Hello, I am a married man from the Midwest USA. My wife has a decreased Sex drive, and I now Love to Suck Cock and Swallow CUM. Just curious, how many other married men Love Sucking Cock, and did your wife's decreased sex drive have anything to do about it ? Thanks, love to chat and make friends. 😎
My wife also has a decreased sex drive. It did not cause me to become bisexual. It just gave me a way to justify having sex with my guy friend.
Here in central Pa is tough to find a decent guy friend! It seems any one else in any the groups or sites are game players or are on the yonder side of BFE!Originally Posted by Ebbtide
I have always been oversexed! My wife not at all, and now we have stopped for many years. My email is cslutt@ymail.com if you want to discuss it! I have always loved to suck cocks!
For me, it was my first wife’s idea that I should check out sucking cock. It was one of the best ideas she ever had. I’ve been a devoted cocksucker since I first put a cock in my mouth. Probably 25 years or so by now n!
I'd love to find a regular to suck off.
No, one doesnt cause the other. My love began long ago and the only thing my wife controls is frequency of extra contact. Sometimes together sometimes apart.
I do not believe a spouse's lack of sex drive leads one to bisexuality and/or cocksucking. This ain't prison. For a no sex marriage, there are other options. But cocksucking is a unique joy unto itself which not even conjugal time with the wife can quite match.
i have been a cocksucker since before i met my wife. so no, our sex life has nothing to do with it. she knows i suck cock , and is ok with it. trouble is , with this virus going around , i can't suck anyone. when this shit is over , i can't wait to be a married cocksucker again !
I had my last moment just prior to the virus hitting, interestingly enough, I twas the first cock I sucked in over two years. Not the greatest moment but not the worst. I just did not really have much interest but once i lowered my mouth over his cock I got that old craving again.
we all get older, that include our spouse. So it is very normal that sex will be less frequent, but that does not mean its time to hand up the pubes from banging each other whenever possible. Now having said that, sucking cock has little to do with a diminished sex drive by the partner. A diminished sex drive just allows more opportunity to do what we already like doing. you do not become bisexual because of her drive dropping. You are bisexual from the get go, its just that you did not open up to the experience to see that you are. some have it more than others when it comes to bisexuality. I don' have the same interest that I once had, probably due to aging, or maybe I am just enjoying my wife to much and just not building that fantasy to reality ratio that I once was overwhelmed to the point I would be arranging meets. Most meets did not pan out and what I did have usually ended up more than once with the same person. I don't intentionally swallow, but that does not mean I haven't done it, there were times when the guy came down my throat and I had no idea I had swallowed until I could taste it. which was not the worst thing I've ever tasted. One thing I can say based on mine and others cum, it all seems to taste and smell very much the same.
What I notice about me, perhaps some also see the same for yourselves, is that there are moments when the craving for cock is so intense I have a need to do it asap. it's a sexually desperate feeling. I used to get fixated on cock, at times I still do, and I would jerk off thinking about it or watching porn to get off. the only problem I encounter is that once I jerk off and cum, the desire for cock sems to dissipate, leaving me with no real drive to suck cock as I once did regardless whether I jerked off, had sex with my wife. there were times she would jerk me off while telling me a story of sucking cock, or she would tell a story about thresomes, mmf mff, one particular one I enjoyed is where she would be watching me and a guy and then join in..she ran the gamut of fantasy and that had me cumming a lot. She knows that I enjoy cock and feel a real strong desire at times and she understand that the only way I can get back to being relaxed is to suck cock. I even have a good sized dildo which she will hold while I suck it, however, over the past few years - nada. we are more having regular sex.. oral, intercourse etc... Once again, the slowing of bisex activities has affected each aspect. Now We are having plenty of sex ( by plenty I mean 3-4x per week, I am still an avid masturbator( have been since I was a teen) it helps keep me relaxed and calm.
What I can say is I enjoy sucking cock and I would like to think I provide an essential service.
As long as this virus continues there is no outside sex. I would not even consider going to any person's place let alone sucking cock. I value our lives more than sex as much as I love sex. Too much at stake to risk everything for an orgasm.
No hurry to suck cock because cocks will always be out there that need to be sucked, on my time. when I am ready.
I haven't sucked a married guy but it seems that there are tons of married guys who are into sucking a guy off. And to know he's sucking a guy behind her back without her knowing a thing that's kinda hot if I ever had the chance to suck a married guy wow how much fun it would be to pleasure him cause his wife can't
I knew I loved sucking cock at 13 so it definitely was before marriage but now not much sex so I’d love to be doing it again
My situation is similar. I don't blame her either or think it made me bi. I've always been oversexed and somewhat kinky but took care of most of my EXTRA needs by jacking off alot or going to ABS gloryholes and getting sucked off. But when she lost all interest I needed to up my game and started sucking cock and getting sucked. I do think the rumor is true that once you suck cock you won't want to quit...at least it true for me. Sucking became my fav method of sex. I have topped and bottomed some now but sucking is still my preferred way to go...except for jacking off and eating my own when I can't find cock.
I use to think I'd just do it awhile and enjoy the taboo of it but I know I'll never stop. Since I've retired and have more time on my hands it has become almost an obsession or at least something I spend a lot of time on. Which is the biggest negative to me. I keep hoping I'll find a buddy near enough to fill the need weekly or at least monthly but I live in a small rural town and not near cities where it might be easier to hook up. I know I am probably too particular about who/where/when but I know it's important to be careful. But, to get back to the married part of the post...it's not just easy to walk out the door and hook up.
I hoped it'd be easier after I told my wife I was interested in sucking cock but she didn't pay much attention or react just said...'I'd don't want to know about it" and when I brought it up again she said she thought that was just a fantasy.
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Purely coincidental, in my case. Our sex drive remained quite high but frequent travel on my part meant that our time together was infrequent. A few performance issues (limp dick, for the most part) led to too much focus on whether or not I could deliver, so we grew less and less physical. She never really enjoyed much more than vanilla, missionary sex, not even cunnilingus. Began to insinuate that my lack of performance meant I was either disinterested or having an affair, neither of which was true (yet).
Then I discovered massage shops, and I got that first male blowjob, and the rest is history....
Yes, my wife completely shut down about 8 years ago...I went about 3 years just jacking off, but couldn't stand it anymore not having some physical contact. Remembered how much I loved sucking cock when I was 7-14 and had given a few random blow jobs, no cum, in bookstores in my 30's, but was too HIV fearful to do a lot...then about 5 years ago I decided, what the hell, I'm going to start sucking cock again. First week I sucked 4 different cocks, and now after swallowing well over 100+ loads I'm loving it! Left wife a month ago (after 20 years) and now living as full-time bi. Actually grateful now that her frigidity pushed me to realize who I am...although I'd love to still eat pussy if it were available, nothing is better than sucking a nice cock and feeling it shoot in your mouth.
- Now 100% openly bisexual...finally. Always looking to suck nice, clean cocks and swallow nice loads PM me here or email; slip4296@gmail.com or wgnorman@gmail.com
Enjoyed cock before marriage. She doesn't know but I have sucked hundreds and hope to do more.
I'm a 42 year veteran of sucking cock. I was in a short relationship with a guy who I would meet and hop in his pickup on the Home Depot parking lot. i would suck him off and both leave happy. The virus has put a temporary halt to it. But by email we're still on when the signal is "all clear".
When my wife lost all interest in things sexual, giving or getting, I initially found other girls to play with fom time to time. Eventually I began to develop my bi side and watched some bi porn and enjoyed especially the oral sex features, not the ass fucking. I took the plunge and let a guy come over to suck my cock and ended up sucking his as well. That opened up the floodgates as I can now enjoy both getting oral from women and men but also give guys great blowjobs.
Same here: I'd love to find someone who want his dick sucked on a regular basis. I know I am good at it ( like you have the skills, but can't find the job, LOL) I live in the Dallas Fort Worth Area. Anybody listening?
I always questioned my sexuality, but had no intentions of ever exploring sex with a man. My wife and I never had an amazing sex life, but it went to having sex only once a year at most. I finally decided that the problem must have been me so I started working to win her interest back. I dropped about 40 lbs and put on about 10 lbs of muscle.
I read in an article that some women are too tired by life to have sex. They have full time jobs and become full time Moms. These two full time jobs don't leave much time to be sultry sex goddess. I started making certain that I was helping to do the house keeping and pitching in with the children. None of the things I was doing changed anything. If anything, it showed my how selfish she was. It soon became an expectation that I would do all of the cooking, laundry and house cleaning. I was the one that drove the kids to all of their activities.
I became really bitter and began to wallow in my situation. I couldn't believe that divorce was my only option. We had been married for 20 years and I felt cheated. I always said that I would never get divorced. It wasn't an option and even though I brought my concerns to my wife, nothing changed. I hated the thought of dating at 43 years old. I was concerned about starting over and having to live in an apartment with no money. I was afraid of the effect that it would have on the kids. With all of this in mind, I found my own selfishness and started looking to have an affair.
I found Adult Friend Finder and started visiting chat rooms and hosting web cam shows. I thought if a woman saw how jacked I had become, then I would be able to find a hookup. Little did I know, there aren't many women on that site. Those that are there aren't looking to have an affair with a married man. However, there were a ton of turned on gay guys. At first, I enjoyed the attention, but had no intention of doing anything with these guys. There was one guy, that I really enjoyed performing for. We grew to be friends and he really helped me understand what it means to be gay. He was patient and caring and made me feel special. I started to fantasize about meeting up with this guy.
I wasn't even sure that I would enjoy sex with a man. I bought a dildo with a suction cup and started to play with it. I absolutely loved it. I loved the sensation of the head of my toy pushing past my ass cheeks and entering me. The toy that I had bought was too big, but with patience and practice, I was able to get it working in and out of me. I began to fantasize about what it would be like to be with a man.
Throughout this "journey" I would reach a milestone and then retreat. I would do something like buy the toy and then become disgusted with myself. I would stop all activity and try to put the genie back in the bottle and ignore my desires. Every time, I would find the desire would well up inside and I would find myself back on the internet. I found an internet forum website called shybi-guys.com and learned that I wasn't alone.
Through discussion with other married men like me, I got more and more courage to actually do something. I met up with a man that I had met on Adam4Adam.com and had a sexual experience. Like all of the times before, I found myself retreating. I was angry with myself. I was disgusted by what I had actually done. More than anything I was beyond angry at my wife for causing me to have to do something like that. It finally gave me the courage to divorce her.
It's been two years since my divorce. I have learned so much since it happened. I learned that divorce sucks, but isn't the end of the world. My kids were affected by the divorce, but survived it and are learning to live in the new normal. I learned that my sexual exploration wasn't my wife's fault. My bisexual side was always there, it just needed to be brought out. She is a selfish, narcissistic bitch and I definitely needed to divorce her, but my bisexuality has nothing to do with her. I have learned that it isn't anything to be ashamed of. My sexual desire is healthy and I am not ashamed of it. I haven't had another encounter since the last one, but I am thinking of trying again.
I know this is a really long response to your question, but I don't think that there is an easy answer to it. I feel that it is probably answered differently by most married men. This is just mine.
Thanks for sharing. I think buried in my history is some shared experience. Now I remember cruising the CL personals and being alternately attracted to and then turned off by all the attention I could attract from gay men. I too ordered and played with toys, only to toss them out in the afterglow of self reproach. I’ve probably left $500 worth of vibes, rubber dongs and prostate probes in hotel rooms around the country!
Ive held on to my sexless marriage by walking a tightrope. If our union ever collapsed, hard to know whether I would devote full time to getting and giving cock, or if I would look to trade up for a 25 yo Asian or Latina hottie. It’s a situation I want to avoid, to be honest.
Very similar situation. The wife's sex drive has steadily decreased and is pretty much non-existent now. If my wife was still sexually active I don't think I'd pursue any kind of MM contact, but I've started thinking about it more and more. Masturbation is great, but doesn't quite meet the need. Kind of like scratching your own back...feels better when someone else does it! Finding a regular JO bud and maybe a suck bud would be ideal. Did her decrease cause it....don't know, but it certainly is playing a part.
I became a cocksucker as a teenager at 15. What began as jerk off sessions with my best friend Larry ultimately evolved into me becoming his eager and willing personal cocksucker. I would give him blowjobs whenever and wherever he wanted, usually every day when we got home from school and occasionally 2 and even 3 times later that same day. He wouldn't reciprocate so I would jerk off and eat my cum as he watched after I'd finished blowing him. This convenient arrangement came to an abrupt end when we graduated and he moved to California to attend Stanford. I've been married twice but I've also been a serial cocksucker all my adult life. I confessed to my current wife a few years ago about having been my best friend's cocksucker. She was surprised but ultimately attributed it to adolescent sexual experimentation which I guess it was. I didn't tell her I still experiment.
Well said
I have had a fascination with cocks since I was a young man. My wife loosing interest in sex gave me the reason to pursue it. Now when I get horny it all can think about.
I’m right there with ya, GmanSam! My side of KY is very difficult to find a good friend!
I was bi curious before I was married and explored some with wife's knowledge and involvement after we got married. When my wife closed up shop I still wanted sex with men and women. While hooking up with a man was fast and easy, the women I met tended to come with a lot of baggage. A 20-30 minute quickie with a guy was enough (at least to start with), but when I was with a woman, hours weren't enough. With a man emotional involvement wasn't an issue (for the most part), but with a woman the friends with benefits idea proved to be a tough line to walk.
Not sure if it is the nature of women or just my default interaction when I'm with a woman, but in the end life has been simpler just enjoying the occasional guy.
I guess what I'm saying is the lack of sex with my wife didn't make me bi (or more bi). It's just that when it comes to having sex on the side I've found men to be easier to find and lower maintenance than women.
I started sucking cock at 13 got my first taste of pussy at 18 but I still love a cock been sucking for 62 years
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