Does your sexuality change every so often?

**BearLover** · Jan 23, 2016, 6:10 AM

A few years ago I used to think mostly of women, and had a preference for them over men, but I think that reaching the age of 18 (4 years ago) I am now more on the gay side, I remember when I was young that I would be attracted mostly to women, but my sexuality has gone from mostly straight to mostly gay, these days i'm only really interested in cock, but I do now and then think about women, do you have a similar experience?

Just wondering as I might turn mostly straight again. In fact from a young age my sexuality has shifted from liking women my own age or a little bit older, to start liking women 50+, I would say that I can find younger women attractive now and then, but not like I used to (13 years old), maybe once you grow up you can explore more, then find out what you really want. I also find that age/sex doesn't really matter as there are hot and not so hot people in every age/sex, it depends on the person, to say "you like women" to me seems very vague and unexplored.

**sysper** · Jan 23, 2016, 11:55 AM

maybe it changes, maybe u just get a better idea overtime of who u really are. i can't answer that even for myself all i can recommend is keep exploring this & be open to experiances with good people who will be supportive in ur journey. u will probably never know the answer completely but i will keep getting a better idea of ur feelings.

**olmizzou42** · Jan 23, 2016, 12:25 PM

That's why it's called bisexuality.

**tenni** · Jan 23, 2016, 1:39 PM

Hey Bear
As olmizzou42 states bisexuality is not monoseuxality (hetero or gay but only one). Bisexuality refers to being attracted (sexually and or emotionally) to both men and women. The attraction is not a constant quantity or even quality.

The degree to how intense your attraction is to one gender or the other is changing. Many bisexuals refer to how intense their attraction is as 'FLUID". I have read some young bisexual males who are in the early stages of acknowledging state that in the morning they can be all hot for lots of women that they see and no attraction to men at all. By noon, the guy switched to all men and no attraction to women at all. That can be very puzzling for the bisexual.

The fluidiness can change at different times as to how long or even equally attracted to both. It can be that a bisexual sees themself as a monosexual for years. All of a sudden or slowly they swing to the gender that they were not attracted to for years. This can be from thinking that you are gay all of your life to beginning to be attracted to the opposite gender. It seems more common for a person to see themselves as heterosexual and then swing to the same gender.

Try to relax and not get stressed when these things happen to you. Accept that you are attracted to both but it can vary how much.

**SilkyHoseLover** · Jan 23, 2016, 2:42 PM

For the first 55+ years of my life, I considered myself heterosexual. Was there a fleeting moment during that time that I thought about what it would be like to experiment with another guy? Probably not, in that exact context. But I can say that I'd briefly wondered what it would be like to suck a cock or have something inserted in my ass. I eventually did experiment on a very few occasions with anal insertions. Although the concept was a turn-on for me, those brief experiences were not all that pleasurable.

Several years ago, however, I found myself actively wanting to experiment with a man, which led to some touching, mutual masturbation, being jerked-off and tentative attempts at sucking and being sucked. The first couple of times, it was very brief. After my first somewhat prolonged adventure with a cock in my mouth, I was hooked. I now think about sucking cock everyday, even though my marital situation doesn't permit me to follow through. I also yearn to be fucked in the ass, both by my wife with a dildo, and by another man with his cock.

I am bisexual, which means to me: I am attracted to women on both sexual and emotional levels, and to men on a sexual basis. I don't see this changing significantly in the future. It was a slow process getting here, and I like being this way. Only wish that I could freely indulge in M-M play.

**Oztrich** · Jan 23, 2016, 3:20 PM

Not for me. I have been bisexual my whole life. Would not admit it for a long time, but it's a fact.

**Bluehill** · Jan 23, 2016, 7:08 PM

It happens!

My my first sexual experiences were strictly m 2 m, but then I was completely straight and got married. When my marriage started failing I played around with guys in cruising spots and in toilets! I then (whilst still married) had a long affair with a Nigerian lady. Eventually my marriage ended (or was put out of its misery) and my affair fizzled out.

Between marriages i had had partners of both sexes. My wife lost interest in sex a few years ago and I started going to gay bathhouses. Rather unexpectedly I suddenly bumped into by ex - the Nigerian lady and then we were fucking nearly every lunchtime(she lived close to my work). Since then I've moved to another part of the country. I love my wife, but sex is infrequent and so I wank off to porn and go to gay saunas in search of cock!

**borntosuckcock** · Jan 24, 2016, 4:46 PM

Mine does, sometimes I have no interest at all. Sometimes I only want to suck cock and other times I'm only interested in eating pussy. Periods can last a couple of months at a time.

**jimisbi** · Jan 24, 2016, 7:00 PM

I denied my sexuality for a long time, but not anymore. I am a completely submissive bottom that loves to suck cock and get fucked. I still like sex with women, but I'd much rather have cock.

**void()** · Jan 26, 2016, 3:51 AM

My sexuality, bisexual, does not change often. My desires, sexual and
emotional, do change from time to time. Sometimes I desire sexual and
emotional needs met by a man, others by a woman. Still yet there are
times I split the sexual and emotional.

Presently, I feel and think; "Yes, I'm bisexual. So what?" I am also a
bit of a homesteader, bit of a writer, bit of a programmer, bit of a
mechanic. So what? I mean this in a sense that I am comfortable in being
myself, not being confrontational or argumentative.

**LennyC** · Jan 30, 2016, 11:42 AM

I am 80% or 90% into in women but every once and a while I like fucking guys and transsexuals My sexuality usually stayes the same

**NjbiGuy01** · Jan 30, 2016, 1:00 PM

Originally Posted by olmizzou42

That's why it's called bisexuality.

^^^ What he said ^^^

LOL. My mood changes. In a perfect world I would enjoy couple play every day....love to fuck men and women, love to get fucked by a man or a strap-on, love to give and get oral from both (especially at the same time)...it's all good. That being said every now and again, I enjoy sex m/f with the wife and if the mood strikes, I do like to play with a man solo. Can't really say what motivates what, but it's all good. While I love being married, love my kids, love my life, if things were different I could find myself living with a guy too....

That's why they call it bisexuality....

**elian** · Jan 30, 2016, 10:28 PM

Yeah, I think it has to do with the hormones..there are some times I feel submissive and some times I don't. That used to be the most frustrating thing about being bisexual when I was still trying to define myself as either straight or gay. There were times I would love sausage, be all about the sausage - almost convince myself that I was gay - and then I would see a woman enjoying herself on porn and be just as aroused. I stopped trying to be one -or- the other and accepted that I am both. In addition to that there are times that I feel like a man, other times I feel that I would like to be appreciated the way a man loves his wife and yet other times when I still feel like a little boy who just wants to love people. I hope it's not wrong to still want to see the world through the eyes of a child; I have to be optimistic in the face of how cynical and polarized the media portrays this world to be. I stopped thinking that every man has to always be a knight in shining armor - even knights have to take the armor off every once in a while and there are often scars underneath. Regardless of how you feel on the inside each of us is just as worthy of love and respect as any other part of creation.. The biggest difference seems to be that men have an easier time writing their name in the snow. We all face trials and tribulations, we are still loved very much indeed, even beyond what our physical bodies can show. There are some religions and philosophies that believe the ultimate goal is to be able to combine both the creative and nurturing aspects of ourselves into one healthy, whole being.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIYTraZMMio

**sysper** · Jan 30, 2016, 10:42 PM

i think u describe alot how i feel. sometimes i just wanna lay there & get gangbanged by a football team, other times i wanna turn a girl into niagara falls down there, other times i just wanna hold her hand. it would be interesting to know what i would be like with a gf/wife. i don't plan on having an open relationship. not judging anyone else who does just not for me. i would accept if she was just not available to me sexually at times. but hopefully we would be into each other enough our emotional closeness would tend to make us work sexually more times.

**elian** · Jan 30, 2016, 10:50 PM

I used to have the locker room oral fantasy when I was growing up as a very horny teenager, thank God I learned to masturbate instead. If I did anything with a group I still feel like it would have to be with people who know me, people I trust a lot. I have a strong desire to want to believe that sex means more than just physical lust.

Originally Posted by sysper

i think u describe alot how i feel. sometimes i just wanna lay there & get gangbanged by a football team, other times i wanna turn a girl into niagara falls down there, other times i just wanna hold her hand. it would be interesting to know what i would be like with a gf/wife. i don't plan on having an open relationship. not judging anyone else who does just not for me. i would accept if she was just not available to me sexually at times. but hopefully we would be into each other enough our emotional closeness would tend to make us work sexually more times.

**sysper** · Jan 30, 2016, 11:14 PM

trust is a big thing for me sexually too. ur leaving urself vulnerable when having sex. i guess that's the point. u don't do that with strangers who might be trying to hurt u or just not care. makes me rethink the fantasy of group sex. sure it sounds so hot but is it impossible? not in the sense if it can be done at all but it lives up to the pleasure that's in the fantasy.

**void()** · Feb 2, 2016, 2:46 PM

Originally Posted by sysper

trust is a big thing for me sexually too. ur leaving urself vulnerable when having sex. i guess that's the point. u don't do that with strangers who might be trying to hurt u or just not care. makes me rethink the fantasy of group sex. sure it sounds so hot but is it impossible? not in the sense if it can be done at all but it lives up to the pleasure that's in the fantasy.

I don't think it is improbable. Notice I didn't use your word impossible. To me impossibility is an adjective. That means someone else has done it, and now describes it as a degree of difficulty. "Yep, that's impossible."

Group sex could be done with a group who all consent, all desire being vulnerable, open. I say could. Yes, there may be adversity in finding such a group. That does not infer it could not happen. Try saying yes a little more often.

No is what those who are scared say. * chuckles *

Don't worry so much about taking your time. It took elian nearly two years to fess up to himself, to me, that he cared for me. We kind of played cat and mouse on this site during that time. Never could figure out which was which. *grins & chuckles* When you do you find the right person/people you'll know instinctively, trust that.