Originally Posted by
Realist
Daviecurous has the best advice I've seen, yet.
Most of my companions have been folks I met through friends, through sites like this, or even at public events. Common interests lead to visiting, sharing ideas/ideals, then slowly learning more about each other and ourselves. I've developed both platonic and emotional relationships that lead to sexual involvement with inexperienced male partners, that way.
More than one person, who had never even thought of being in a same gender relationship before, developed into rewarding partnerships . One inexperienced guy became my exclusive FWB for over 10 years! Relationships with various others, with varying experiences, have lasted years, too. All of these connections were developed slowly, with vetting going on by both of us. By the time intimacy began, we were pretty sure of ourselves and happy with our decisions to come together.
Granted, the way I have usually developed relationships, has generally taken more time, but the resulting connections were the most rewarding and long lasting.
I've met and have developed relationships with one bisexual lady, who I met here back in 2008. We are still lovers. I also met a super nice guy on Silverdaddies. We've been FWBs for over a year and half.
I've met a few wonderful members, here, but haven't been intimate with them......... but I consider them friends.
As Daviecurious said, profiles and reading comments from members, can tell you a lot about a person. To me, it makes sense to get to know a person by writing, first. I wouldn't attempt a meeting before I felt I knew a little about a person's aspirations, interests, and goals.
I've always been interested in relationships, so I'm not sure how one would go about spontaneous sexual liaisons with strangers. One-time 'fuck and run' situations are the last thing that would enter my mind.
Rewarding connections, usually take effort to develop. At least, that's my experience.
Good luck!
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