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  1. #1

    Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I am in my mid 50s and discovered cocksucking about ten years ago. I won't bore you with the story (never would have dreamed it would happen when I was 20, 30 or 40, but here I am ...) All I'd like to do is meet another guy my age, perhaps a bit younger but certainly older, with the same circumstances and desires, and set up something. You know, a decent, honest guy with whom I can share oral sex (preferably a 69) and we can cheat on our wives. Yeah, I know I sound just wonderful ... I am not at all interested in someone much younger, as I don't think it is very appropriate, or safe/sane, and just doesn't appeal to me.

    But, almost every older guy I have met has something frustratingly wrong with them! I have sucked 11 guys in the past decade, and well, 3 couldn't get it up, 2 ejaculated almost instantaneously, and most annoying, 3 had libido problems so that they immediately lost interest in sex (ie: sucking me) the second they came. That sucks, and not good. And these were all seemingly nice guys who did not mention these problems BEFORE we got together! NOT FUN! The only guy that could really perform was, alas, bordering on obese, and while I don't judge on body size, it wasn't really appealing (tho his penis certainly was.)

    Maybe I am too much of a nice guy, or the only safe and sane guys are also ones with erectile problems, but I have simply had it. The worst illusion or fraud is this "friends with benefits" charade. Gee, you think guys would notice the word "friend" as in it would be nice to be friendly. Hell, if someone sucks my cock and swallows my cum, I'm going to damn well sincerely say thanks! And I'd expect the same back.

    Finally, this is all exacerbated by the fact that we (almost every guy was married) are cheating on our wives and are, to one degree or another, afraid, feeling guilty, or both. I simple love having a cock in my mouth, but I also love my wife and having sex with her. Trust me, the cognitive dissonance is enough to send my blood pressure thru the roof, which is why I get the nerve only about once a year.

    Well, today was the last fiasco, I was verging on steaming mad and the guy sort of detected it, after he left me high and dry. I have sucked my last cock because between all of the dishonesty and fear of STDs and guilt ... it is simply not worth it. This will be my first and last post, thanks for reading my rant. It was honest.
    Last edited by unem1; Feb 3, 2017 at 2:06 AM.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Truly sorry for your bad luck. Not all old guys are bad I am 56 and everything working fine

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Same here, sorry, but as a 60 year old guy, my equipment and mentality are in good working order.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I'm 55 and every once in a while I need a little help from viagra, but not every time. If a guy sucks my cock and makes me cum I want to return the favor! I don't lose the desire, I want it even more. Sorry to hear about your bad experiences.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I understand your frustration but sincerely hope you don't give it up. It took me 6 years to find a guy who was honest about what he was looking for but now we are regulars and our experiences are very satisfying.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Do these guys know you expect the oral to be mutual? If getting reciprocation is a problem, why not have them suck you first?

    A lot of guys have "performance" issues (i.e., erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, etc.). Some all of the time, others only when stressed. Perhaps, as you stated, these guys don't usually have a problem, but are racked with guilt and can't perform when with another man.

    If you are meeting these guys through ads, perhaps you just need to be blunt and say you want mutual oral and you want the guy to be free of performance issues...

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Quote Originally Posted by unem1 View Post
    I am in my mid 50s and discovered cocksucking about ten years ago. I won't bore you with the story (never would have dreamed it would happen when I was 20, 30 or 40, but here I am ...) All I'd like to do is meet another guy my age, perhaps a bit younger but certainly older, with the same circumstances and desires, and set up something. You know, a decent, honest guy with whom I can share oral sex (preferably a 69) and we can cheat on our wives. Yeah, I know I sound just wonderful ... I am not at all interested in someone much younger, as I don't think it is very appropriate, or safe/sane, and just doesn't appeal to me.

    But, almost every older guy I have met has something frustratingly wrong with them! I have sucked 11 guys in the past decade, and well, 3 couldn't get it up, 2 ejaculated almost instantaneously, and most annoying, 3 had libido problems so that they immediately lost interest in sex (ie: sucking me) the second they came. That sucks, and not good. And these were all seemingly nice guys who did not mention these problems BEFORE we got together! NOT FUN! The only guy that could really perform was, alas, bordering on obese, and while I don't judge on body size, it wasn't really appealing (tho his penis certainly was.)

    Maybe I am too much of a nice guy, or the only safe and sane guys are also ones with erectile problems, but I have simply had it. The worst illusion or fraud is this "friends with benefits" charade. Gee, you think guys would notice the word "friend" as in it would be nice to be friendly. Hell, if someone sucks my cock and swallows my cum, I'm going to damn well sincerely say thanks! And I'd expect the same back.

    Finally, this is all exacerbated by the fact that we (almost every guy was married) are cheating on our wives and are, to one degree or another, afraid, feeling guilty, or both. I simple love having a cock in my mouth, but I also love my wife and having sex with her. Trust me, the cognitive dissonance is enough to send my blood pressure thru the roof, which is why I get the nerve only about once a year.

    Well, today was the last fiasco, I was verging on steaming mad and the guy sort of detected it, after he left me high and dry. I have sucked my last cock because between all of the dishonesty and fear of STDs and guilt ... it is simply not worth it. This will be my first and last post, thanks for reading my rant. It was honest.
    Hello, good bye.

    I am 62 and been bi for the last 10 years. A few bad experiences. I spend my time visiting with the other guy and if I don't get a good vibe, I don't go down on him to begin with.

    The selection process is the important process.

    Also, I suck with the plan to not receive reciprocation. Or I will allow someone to suck me without reciprocation. Or I will agree with the other guy to take turns edging and taking turns sucking cock. Some of the best experiences have been "all of them." It is in the mind of the person....and it is often by prior agreement as to what is going to happen and how.
    Last edited by larrywilldo; Feb 5, 2017 at 5:08 PM.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Did you join just to post that one rant?

    Look... you're targeting an age group that has these problems so you're going to have to expect guys having these problems. All the guys I have met have been upfront about any inability to get or maintain an erection. And even the ones that have had that problem I have enjoyed being with.

    If you want some hard, young stud who can have a perfect erection every time, that's the group you should pursue. But I think others will agree with me when I say that usually THAT group isn't looking for us 50-60-somethings.

    But whatever you want, you're just going to have to look harder.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    there is a chemical change to desire for men after ejaculation - it's science, not a libido problem.

    As for real problems, the intent of cheating on your wife, the one you claim to love and respect, and finding other guys that cheat on a significant other, is a problem. Having all that guilt and secrecy is obviously going to change the mood. Once ejaculation is done, if all you have is stress and fear of being caught, of course you going to look for the door.

    Go talk with you wife, come out to her. Be honest and perhaps you can find another honest guy that would be open to simply being with you some times, even after he cums.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    It's sad you've had the experiences you've had. I didn't start sucking until I was in my 50's, but wish I'd started much earlier. So far, I've not encountered the problems you have, but if i ever do, I don't think it will keep me from looking for a friend with benefits who wants to share a bisexual lifestyle with me.
    As for telling the wife..no way if she is not bi-friendly. It will only ultimately end in divorce because she will feel cheated, even though most of us go bi because of a lack of sex with the opposite sex mate. Why should one deny sexual exploration simply because the spouse deems it wrong? Personally, I am very glad I finally got the courage to try sucking. It is definitely NOT the bad thing people make it put to be, and had I followed their judgement, I would have missed out on some very pleasant sexual activity!

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I'm 60 and have been sucking cock about 16 months . I go to a local ABS about 2-3 times a month. I go during the week day and almost exclusively look for older married guys. While I love getting sucked I am focused on finding cocks to suck. I find these guys are very appreciative and when I get them off it makes me want to do more. I feel they are safe and neither of us are looking for a relationship. I'm actually surprised the size of some of these guys cocks which is a bonus.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I just turned 60 and everything still works. On weekdays I average jerking off once a day or every other day. On weekends ,I often jerk off 4 or 5 times a day if I'm not at some adult establishment sucking cock or with someone special. I have a huge porn collection that keeps my interest up. I can last as long as I want while getting my dick sucked, as long as he does'nt go to fast. I don't last a super long time when I fuck, but I've always been like that. Age has nothing to do with it. I've sucked a lot of younger guys who could'nt last worth a damn. I've been with guys older than me who were pure studs. I used to get with a guy on a regular basis at Annabelles in Winston Salem NC who was 63 at the time . He had a hard body and a rock hard cock. One Saturday I sucked his dick for at least 30 min. before he shot a huge load. Later he came back and wanted to fuck me, which he did. When I left later on, he was getting sucked again. I think a lot of it depends on genetics and taking care of yourself. We will all go down eventually, but some bring it on prematurely.
    Last edited by Tits, Ass and Dick; Mar 3, 2017 at 4:01 PM.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Quote Originally Posted by Christopher South View Post
    Did you join just to post that one rant?

    Look... you're targeting an age group that has these problems so you're going to have to expect guys having these problems. All the guys I have met have been upfront about any inability to get or maintain an erection. And even the ones that have had that problem I have enjoyed being with.

    If you want some hard, young stud who can have a perfect erection every time, that's the group you should pursue. But I think others will agree with me when I say that usually THAT group isn't looking for us 50-60-somethings.

    But whatever you want, you're just going to have to look harder.
    ditto Christopher. according to his profile, he just recently joined. i've been on here awhile, and if you've read any of the posts on here, mine and others, you'll notice that there are varying degrees of success with finding partners. if you're giving up sucking 'cold turkey', then you're better than I, because I've tried, and it always calls me back.

    good luck with whatever choice you make.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Same shit happens to me. Meet a guy, has a "hard enough" time getting hard, but once I get him off, he's finished.
    And even if I lose my drive to suck if I cum first, I still will suck him off because I know the frustration.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Don't know if you continue to monitor this thread so I may be talking to the wind but for what it's worth, I think you gave up too easy..and weren't trying hard enough to begin with.

    Dipping your toe in the water once a year is NOT likely to result in a source of compatible contacts. It takes a long time to get to know people...some more than others, and when those people are in search of something they can only share with another in private it's likely to have one of two effects. Either the forbidden fruit tastes all the sweeter for them...1920s speakeasys for example...or they are wracked with guilt and can never really enjoy themselves.

    Alternately, there are those who are very comfortable with their sexuality and secure in their marital..or NON marital...status, so for them, guilt is a non issue. Those people are your objective...and they DO exist. Keep searching!

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Most of the men I suck are over 50, and many older. I've never had those problems. Older men don't always have the biggest load, but they've always been hard and great to pleasure. I don't ask them to suck me, too, so I can't say about their libido. Experienced bi feeders are great. They appreciate a good cocksucker, and will develop and train someone with a passion for--they've been awesome for me

    It's all in the selection process. Take your time, be honest, and be enthusiastic. Don't expect what you might not get, either.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    Quote Originally Posted by whispering View Post
    Most of the men I suck are over 50, and many older. I've never had those problems. Older men don't always have the biggest load, but they've always been hard and great to pleasure. I don't ask them to suck me, too, so I can't say about their libido. Experienced bi feeders are great. They appreciate a good cocksucker, and will develop and train someone with a passion for--they've been awesome for me

    It's all in the selection process. Take your time, be honest, and be enthusiastic. Don't expect what you might not get, either.

    great advice.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I'm 68 now and have been actively bi since my early 50's. I got divorced and was single for about 7 years before finding the perfect woman. It seems like the vast majority of older men having bi sex are married. I can understand the OP's frustration--sex with married men is definitely a mixed bag. And expecting it to be equal is going to be disappointing at least half the time. Everything works with my "apparatus" but I take some effort to cum so a lot of the time, I just let the other guy go after I've sucked him off. Fortunately, I really enjoy the act of bringing my partner to the point of ejaculating in my mouth so it's still something i enjoy. Having a hot 69 where we both bring each other off at the same time has only happened a few times in my whole experience.

    Like with any sex, it gets better and you learn how to pleasure each other the more you're with them. Unfortunately, this runs contradictory to having sex on the down low with married men as most sessions are one time only. I'm afraid i don't have an answer for the OP's problems. Sometimes you just have to accept the way it is.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I'm 62 can get and maintain an erection and still love to suck if I came first. But have had guy's that after them cum they are done period.

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    Re: Mature men suck, and not the good way

    I am an older guy that knows everyone that gets older has a drop in certain chemicals in their body that make them rock hard.
    That being said, I have done some research and found supplements of the chemicals that we get low on as we age. I am not a
    Doctor.
    Do a little research as I have and buy from a supplement manufacturer that is reputable. Not all supplements are equal. Some
    work and others do not. I have experimented and found a few supplements that work for me. I do not need them luckily but
    they do make me harder when I take them. I think they do make me cum bigger but it is hard to tell as I always cum big.
    The research does not take long but read what herbs dilate blood vessels. You need more blood flow to get blood vessels to
    fill up Look up L-arginine, DHEA. REMEMBER TO TAKE SUPPLEMENTS AS DIRECTED. MORE IS NOT BETTER AND CAN CAUSE
    HEALTH ISSUES IF YOU TAKE MORE THAN DIRECTED. ALWAYS CHECK WITH YOUR DOCTOR FIRST BEFORE TAKING ANY
    SUPPLEMENTS ESPECIALLY IF YOU TAKE ANY PHARMACEUTICAL DRUGS. MANY PHARMACEUTICAL DRUGS CAN CAUSE
    IMPOTENCE AND SOME CAN BE CHANGED FOR ANOTHER BRAND WITH FEWER SIDE AFFECTS IN SOME CASES. Research
    nature grown herbs and other supplements for health issues that do not have the side affects of prescription drugs but
    accomplish the same results. Learn to chelate chemicals from the body as they cause a host of problems. Example: A
    store bought tomato has over 55 different chemicals on it and in it that does not wash off. All liquid that touches your
    skin gets absorbed into the body to some extent which will accumulate. Eat organic food! Many people are low in vitamins
    and minerals in the body due to modern farming practices. Taking a multivitamin with minerals helps only a little as when
    taken that way, some will cancel others out when taken together. It is best to take 3 regiments of vitamins and minerals 3
    times a day to get the best benefit of all the body needs. Your Doctor is ignorant about this as he is only given 1 day in class
    on nutrition. There are cures for many types of disease you can find online that your Dr. knows nothing about. Vitamin and
    mineral levels when low can cause a host of disease. The RDA in the U.S. is too low for most vitamins and minerals. Research,
    Research, Research!!! It is not that difficult but does take time. Once again, I am not a Dr. but have done research from all
    over the planet about natural cures for disease and cures that science has found but mainstream medicine does not use.
    Hope this helps someone.

 

 

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