sterculius experienced, especially when I was young and unable to travel on my own. When you're emotionally invested in a relationship, you can't avoid being hurt and longing to be with those from your past.
I wish I could enjoy anonymous encounters with nameless people, but that's not me.
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