Newbie Dilemma

[Mncurious]

I was home alone for a few hours last night so I figured why start practicing oral. I proceeded to jerk off, came in my hand, rubbed my cum over her dildo then sucked it. It was a very weird feeling and I had a feeling of guilt/remorse after thinking “wtf am I doing, this isn’t “normal” for a guy to suck on a dildo with his own cum over it”. The thoughts that went thru my brain are a result of years of hearing being with a guy is wrong. As the night went on I felt less guilt/remorse, but it freaked me out wondering how much guilt/remorse I’ll feel when it happens for real. Has anyone experienced something similar?

[Jozyxt]

Absolutely.

It is common but varies among people as to just how it occurs. The best advice I can give is to do what you did here, Talk about your feelings. Brining feeling out and putting them into words that are shared with others is the best way to deal with them. Keep posting your experiences and desires and how you feel about them. And ask any questions. Other will have had similar but personally different feelings and experiences and the discussions will help overcome the guilt and shame you might feel.

[Curious_NJ]

I had the same reaction when I watched hard core gay porn to get off. I am new to all this. I haven't done anything with a guy since high school. I have often fantasized about getting fucked in the ass. Yesterday was literally the first time I saw a cock while shopping for toys and I thought yeah I think I could suck that.

[MAcpl69]

Both responses are great advice. I have found talking in the right environment makes me feel less isolated when thinking about my sexual desires. Now that the wife knows, understands and is willing to explore different sexual situations life has been great. Now if we can just get past this covid shit, moving forward should be fun.

[novaguy027]

My dilemma is that I played for years in high school with a regular best friend. Now mid 40’s and want to play again. But I’m married and afraid of getting caught. What to do?!?!?!?

[coleb5791]

We've all been there. Done things that others may think is weird but what secrets and desires do they hide? You'd be surprised. I've gone on KIK, talked dirty, and shared videos back and forth with each of us jacking off and cumming. I felt guilty afterwards and maybe a little weird but we're all looking for new experiences, connections, intimacy, and pleasure.

[coleb5791]

My KIK handle is coleb5791, same as my username here if anyone needs to talk.

[SlowNEZ]

To Mncurious: I can certainly relate to the inner conflicts that you felt after enjoying your body and your sexy fluids last night. You were imagining that your cock and cum were another man’s, and you were enjoying and servicing him.
I believe that the majority of guys, world-wide, look at their cocks in a mirror, and wish they could lick and suck it (or one just like it). But only relatively few can admit that desire.
We, on this site have taken the first step and acknowledged that we have an “unusual” desire to do to another guy, that which feels good to us.
Kick back, relax and enjoy the fantasy of “doing guys”. You’re in good company here.

[KDaddy23]

Yep... that feeling guilty thing... again. What I sometimes ask guys is, "What exactly are you feeling guilty about?" I'll ask them if, say, in your case, were you feeling guilty while sucking on the dildo or did you feel that way after you busted your nut? I've said it probably too many times here: When a guy cums, what's called the refractionary period of sex can land on us like the proverbial ton of bricks and it very much feels like remorse and guilt and, yeah, sometimes even more so when a guy is doing something he "knows" he isn't supposed to be doing. It is easier to taste another guy's cum than it is to taste your own since that period tends to hit hard before the nut even stops flowing; you had it fixed in your mind to taste your own stuff but once you got it out of you, doing so is almost impossible to accomplish. The good news is that it is very possible to get past this moment; the very bad news is that it's not easy to do. Some guys find that they really do have to make themselves taste it even though it's the last thing they feel like doing... and it's really not guilt so much but, again, it sure as fuck feels like it. We kinda don't pay much attention to this feeling when we have sex with women... but we sure as fuck can feel it when we masturbate. It's all good while we're doing it and in the moment we cum, oh, yeah, that's what I'm talking about... and seconds later, you just feel like shit and even guilty and if you were thinking about doing anything else, well, it ain't gonna happen until you can recover.

It's really not what you did with the dildo; it's really your body reacting to you busting a nut.

[boriley]

Ive always thought it would be erotic to cum on a mans cock and then suck him off .....

[Mncurious]

Thank you all for your advice, it’s all very helpful!

[GayGuy04]

Whatever makes you feel good about being with another guy

[dlutzka]

When I play with myself I only think about men and I'm married I was with men before my wife. When I sucked dick I feel girly and I felt weird about it at first but then I loved it. And if I were to get back at it witch I want to very badly I would want to feel girly so hot

[js357]

I feel the same way as well. Married and must be discrete. I also live in southern Virginia.

[Tonycurinmass00]

I did a similar thing. I always lose interest in tasting my cum when I shoot so I shot my load on a plate, waited until I was able to get hard again and then started dipping a dildo in it. I then proceeded to kiss the dildo with the cum on it. Slowly working my way up to putting a lot of cum on it and sucking it off of it. It was such a turn on when doing it. After a while of doing it I poured what was left on the plate directly into my mouth and stuck the dildo back in again! As I was doing this I came again. I can't tell you how turned on I was! But, then it hit....the same feeling you spoke about. The 'what the F am I doing!' feeling. I immediately removed the dildo from my mouth and started to clean up. I remember thinking to myself, I'm never doing that again! But then, a couple days later I feel like I want to try it again. It's very odd and yes, it concerns me over how I'm going to react when I finally get to suck another man to orgasm.

[Sarge72]

.... I always lose interest in tasting my cum when I shoot ....

Tony - Interesting. I get the same exact way, it's so hot to IMAGINE eating my own cum but the moment I cum, I lose interest. Never considered 'saving it' and when hard and aroused again, then eating it. I LOVE licking my precum.

[SilkyHoseLover]

These stories are so familiar. That 'turning off of the switch' that occurs when men orgasm fascinates me. I've been through it myself, and have read about similar experiences dozens of times. I often enjoy the the taboo pleasure of lapping up my own ejaculate, but not every time. I agree with the previous poster(s) who comment about the desirability of pre-cum. I love everything about it -- the slickness as I rub it around on my glans, the texture and the taste.

For a while, I practiced sucking cock with a dildo to tame the gag reflex, and eventually started to smear my cum on it, as one of the others mentioned. That really helped with the mental aspects of it, and made me feel randier than if I had just slurped it out of my hand. (which I occasionally do now, since becoming accustomed to the experience) Somehow, it's much hotter (to me, anyway) of taking it straight from the cock than licking it up from somewhere else. (although, the thought of a creampie in my wife could be interesting...)

The one thing I've read in this thread that doesn't sound appealing is the saving-it-for-later idea. My experience is that cum is a nice creamy-white and viscous at first, but quickly breaks down and becomes watery. That doesn't sound like something that I would enjoy....